加载中…两篇有哲理小故事
(2024-12-12 19:48:54)
心脏定律
最终，我明白可以将自己的信仰总结为一点，即所谓的“心脏定律”。
这个短语是医学界欧内斯特•亨利•斯塔林教授的一项伟大发现，是证明心脏跳动在心肌作用下加快和减弱的精确方法;同时，他还发现，心脏进行的血液和体液相互渗透，对生命的存活而言是极其重要。人与人之间需要有重要的情感双向交流，这是我的人生观。
如果没有这种交流，那么一个人的灵魂及与他人的关系就会死气沉沉，危机重重。依赖理智会使人变得机械而空虚，正如我们发现的缺乏母爱的婴儿，即使在专业的技术护理下，也无法茁壮成长。
我认为，心脏定律的涵义就是，如果我的感情成熟到可以支配自己的动机和行为，那就能达到身心健康的最佳状态，也就可以在生活中与他人建立最具建设性的关系。在与头脑适当地协商后，我所表达出的真正心声便是我作为人所能做出的最绝妙、最成熟的判断。我坚信，人是一个不可分割的整体，是由心灵、精神、肉体构成的一个整体，但唯有心灵之声才是充分代表人类思想的真实声音。
在我看来，心脏定律的作用方式充满了启发性与象征性。我们知道，为证明我们对其他虚弱、不幸之人的友善，我们需要给他们输血。我们了解，心脏和动脉僵硬且毫无反应时，就会导致猝死。我们明白，当心脏随着他人的困难、痛苦、不幸与需求而跳动时
我们就能领略到无此善心者所无从知晓的天籁之音;面对美丽、高贵、勇敢、奉献、关爱、温暖、孩子或夕阳时，心跳就会加快，并因此获得了生活的激情。那是他们的心灵之歌。是他人所不得而知的事物。我们都知道，人若是抑制心灵本能的冲动，就很可能会因内心情感的压抑，而导致冠心病的突发，甚至造成残废。
我确信，心脏定律的第一条便是心跳，是爱。没有了心跳，不再去爱，精神无疑就会迅速衰竭。我们当中有太多的人总是以自我为中心，不能或不愿意去爱。我坚信，心脏定律的第二条是付出、宽恕和牺牲。心脏是身体每一个微小细胞原的能量供给中心，而整个身体中，最强韧的部分便是心肌。
我的人道主义生活哲学正是基于这些我所知道并相信的知识。它们为我所用。也正因为有它，我才感觉自己能更接近现实，昂首面对生活。我的心更接近永恒的现实，虽然我完全明白，不能将虚伪的粗俗情感当成心灵的特质，而且心灵不成熟便易于导致严重的错误。我相信，拥有良好的教育及成熟的心灵，不仅是人类最为高贵的品质，也是世界的伟大希望。
At long last I have come to a rather simple point as
to what I believe. I believe in what I choose to call “The Law of
the Heart”.
In the medical world this phrase, The Law of the
Heart, means the great discovery by Professor Ernest Henry Starling
of the precise method by which the heart accelerates and retards
itself through the heart muscle; also the manner in which it
accomplishes the vital twoway exchange of fluids between the
bloodstream and the body tissues.
In my view of life there is also supremely needful a
vital twoway exchange of heart qualities between human beings.
Without it the human spirit and relationship to other spirits is
lifeless and dangerous. Dependence on head qualities is mechanical
and empty, just as we have discovered that babies do not thrive,
even with technically expert nursing care, without mother
love.
The Law of the Heart, in my belief, then, means that I
can achieve greatest physical and mental health, and have the most
constructive relations with life and people, if my matured
emotional self dominates my motives and actions. When, after due
consultation with my head, the true heart speaks, it is the finest
and most mellowed judgment that I, human creature, am capable of.
Man is indivisible, I believe; he is a whole; mind, spirit,
body—but with only one real, fully representative voice—the voice
of the heart.
There is, in my belief, very suggestive symbolism in
the means by which the Law of the Heart operates. We know that man
needs to give others weaker, less fortunate, a transfusion of his
blood as proof of fellowship. We know that hearts and arteries
which are hard and unresponsive can bring the retribution of sudden
death. We know that hearts which beat in unison with the problems,
pains, miseries and needs of others know celestial music which can
never be known to those who do not.
We know that hearts capable of quickened pulse at the
sight of beauty and nobility, courage and sacrifice, love and
tenderness, a child or a sunset, achieve intensities of living—a
song in their hearts—unknown to others. We know that those who
choke off the heart’s native impulses will likely bring on a
coronary thrombosis of obstructed emotion which can
cripple.
The first Law of the Heart, I feel sure, is to
pulsate, to love. To fail to pulsate and love is swift and certain
spiritual death. There are far, far too many of us who seem
obsessed with self, unable or unwilling to love. The second Law of
the Heart, I believe, is to give, and forgive, to sacrifice. The
heart is the great supplier and giver to every remote atom in the
body. The heart muscle is the strongest in the whole
body.
These things I know and believe, and they provide me
with the foundation of what I call my humanistic philosophy of
life. It works for me. I feel close to the earth with it. Yet face
uplifted. The heart is closer to everlasting reality, although I am
fully aware that I must not let raw emotion masquerade as a heart
quality, and that the immature heart can make serious errors. The
educated, matured heart is, to my belief, not only the noblest
thing in man but also the great hope of the world.
放弃放弃你的人
我们常常渴望获得他人的赞同与认可，这件事很有趣。不断纠缠拒绝我们的人是种不健康的模式，因为我们将自己的吸引力直接与他们的认可挂钩，所以我们一直试图成为更好的自己，或为他们做得更多来获得赞同，这同样也会改善自我感觉，就好像是他们的认可让我们变得足够好。走出这种模式的最佳方式就是审视为什么我们坚定地认为自己需要他们的认可。难道他们决定了我们的价值?难道只有一直被告知自己不够完美才能证明自己?如果这样，那就是择友失误。
It is fascinating how often we crave the
acceptance and approval of those who won't accept us. It is an
unhealthy pattern to continually pursue people who reject us. We do
this because we see our lovability as directly related to their
approval so we keep trying to be "better" or "do more." We do this
so we can approve of ourselves through another person's approval of
us, as if their approval finally makes us good enough. The
healthiest way out of this pattern is to look at why we deeply
believe we need the acceptance of those people. Do they determine
our worth? Should we have to prove ourselves all the time only to
hear we are not measuring up? If so, we are not picking the right
people to have relationships with.
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