【人到中年：逼出来的坚强，忍出来的涵养】诗韵咏合

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当你奋斗在征程，周围都是靠你人。

但是当你需要是，身后空空无一人。

当人步入中年后，人生不能再冲动。

不是纵马任奔驰，而是负重登山岭。

When you struggle on the journey, people around you depend on you.

But when you need to be, there's no one behind you.

When people enter middle age, life can no longer be impulsive.

 

Not to run a horse, but to carry a load up the mountains.

你在工作岗位上，也会偶尔想躺平。

但又害怕立马被，年轻人们取代你。

你在日常生活里，上有父母下子女。

整个家庭经不起，一场风波数场雨。

When you're at work, sometimes you want to lie down.

But you're afraid of being replaced by someone younger.

You have parents and children in your daily life.

 

The whole family can not withstand a storm several rain.

外人看你外表时，风光无限好惬意。

从从容容又随和，其实只有自己知：

所有表面的坚强，都是处境逼出的。

还有所谓的涵养，都是忍奈出来的。

When outsiders look at your appearance, the scenery is very pleasant.

Being easy-going and easy-going, in fact, only you know:

All the surface of the strong, is forced out of the situation.

And the so-called self-restraint, are out of patience.

 

走过去的是历史，逼出来的是坚强。

曾有心理学表明，人在中年就这样。

三十五至四十五，责任重大担肩上。

在中年人字典里，不许脆弱占地方。

Go past is history, forced out is strong.

Psychology has shown that this is how people behave in middle age.

Thirty-five to forty-five, the responsibility is heavy.

 

In the dictionary of the middle-aged, there is no room for vulnerability.

人生一道门两边，别有风貌各秋千。

一边失意疲惫的，中年自我志消减。

一边坚不可摧的，铠甲勇士气宇轩。

世间人人皆如此，坚强气涙咫尺间。

Life on both sides of a door, there are different styles each swing.

Frustrated and tired on the one hand, middle-aged self-ambition reduction.

On the side of an indestructible, armored warrior.

Everyone in the world is so, strong gas 涙 close

夏梦狂诗曲里说：人就这样奈若何？

年纪越大越奔波，人生包袱重负着。

柴米油盐的艰难、生活风雨的折磨。

让你身心俱疲惫，欢波乐少忧愁多。

Summer dream crazy poem said: people so nai how?

The older you get, the more you rush about.

The hardship of fuel, rice, oil and salt, the torture of life wind and rain.

It makes you so tired, it makes you so sad

但是哪怕你心里，再多酸楚几多许。

只能装作没问题，一切都是挺好的。

万般无奈只得忍，强颜作欢呈笑意。

逼出来的是坚强，展现出来是气质。

But even if your heart, how much more sour.

Just pretend like it's okay. Everything's fine.

All helpless had to endure, forced to be happy and smile.

Forced out is strong, show is temperament.

能忍则忍毅然忍，忍出涵养立世间。

作家光明曾经说，自己到了不惑年。

脾气越来越好了，越来越高修养好。

借用夫人的话说，头发都变温柔了。

Forbearance is forbearance, forbearance out of the world.

The writer Guangming once said that he had reached the year of no doubt.

He's getting better and better. He's getting better and better.

To borrow her ladyship's phrase, her hair has softened.

但是其实不简单，涵养变好只表面。

心境为之改变了，才是实质的体现。

人在年轻的时候，心浮气盛尽皆然？

随着年岁的渐长，角色终会在变迁。

But in fact, it is not simple, self-cultivation becomes better only on the surface.

The state of mind has changed, and that is the embodiment of the substance.

You know, when you're young, you have all the swagger, right?

As the years go on, the roles will change.

筱彩虹有一朋友，年轻时候是刺头。

他受委屈一点点，立马回怼情不留。

对他有一丝冒犯，立马呛声大声吼。

然而人到中年他，翻天覆地变化大。

Xiao Rainbow has a friend who was a thorn when he was young.

He gets hurt a little bit, and he fights back.

At the slightest offense, yell at him.

 

However, when he reached middle age, he changed a lot.

有次他从外地回，刚下高铁拦车归。

车门都还没打开，一个壮汉窜出来。

准备抢先上车走，朋友见状怒火燃。

他没好气问对方：如此无礼为哪般？

Once he came back from another place, just got off the high-speed train.

Before the car door opened, a big man jumped out.

Ready to get in the car first, the friend saw the anger.

 

He asked angrily: Why so rude?

若是你真有急事，让你先走无所谓。

这样抢车啥意思？如此行为可不对。

对方却像无赖般，凶神恶煞地回答：

我今就要坐这车，你想如何看着办。

If you're really in a hurry, I don't mind letting you go.

What's that supposed to mean? That's not right.

The other, like a scoundrel, answered ferociously:

 

I'm taking this car today. Do whatever you want.

就有那么一瞬间，朋友想要再争辩。

但是几秒钟之后，他却毅然到一边。

默默拉着行李箱，方才的事视等闲。

然后拦下一辆车，尽快回家大团圆。

For a moment, the friend wants to argue again.

But after a few seconds, he stepped aside.

Silently pulling the suitcase, the only thing to do.

Then flag down a car and get home as soon as you can.

 

后来朋友把这事，告诉朋友筱彩虹。

筱彩虹开玩笑说：你平时是多英雄？

这不是你风格啊，怎么这次如此怂？

朋友意味深长说：这是涵养不是怂。

Later friends to this matter, tell friends Xiao rainbow.

Xiao Rainbow joked: How many heroes are you usually?

That's not your style. Why are you so lame this time?

 

Friends meaningful said: this is self-restraint is not a coward.

其实办法有很多，比如报警尚亦可。

或跟对方硬着来，但突然想不干了。

因为出差好几天，女儿打了电话来。

问我啥时候回去，故而决不能懈怠。

In fact, there are many ways, such as the police can also.

Or you're trying to get to him, but suddenly you want to quit.

Because of a business trip for several days, my daughter called.

Ask me when I'm going back, so I can't slack off.

 

如果为了这小事，就跟别人闹起来。

浪费不止是口舌，还会是我的时间。

还不如忍忍算了，早点回家陪孩子。

是啊这就是涵养，都是忍出来的啊。

If it's about this little thing, get into a fight with someone.

Wasting not only words, but also my time.

Might as well suck it up and go home to the kids.

 

Yeah, that's what it's all about. It's all about patience.

你会渐渐的发现，再多对错又怎样。

它们实际都不及，家人陪伴最理想。

你也渐渐会明白，那些无谓的吵闹。

都抵不上回到家，看到亲人的微笑。

You will gradually discover, no matter how many right and wrong.

None of them are as practical as family companionship.

You will gradually understand, those unnecessary noise.

 

Not worth coming home and seeing the smiles of your loved ones.

所以黄小山曾在，超级演说家里说：

人到中年能忍耐，是最基本的修养。

吃一点亏算什么，受点委屈又怎样？

丢点面子受点气，又有什么关系呢？

平安无虞地回家，那时多么的快意。

To be patient in middle age is the most basic cultivation.

What's a little loss? What's a little grievance?

What does it matter if you lose a little face and take a little anger?

Safe and secure home, then how happy.

 

不让幼小的孩子，孤苦无依等待你。

不让年老父母亲，为你担心而着急。

那些无关紧要事，抛于脑后随它去。

忍让不是人懦弱，中年智慧与定力。

Don't let little children wait for you, all alone.

Don't let your old parents worry about you.

The things that don't matter, forget about it.

Forbearance is not cowardice, middle-aged wisdom and perseverance.

忍耐苦熬终有头，熬出来的是幸福。

人生好比粥一锅，煎熬滚煮耐琢磨。

宜疾宜徐看火候，酸甜苦辣自张罗。

中年生活亦如此，就像一锅煮沸粥。

Patience and hard to finally have a head, boil out is happiness.

Life is like a pot of porridge, suffering and boiling.

It is appropriate to look at the heat, sour, sweet, bitter and spicy.

 

The same is true of middle age, just like a pot of porridge.

你要经历大火烧，也要忍受小火熬。

有时火焰常常会，烫得龇牙又咧嘴。

但是只要熬一熬，你就能够享受到。

世间醇厚的滋味，它比什么都要好。

You have to go through the fire, you have to endure the small fire.

Sometimes the fire would be so hot that it bared its teeth and grinned.

But as long as you endure it, you can enjoy it.

The mellow taste of the world, it is better than anything.

 

我有一个好朋友，上班联网公司里。

去年公司大裁员，恰是被裁那一批。

然而就在失业前，他的妻子刚怀孕。

为了孩子的未来，刚刚贷款买房子。

I have a good friend who works in an Internet company.

Last year, the company laid off a lot of people.

But just before he lost his job, his wife got pregnant.

I just took out a loan to buy a house for my kids' future.

每月房贷一万多，没钱还贷奈若何。

巨大生活压力下，焦虑失眠头发落。

整个人在一瞬间，都像老了几岁多。

好在身边的亲人，一直默默支持着。

Monthly mortgage more than 10,000, no money to repay the loan Nai how.

Great life pressure, anxiety insomnia hair fall.

The whole person in an instant, like a few years older.

Fortunately, the relatives around him have been silently supporting.

 

朋友重新振作起，白天拼命找工作。

晚上回家睡不着，喝点小酒强睡着。

半夜醒了想起来，哭一阵累又睡着。

在失业的半年里，新的技能学许多。

The friend picked himself up again and desperately looked for work during the day.

I go home at night, I can't sleep, I drink a little wine.

I woke up in the middle of the night, cried and fell asleep.

 

In the six months I was unemployed, I learned a lot of new skills.

以前每到周末时，他总爱出去钓鱼。

现在鱼也不钓了，抓紧时间忙学习。

终在年初的时候，进入五百强企业。

薪资翻了两三倍，生活出现新转机。

He used to go fishing on weekends.

Now I don't fish anymore, so I'm busy studying.

Finally, at the beginning of the year, it entered the top 500 enterprises.

 

 

Salary tripled, life took a new turn.

他说日子挺难过，人生多少没奈何。

想到老婆和孩子，不能沉沦和堕落。

生活总会有希望，忍耐之中找感觉。

生活这场大难题，没啥精妙的解说。

He said that life was hard, that life was helpless.

Think of the wife and children, can not sink and degenerate.

There is always hope in life, find the feeling in patience.

 

There are no clever explanations for life's biggest problems.

你只要在低谷中，再撑一撑历辛艰。

绝望里再熬一熬，幸福就会现眼前。

岛上书店有句话，说到人生度中年。

每个人的生命中，都有艰难的一年。

You just have to make it through the bad times.

Despair to endure, happiness will be present.

There's a saying in the island bookstore about reaching middle age.

In everyone's life, there is a difficult year.

等你一旦迈过去，人生就会变高远。

你的每一份坚持，你的每一分努力。

都会成就日后的，幸福满足的根基。

苦难只要熬过去，就会觉在人间值。

Once you step past, life will become higher.

Every part of your persistence, every part of your effort.

Will be the foundation of future happiness and contentment.

Suffering as long as the past, will feel worth in the world.

 

 

之前网上曾经有，两组很火的对白：

“中年人你怎么把，生活弄得一团糟？”

“我的一切都来自，正常发挥便是了。”

‘’那你究竟为什么，这的日子受得了？”

There were two popular lines of dialogue on the Internet:

"How do you make such a mess of life in middle age?"

"Everything I have comes from playing normally."

"Then why on earth can you bear this life?"

‘’这一切的这一切，都是生活所逼的。‘’

‘’你心里的这委屈，一般都会跟谁说？“

“委屈就让它委屈，我对谁都不肖说。”

“那如果很难过呢？你又将会怎么做”

"All this, all this, is forced by life. ' '

"Who do you usually tell about this grievance in your heart? "

"Let the grievance be grievance, I am not ashamed to say to anyone."

"What if it's sad? What are you going to do?"

 

“忍着忍着强忍着。一刻也不能退缩。”

人到中年也许你，经历无数的坎坷。

几杯冷水从头淋，无数瞬间感委屈。

那些云淡风轻是，岁月静好皆戏说。

"Endure endure endure endure. We cannot retreat for a moment."

When you reach middle age, you may experience countless ups and downs.

A few cups of cold water from the head, countless moments feel wronged

 

Those clouds are light, years quiet good all play.

都不过是表面象，其实你早心俱疲。

但是即便再艰难，也请你切莫退缩。

因为一旦软下来，生活只会多蹉跎。

变本加厉欺负你，使你更感没奈何。

It's just a facade, but you're exhausted.

But even if it is difficult, please don't back down.

Because when you're soft, life just gets harder.

 

To bully you even more, to make you feel helpless.

永远必须要记住，遇事一定要忍着。

只要坚决撑下来，一切都会过去的。

点个赞吧点个赞，敢于忍耐英雄魄。

扛过眼前的艰难，享受圆满和喜乐。

You always have to remember that you have to bear it.

Just hang in there, and everything will pass.

Click on the thumbs-up. Click on the thumbs-up.

Carry through the current difficulties, enjoy the fullness and joy.

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