When asked to point out one or two things that are most important to themselves, many put friends ahead of homes,     jobs,clothes and cars.

           当许多人被要求对他们自己提出一件或两件最重要的事情时，他们往往会把朋友放在家庭、工作、衣服和车子之前。

           A true friendship carries a long history of experience

that determines who we are and keeps us connected. It is a

treasure we should protect.Unfortunately, the better friends

you are, the more probably you'll have disagreements. And

the result can be what you don't want-----an end to the

relationship.

          一份真正的友谊 带来一段很长的经历，它决定我们是谁且保持我们之间的联系。它是我们应该保护的一个珍贵的东西。不幸的是，你们越是好朋友，你们就越有可能在意见上达不到一致。这样，就会导致你们都不想要的结果-----最后终止了你们之间的朋友关系。

         The good news is that most troubled friendships can be

mended. First,don't let your pride get in your way. Most of us

can forgive each other when differences are brought out in the

open.Second, apologize when you're wrong-----even if you've

been wronged.Over the course of a friendship,even the best

people make mistakes. Sometimes, it may be best if the

wronged person take the lead and apologizes. When you

apologize, give your friend a chance to admit that he has been

wrong. Third, see things from your friends point of view.And

finally, accept that friendship changes as our needs and

lifestyles change. Making friends can sometimes seem easy.

The hard part is keeping the connections strong during the

natural  ups and downs that have an effect on all relationships.

My suggestion: Consider  friendship an honor and a gift, and

worth an effort to treasure  and nurture（培养）.

          这儿有个好消息：就是处于最困境中的友谊能够被修补改善。第一，不要骄傲自大，朋友间要敞开心扉。当我们之间的分歧被公开存在时，我们中大多数人能相互原谅。第二，当你犯错时-----即使错在对方，要勇于向对方道歉。在友谊的整个过程中，即使最优秀的人也会犯错。有时，如果犯错的对方主动提出道歉，它可能是最好的。当你道歉时，给你的朋友一个机会去承认他确实已经犯错了。第三，从你的朋友的立场去看待事物。最后，懂得友谊会随着我们的需要和生活方式的变化而发生变化。交朋友有时好像是容易的。最难的就是在所有的各种自然的上下关系的影响中去保持最坚强的联系。我的建议是：要认真考虑友谊是一份荣誉和礼物，应该值得去努力珍惜和培养。

         本文主要论述了如何处理在友谊中出现的矛盾问题：第一，不要骄傲自大，朋友间要敞开心扉；第二，要勇于自责，即使错在对方；第三，多替朋友着想；最后，懂得友谊会随着我们的需要和生活方式的变化而发生变化。