有人发纸条给我或我在圈子里看到帖子问交往中的男人在美国算不算有钱，自己嫁过来能过上好日子吗？
    因为我不在美国税务局工作，所以抱歉，无法给你答案。如果真想弄清楚交往中的男人有多少钱，要不直接问他，要不雇私家侦探。只要没有相关人在税务局工作， 谁都无法真正知道别人到底有多少钱。当然你可以旁敲侧击，可以去分析，去推理，也许有些被你蒙到了，有些你很有可能会失手。像巴菲特老人家，从外在，他根 本不是有钱人。还有，苹果的乔布斯或脸书的马克如果你在街上或普通餐厅里碰到他们，他们就穿着普普通通的高、衣服，你根本不会把他们和亿翁富翁联系起来。
    在美国，很多人返璞归真，做一个普普通通的有钱人。有钱人到底是算多少有钱? 根据美国华尔街日报报道，至少二三百万美元以上才算有钱人。也许有的人家有几部车，但是只要看他们住的房子，住的地区和地段，看看房子的大小，就可以推断出他 们只能算中产阶级（当然在很多中国人眼里就是有钱人了）。也有些有钱人住在普通的地区和地段，这个你只能是他们的家人或朋友才能知晓他们是否有钱人。外 人，除非从税务局拿到他们家的报表（每年美国人都要报税）你才能断定他们是否有钱人。
    有些人会故作聪明妄自了断说这家人没有钱，那家人有钱。有钱是写在脸上的吗？穿在身上？真正有钱人会无缘无故告诉你ta或ta家到底有多少钱吗？有的人喜 欢把口袋里100块钱拿去买一套最好的衣服充门面，就像之前听到的笑话，说很多上海人，他们最值钱的就是他们那身行头了。如果万一家里着火，他们只要人跑 出来就是了，因为家里根本没值钱的东西。还有些上海人，宁愿吃几个月的馒头或泡面攒了几个月的工资去买一个名牌包包。你看着这些人穿着很光鲜，很有能你就 被他们迷惑了，认为他们很有钱。还有一些很低调很实在的人，他们开着旧车或穿着普普通通，可是他们才是真正地有钱人。
   
     早上刚刚和一美国朋友聊天。这位朋友是当时我在上海认识的。他是学针灸的，在美国作针灸师。他想组织美国的针灸师去上海或杭州中医学院再学一下。我原本帮 他安排酒店，车，导游的。可是那时候他没组到一个团，只有二三个人，没什么钱赚，就没成行。他在上海也处过一个女朋友，可是因为在他女朋友眼里他只会做白 日梦，异想天开，不实际，而且不急着结婚，所以他们吹了。后来我来了美国。去年我们在网上碰到，原来他去了瑞典，他的孩子就要出生了。他的女朋友是半个中 国人。女朋友的妈妈是香港人，爸爸是瑞典人。今天我们在网上碰到，他人在上海，过两天去杭州，要我帮忙找导游。然后他告诉我他今年带女朋友及孩子回美国看 望他的家人，他们原本打算呆6周的，可是女朋友到了之后就抱怨他家条件不好，不够安全，侮辱他及他的家人。他说他从来没有这样被人侮辱过。只待了3天就回 瑞典去了。现在女友在瑞典，可是脾气态度变得很不好。他女友家里条件比他好。
开始我们先聊孩子。
[10/2/2011 10:31:28 PM] m: haha, is she（我家娜娜） standing
[10/2/2011 10:32:03 PM] summer: yes, but she has to hold on sth
[10/2/2011 10:32:23 PM] m: mine is walking very well now
[10/2/2011 10:43:10 PM] m: and me and mom(指孩子母亲就是他女友） had big trouble this summer, very sad
[10/2/2011 10:43:23 PM] summer: what happened
[10/2/2011 10:44:12 PM] m: long story but we went to america this year, for the first time, and she immediately refused to stay，insulted me and my family
[10/2/2011 10:44:43 PM] summer: you mean your wife/
[10/2/2011 10:44:49 PM] m: told us our homes werent good enough or safe enough for baby. we never got married, yes the mother of my child. it was very strange. i have never been so insulted in my life
[10/2/2011 10:46:23 PM] m: in sweden. we were supposed to stay in america for 6 weeks and she left after 3 days. i got no time with my family and baby
[10/2/2011 10:49:15 PM] summer: sorry to hear, are you still in touch with her?
[10/2/2011 10:49:28 PM] m: very little.but i think we are both open.not sure what will happen, i want to be near my daughter
[10/2/2011 10:50:15 PM] summer: that's really sad
[10/2/2011 10:50:20 PM] m: but mamma only wants to be in sweden.very sad. im doiong alright now, this happen in early July so Im doing ok now
[10/2/2011 10:50:49 PM] summer: was not she aware that you are not rich before hanging out with you
[10/2/2011 10:51:32 PM] m: ya, im from a middle class family, she is from upper middle class. not a big deal. there is something else, its not about money. i thinks its more about where we live.she is so relucatnt to be anywhere but sweden and wants to live with mom and dad
[10/2/2011 10:53:18 PM] summer: but she is fine as long as you live in sweden with her/
[10/2/2011 10:53:34 PM] m: probably, but when we went to sweden everything changed, she started being mean and rude
[10/2/2011 10:54:33 PM] summer: I am sorry to hear, most women are snobbish or most people are snobbish
[10/2/2011 10:54:52 PM] m: yes its common, this is the worse i ever seen her mom is very cruel to her dad, i think she learned that and thinks she can act that way too
[10/2/2011 10:58:29 PM] summer: most chinese r like that
[10/2/2011 10:59:41 PM] m: ya, there are many chinese dynamics in their family， dad works, cleans house, cooks, does everything，mom has to save face all the time