加载中…知见心理学每月一信 ——2010年七月
(2010-07-08 11:34:58)
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Chuck Spezzano
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七月是个宽恕的月份但别太轻率否则它会不灵。一般而言,生活较轻易,并不太强求你。换言之，七月也是个宽恕一切的月份,从宽恕你自己开始,在过去中给了自己许多的痛苦。 宽恕你自己。宽恕情况。宽恕他人。宽恕神。如果你了解下意识/无意识的心灵，你就知道你对每个人的不满怨尤，似乎因为他们对你做了些什么或没为你做什么，都被你设计和利用来让你分裂和自行其是。如果你能对自己的生命负责，你就能改变它。否则，你将喧嚣发生在你身上的事,却压抑下每个人其实都按着你隐藏的剧本演出。我们所有的苦恼都来自他人没按照我们表意识的剧本的要求, 和在我们隐藏的剧本中,他们确切地按着我们我埶驱驶的目的演出之间的分裂。 这只更增我们生活中我执的基础 - 攻击和自我攻击。 七月大部分受到巨蟹座的管辖,它主要的生命课题是最难学的–宽恕。宽恕是个选择,选择帮助而非批判。它再次选择责任，无罪和连结。选择不再因我们以为自己有罪而归咎他人。因此，这个月我们被召唤继续不断的宽恕。如果我们不是处于和平,如果我们有任何的问题，如果在我们周围的任何人需要帮助，那么我们最好的回应就是宽恕。宽恕帮助每个人但它多半是为了我们自己好。 世界上每件事反映出我们的心灵。它是我们的自我概念拍成了一部电影显示我们在世界上所感知到的。世界显示出我们心灵层次更深处,我们对自己的想法。世界和我们的经验是我们自己的责任。任何时候你不快乐，就要宽恕人。任何时候你有问题，你就对他人有隐藏或者不太掩藏的怨尤。宽恕！即使你无法感觉到它，选择去宽恕就有效。它免于你隐藏的罪恶感。 它结束了分裂。它带来连结，和平和幸福。它把你领到一个更好的地方。另一方面，你的批判和怨尤造成分裂和痛苦。正如我们的朋友马利亚-荷顿(现在姓麦克佛荪)，在她的书”无限的爱”说到：“持续怨尤像喝毒药却希望对方将倒地死亡.” 你对任何人有任何的不满，在下意识的层次，你就对每个人不满,’从你的伴侣开始到你的父母和神。这个月从早到晚宽恕每件事。如果你不安或者甚至不感到快乐，你在责备人。利用你的情绪作为你内在有需要疗愈的指标及一种激励来完成它。这样逐步地，你将寻回在你的生活中所遗失的。 七月有种愉快和自然的滋养，但第一个周末可能有一些情绪上冷淡的感觉可以被你的爱和宽恕所转化。第三个星期，有一点儿江湖郎中的味道但是它不是黑暗或者心魔型的。 七月的第一个星期都是关于领受神的爱。让它倾泻你里面,透过你带来喜悦并使你溶化任何问题。让你领受这种爱使你更加的爱自已和所有美好的事物更出现在你的生活中。让它溶化掉在第一个周末所浮现的古老冰山。 第二个星期都是关于聆听的。你越敞开，你将越有希望。答案到处都有也在你之内，而聆听使你对它们敞开。聆听是我们给予我们伴侣和老天的大礼物之一。 第三个星期都是关于给予付出，一个主要爱，幸福和恢复青春的原则。宽恕只不过是对他人付出而不是攻击他们。 七月最后的星期都是有关于感激。感激在我们僵住的地方产生流。它是进入爱的门户，而它也祝福了自己和他人。我们不仅能感激他人给我们的爱，而且也对任何可恶或者问题感激因为他们显示出我们内在有什么需要被疗愈。它可能隐藏在我们若干层次的否认下和啃蚀我们,但这个人带来这个藏在我们下意识或无意识的模式使我们得以注意来疗愈。正如我的诗人朋友，山姆贺首,写道,:”当你感激时，你得以双倍的享受每件事.” 七月的最后几天，我们的黑暗故事产生失败和毁灭变得可以看见可用来疗愈。这给我们机会转化长久困扰我们旧的和古老的剧本。是个好时候来明白一定有更好的方法,而造成放下。 祝福你有个充满爱和提升的好月。 |
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July is a forgiving month but don’t push your luck or it will push back. In general, life is easier and it won't demand as much from you. On the other hand, July is also a month to forgive everything; starting with yourself for having given yourself so much pain in the past.
Forgive yourself. Forgive situations. Forgive others. Forgive God. If you knew the subconscious/unconscious mind, you would know that everyone you have a grievance toward, because they seem to have done something to you or not done something for you, were framed and used by you in order for you to separate and do things your own way. If you can take responsibility for your life, you can change it. Otherwise, you will rant about what has happened to you, repressing that everyone acted according to your hidden script. All of our upsets come from the split between our conscious script that others didn’t live up to and our hidden script in which they did exactly what we wanted for ego-driven goals. This only added more attack and self-attack to our lives which is the foundation of the ego.
July is ruled mostly by the sign of Cancer whose major life lesson is the most difficult to learn – forgiveness. Forgiveness is a choice to help rather than judge. It is the choice for responsibility, innocence and bonding once more. It is the choice to stop blaming others for what we believe we are guilty of. So, this month we are called to forgive continuously. If we are not at peace, if we have any kind of problem, if anyone around us needs help, then our best response is to forgive. Forgiveness helps everyone but it is mostly for our benefit.
Everything in the world reflects
our mind. It is our self-concepts made into a movie that shows us
what we perceive in the world. The world shows us what we think
about ourselves at ever deeper layers of the mind. The world and
our experience are our responsibility. Anytime you are not happy,
there is someone to forgive. Anytime you have a problem, you have a
hidden or not so hidden grievance with another. Forgive! Even if
you can't feel it, the choice to forgive has effect. It frees you
of hidden guilt. It ends separation. It brings bonding, peace and
happiness. It leads you to a better place. On the other hand, your
judgments and grievances lead to separation and suffering. As our
friend, Miranda Holden (now MacPherson) states in her book on
Boundless Love: “Holding a grievance is like drinking
poison and hoping the other person will keel over and die.”
Anything you hold against anyone, at subconscious levels, you hold against everyone beginning with your partner, your parents and God. Forgive everything this month from morning till night. If you are upset or even not feeling happy, you are blaming someone. Use your emotions as an indication of what needs healing in you and as a motivation to accomplish it. Thus, step by step, you will restore what was lost in your life.
There is a pleasantness and a naturalness to July that is nurturing, but there may be some emotional coldness the first weekend that can be transformed with your love and forgiveness. In the third week, there is a bit of the trickster about but it’s not the dark or shadow trickster.
The first week in July is all about receiving God’s Love. Let it pour into you and through you to bring joy and melt any problem. Let your receiving of this Love increase your self-love and every good thing in your life. Let it melt the ancient icebergs that may surface in the first weekend.
The second week is all about listening. The more openness you have, the more hope you will have. The answers are all around you as well as within and listening makes you available to them. Listening is one of the great gifts we give to our partner and to Heaven.
The third week is all about giving, one of the major principles of love, happiness and rejuvenation. Forgiveness is simply a giving forth to others instead of attacking them.
The final week of July is all about gratitude. Gratitude generates flow where we have been stuck. It is the doorway into love and it blesses us as well as others. We can be grateful not only for the love that others give us but also for any nastiness or problems because they show us what needs healing in us. It may have been hidden under layers of denial and eating away at us but this person brought this subconscious or unconscious pattern buried in us to our attention for healing. As my friend the poet, Sam Hazo, writes, “When you are grateful, you get to enjoy everything twice.”
In the last few days of July, our Dark Stories that have generated defeat and ruin become visible for healing. This gives us the opportunity to transform old and ancient scripts that have long troubled us. It’s a good time for realizing there must be a better way and letting go as a result.
Wishing you a great month full of
love and upliftment.
Chuck Spezzano
Turtle Bay, Hawaii
July 2010
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