三个月来，我和晨静教练每周都会在网络上见面，她博学睿智，信任我，聆听我。我们从亲密关系、亲子关系到与他人相处，从自己童年的创伤到对未来的规划，无所不谈。我们是在平等接纳的方式下交流的，晨静教练没有半点说教， 她也从不评价我的想法、我的过去。

 

她指引着我倾听内心的声音，我一天天地发生着变化，越来越有勇气、有信心，收获着越来越多的快乐，原本严苛的自我批评的次数越来越少，我慢慢地开始欣赏自己，重视自己，不再苛责自己。晨静教练让原本纠结在“不勤奋、不努力”中无法自拔的我忘记“勤奋、努力”，而是享受工作的过程。一个清晨，没有发生任何事情，没人跟我说甜言蜜语，只是听着窗外鸟儿啾啾鸣叫，就有种平和、美好洋溢在心中，让我感受到久违的满足感，特别奇特。最后，对晨静教练表达真挚的谢意：谢谢你。

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一次偶然的机会，我认识了晨静，这个时候我对教练这个概念并不理解。但是回想我们几次谈话，我渐渐理解了它的含义。我的教练体验是，它与通常意义的咨询不太一样，她似乎很了解我的问题，不需要我说太多，她可以通过一些问题引起我的思考，并且很好的引导我，让我自己发现问题的答案，并且很自然地发泄出了情绪。可以说是以咨询者为主体，发挥我自己的主观能动性，好像是在帮助我练习成长。而且很神奇的地方是，她能感受到我当时情绪的变化和波动。

每次教练结束之后，我都觉得很轻松，在很长一段时间内情绪都可以比较稳定，感觉很好。当然我觉得更重要的是，在发现了一些自己的问题根源之后，要保持意识，自己做一些改进。这之间两个人的关系不是病人与医生，也不是咨询师与患者，而是平等的关系，如果说用英语来讲，感觉可以用“scaffolding”来表达。我觉得以我亲身体验来讲，是很好的帮助心灵成长和解决情绪问题的经历。

 

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As a skeptical person that I am, my mind was filled with doubts prior to my first session with Chenjing. How can she really help me? What is she going to ask me that I haven’t asked myself already? How can this young lady really understand what I have been going through and help me make sense of it? How will she hold me accountable to make the changes in my life that I would wish for? On and on and on….

Guess what: She did help me. She did let me talk and vent and talk some more. With her calming voice she did pull me back and sat down with me while I struggled. She made me feel so comfortable to take my time looking for clues…and when I could not go any further by myself she would offer great information on techniques, tools or books. Not only did I have the feeling that she was listening with two pair of ears during the sessions but also she never forgot anything that I said or I was supposed to do. Her dedication was amazing. 

Working with Chenjing was a very fruitful and great experience.  I was looking forward every time to our sessions.