美国全职爸爸

R和S是我们非常喜欢的邻居， 可是却在去年从LA搬到了北卡州。 R是（曾经是）老师， 而太太S则是商业律师。 从认识他们的第一天起， R就已辞职在家带他们的大女儿（比我们的J小两个月）。 而S那时已是怀孕5个月的“大肚婆”了。 S忙着工作， 而R打点着家里的一切。 看着R， 高高帅帅的， 虽然有点害羞， 却还是很吸引人的爸爸。 学历也不差， 只是老师的工资无法和律师的相提并论。 他们觉得在孩子幼小时， 父母的陪伴和教育远远大于幼儿园。 加上R实在是爱孩子其更具耐心， 所以R开始了全职爸爸的生活。 他的生活和全职妈妈没有太大区别。 收拾家里， 做饭， 带着幼小的孩子参加各种亲子活动。 看到他时， 总是有咖啡，书和音乐相伴， 真的觉得我无法想象的“全职爸爸生活“还是挺滋润的。而太太好像也觉得这是最好的选择， 两个人非常的恩爱。 直到老二出生后， 太太的公司要被迫关闭时， 他们开始紧张。 我想这下R要出来工作了吧。 可是不到一个月， 太太得到了北卡的高薪工作，开始忙碌买房子卖房子的事， R也自然保持现状。 搬到北卡的R和S很快的安顿下来， R于是仍然做着全职爸爸，照顾着4口之家。

类似R这样的全职爸爸在美国已越来越多。 一方面女性的社会地位及职位的提高， 另一方面男人的家庭观也日渐强烈。 爸爸妈妈共同带孩子是一件天经地义的事， 而爸爸单独带着孩子参加各种活动也是到处都是。 所以像R和S这样的组合， 当然是各尽所能， 也不为一件聪明的选择。 只是， 不管是全职妈妈还是全职爸爸， 都应该给自己一些空间， 要不然就容易脱离社会。 通过下面的歌词分享一下爸爸的心声， 作为妈妈的我们理解支持具有爱心的爸爸。

My little girl got a full time Daddy now (Lyrics)

Since she was born I loved her, but we were soon apart
She was closer to her mother from the start
I was happy enough strollin' her around
But it seemed like something was there tying me down

But gone are the days when I'd be reading while holdin' her on my lap
The days when I'd get impatient for her to take her afternoon nap
Gone are the days when I would leave as soon as her mother would allow
My little girl's got a full time daddy now

I've always been a good dad but not confident truth be told
Yeah but now, but now I come straight from my soul
If there is a problem we will figure it out somehow
My little girl's got a full time daddy now

Well she was closer to her mother and that's no crime
But not now, now she's got a daddy full time
It took her momma and me splittin for me to come into my own
But it was worth it for the way we are walking hand in hand just fool along

Gone are the days when i would be next to her, thinking about myself
Gone are days when I'd be frantic for her mom to come home and help
Those days are gone, Those days are gone
Let every witness now avow
My litle girl's got a full time daddy now
My litle girl's got a full time daddy now.