人生悲剧一课:勤奋的罪恶
(2012-12-13 08:54:53)
标签:
杂谈 |
分类: 子女教育 |
发信人: Cklein (Calvin Klein), 信区: USANews
从来没有想过勤奋是一种罪恶。尽管听过很多黑人讨厌中国人的勤奋, 讨厌中国人的加班, 讨厌中国人的补习, 也一直认为这只不过是劣等种族的懒惰 + 羡慕嫉妒恨。
直到今天, 从我的 business PARTNER (生意伙伴) 的嘴里说出来。
我的BUSINESS PARTNER是越南人, 12岁时偷渡来美国, 目前非常成功。是共和党温和派。他从小接受美国政府的资助完成大学, 对美国国家福利政策有感恩心理。我们谈到他女儿的学校问题. 因为我想买房, 想了解一下校区的信息. 他女儿在读高中。
Me(我): Where’s your daughter’s school? (你女儿的学校在哪里?)
He (他): xxx High. (xxx高中)
Me: Is it a good school? (那是个好学校吗?)
He: Man, you don’t know, it’s all screwed up. (哥们,你不知道,都搞砸了。)
Me: Why?
He: There’re a lot kids, from Korean, from China, they study really hard. They even hire tutors after school.(那里有很多韩国和中国孩子,学习非常努力,甚至都请了课外辅导)。
Me: What’s wrong with that? (有什么问题吗?)
He: They don’t have a high school life! I don’t want my daughter
to study so
hard after school.
young! I am NOT going to hire a tutor for her. And I encourage her
to get
involved all kinds of school activities, to learn how to enjoy
life!
(他们没有享受高中生活!我不愿意我女儿在校外还那么用功学习。我想让她趁年轻享受生活!
我不会请课外辅导,而会鼓励她参加各种学校的活动,学习享受生活!)
From the conversation, I can sense his “Angry” or “Resentful” to
other asian
kids study too hard, that would force his daughter to study hard
too to
compete. But for him, he refuse to ask his daughter to study hard.
He would
rather his daughter to go to a tier 2 college, as he wants his
daughter to
have a life in high school. But as you know, his daughter could go
to IVY
league, if it’s not these Chinese, Korean kids, who gave up their
life in
high school and study so hard, even hire tutors!
(从他的这番谈话,我感觉到他对其他亚洲孩子太努力学习感到“愤怒”和“不满”,因为那会强迫他的女儿努力学习来竞争。对他来说,他不愿让他女儿学习太努力。他宁愿女儿去个二流大学,就象他想让女儿享受高中生活。但是你知道,如果不是那些中国韩国孩子没有自己的生活而拼命努力学习甚至请课外辅导,他女儿本来可以去所常青藤学校!)
我要重新审视我的人生观了.。我们来美国, 因为我们太勤奋, 真的伤害到了当地人。 勤奋真的成了一种罪恶.