1. Which one of our friends is engaged/married.

There is no need to be jealous, or bitter, or judgmental, or think that they’re going to become an incredibly boring person because now they are part of some isolated club. The point is that their happiness means nothing about our happiness, even if we feel like it does. Just let it happen.

2. Whether or not our clothes are fashionable.

Worry about what looks good and what feels good, according to your standards. Not what some magazine told you. Not what some beauty guru （美容达人）told you. Dress for you.

3. Gossip.

Gossip is like junk food: It’s easy to consume, it feels good in the short-term and satisfies a craving（过瘾）, but  it certainly doesn’t add anything beneficial to our lives. Only the simplest of people fill their time with talking about other people.

4. People whose life decisions we really disagree with.

Unless they’re hurting themselves or someone else, it’s time to turn off that maternal instinct（母性本能） and let them do it. Even if it bugs you to no end to watch.

5. Whether or not we are single.

Being single might feel like a serious burden, but obsessing about it and hating ourselves for being in that state is not going to do anything about it.  Once you realize that there are so many things to do and experience out there that have nothing to do with a relationship — and that love will come when it comes — you are no longer the Sad Single Person that you think you are.

6. If we’re going to have it all.

We need to pick, like, two or three things that we really want in life. We need to go after them, and hope that the rest falls into place（ 顺其自然）along the way as a result of hard work and kindness. We cannot spend the rest of our young adult lives trying to be the perfect woman in every possible category. Because that woman doesn’t exist, and she never did. And just having a job you enjoy, or a good group of friends, or a nice apartment, or a healthy relationship — and not all of the above at all times — puts you way ahead of the pack（遥遥领先）. http://s2.wp.com/wp-content/themes/vip/thoughtcatalog/images/tc_mark.gif?m=1333992719g· 积累】6 Things Women In Their 20s Need To Get Over" />

  JUL. 30, 2013

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