随着年龄的增长，我觉得人这一生其实最难的是正确认识自己。 年轻的时候好像非常糊涂，对于自己，其实是很陌生，不知道自己的性格属于什么样， 别人是怎样看自己的，长大以后真正想干什么，更不知道自己能做好什么。如果在18岁的时候能有高人指点，知道自己的长处和短处，可能很多人的命运就会完全改变，很多人的人生就会走出完全不同的轨迹了， 也许很多人为的错误就可以避免，很多痛苦就不再是必要了。

我想这就是世上仍然有无数的人幻想能遇到高人的那一天， 能为自己的未来指点迷津。

我以前曾经写过一篇未来你想学什么？－美国高中的职业选择教育，

说的是高中一年级每个学生都会做一个非常复杂的电脑测试，让你了解自己的专长和性格，从而可以帮助你选择未来适合的职业。这份卷子肯定是经过各种专家反复论证出的题目，得出的结论惊人的准确，给学生非常可靠的推荐。事实上我现在才发现这个测试还有相当部分是关于自己的性格个性等。我和老大都认为难以置信的准确。所以我贴出来让大家看看。

比如它说到老大是一个非常独特和有创造性的人，安静，社交上很谨慎，不会马上就和陌生人交朋友。只有好朋友才会了解她有好玩的那一面。内心其实非常关心别人。她的想象力大部分通过艺术来表达，因为是完美主义者，所以不喜欢听别人提的意见。

另外分析了她的优点和缺点，

优点包括写作能力强， 一对一时交流能力很好，很好的聆听者，有强烈的价值观。缺点有太理想主义，设定不符合实际的目标，组织能力不是强，不太注意细节等。

然后电脑给她建议她应该在哪一类工作环境里工作， 比如框套比较少很自由的工作环境，能安静独立地工作，能够让你帮助别人等等。

可以说电脑给的建议相当高明准确，真比神仙还准。加上最后专业的建议居然也就是老大最喜欢最想学的动漫，所以我毫无条件地支持她了。

我相信在这个测试以后很多孩子慢慢找到了自己喜欢和擅长的专业，高高兴兴毫不怀疑地走向未来。我是多么欣慰孩子可以这么肯定地选择自己未来的路，希望她能坚定不移地走下去。而不是象我一样一生在职业道路上总处于怀疑和模糊的状态里。到现在才慢慢发现自己最适合做什么但是已经太晚了。

了解自己是件多么美好的事。

英文内容：

Understanding you, People like you are rare. You are a unique and creative person who tends to march to the beat of your own drummer. Private, quiet, and socially cautious, only friends who know you very well may ever see your more playful and expressive side. In fact, it takes awhile for you to feel comfortable with new people so you may often be described as somewhat reserved. But inside, you are a person of great feeling and care deeply for the people and causes that are dear to your heart. Your personal values are most important to you so you always try to make choices that you feel good about. You are rarely willing to compromise on anything that is really important to you. You can sometimes become overwhelmed by the intensity of your emotions, and your relationships need to be free of conflict or tension for you to remain in them.

You are also a highly imaginative person and may enjoy expressing yourself through the arts. But since you are also somewhat of a perfectionist, you may have trouble hearing constructive criticism without taking it personally. You are quick to understand the deeper meaning of things, and often have a fresh or original take on events and people. Since you prefer by nature to act spontaneously, you resist too many rules or too much structure. And you may also have trouble staying organized or making decisions. At heart, you are a non-conformist and must find the path that is really right for you, even if it means striking out alone.

Note: Based on our assessment, your personality type is "INFP."

Your Strengths and Blindspots
Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. The key to finding the best path for all people is by using their natural strengths and becoming aware of their natural blindspots.

Your strengths may include:

Impressing people as someone with strong values and convictions.
Communicating well one-on-one.
Expressing yourself well in writing.
Being an attentive listener.
Demonstrating an interest in and broad grasp of big issues.

Your blindspots may include:

Being too idealistic and setting unrealistic goals.
Not being particularly well organized.
Becoming defensive if you perceives you are being challenged.
Not following through on important details and deadlines.
Being less than 100% accurate with facts.

For a career to be satisfying for you, it should:

Be in harmony with your own personal values; involve work you believe in.
Give plenty of time to develop your ideas and maintain control over your projects.
Allow you plenty of autonomy and private, quiet space to work.
Be done with other creative and caring people whose values you respect.
Allow you to work in a fairly unstructured environment with not too many rules.
Appreciate your unique contributions.
Allow you to help others grow and develop their potential.
Use your gift for understanding of what makes others tick.

Your Preferred Learning Style:
While ALL individuals are unique, students of the same type often learn best in similar ways. The following summarizes what you need in order to maximize learning.

Recognize that you are driven by your personal feelings and deeply held beliefs.
Create a friendly, nurturing, tension free environment.
Allow you the opportunity to work alone or with small groups.
Give you plenty of time to think and reflect before responding.