【痛定思痛】〖tòng dìng s tòng〗[recall past pain -- as a warning for the future; bring home the lessons painfully learned; draw a lesson from a bitter experience; recall a painful experience]

痛不欲生妻病逝，

定于一尊想陪死。

思贤若渴偿遗愿，

痛切心骨诗典译。

悲痛的心情平静以后，再追想当时所受的痛苦。grief mood  calm After, and then think  at that time Accepted by The suffering. 同：痛不欲生、悲痛欲绝。反：悠然自得。