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- Reduce your needs 减少需要 很少即满足
- Cause no harm(the first guideline of effortless living)e.g 不要伤害和暴力对待他人;不污染环境不要将自己的信念强加给别人…
- Have no goals or fixed plans 意思是不要被自己的目标限制,即打破常规。这里的目标(goal)指预先定义、计划好的结果和目的。(predefined outcomes or destination )不一定遵守这条
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Have no
expectations
don't agree -
The
illusion of control 不控制 这条是对控制狂说的吧,其中很多建议我不赞同 - Don't create false needs 考虑需求是不是真的需要
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Don't rush, slowly, be
present
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Find contentment.
When you find yourself thinking about what you want ,start appreciating what you have, every day. 学会满足 当你想要某物时,想想你现在有的,感谢他们的存在。 - Let go of success &the need for approval. 不要在意成功与否,不要在意他人的认可。
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Prefer
subtraction
做减法 -
Be like
water
a situation will be ,or what its outcome will be. It means remaining flexible so that we can adapt our actions or no action to the ever-changing situation. 不要去期望结果如何,灵活地看待我们的行动而产生的结果。 -
Equal weight to every
action.
When we move from eating to putting our dish in the sink , that's a space between. Imagine giving these spaces the same weight as you would something more "important ". Try it and what will happen? We"ll be more mindful and things we overemphasize are less emphasized. This means fewer unnecessary emotions are invested in things that aren't that dramatic in the first place. 行为不分轻重。吃饭和把吃完的盘子放入水池的行为是一样重要的。这样,我们会思考是否花了时间在不那么重要的事上。一些不值得过分重视的事将不会花我们很多时间。 - Eating simply. Less processed food 少吃精加工的食物
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Effortless
relationship
与人的关系变得简单 -
Turning
complaints into gratitude
把你的抱怨变为感激 不要只看到事物不好的方面,比如,老板对你严格,交给你事情比较多,是老板对你期望高,你的能力能提高。 -
Dealing with
others
don't push or try to force others to do anything 不要强迫别人极简
How to do it?应该怎样做
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Model behavior just showing how to do it can be a powerful tool.自己做榜样 -
Share how important it is to you, and the benefits 和别人分享极简对你如何重要,你极简后有什么进步 - Ask for help. They want you to be happy, and if you tell them how they can help you succeed, they'll do their best. If possible, making simplifying a team effort-not just something you're doing, but something you're all doing together. 向别人寻求帮助 让极简成为team-effort
- Educate. Share books and websites and blogs to you're reading, in a way that show what you're interested. 与他人分享关于极简的书、网站、博客
- Help them succeed. Encourage and support them 帮助别人成功 鼓励和支持他人极简
- Realize you can't control or change others. 明白自己不能控制和改变别人
- Change what you can. 改变你能够改变的
- You are already perfect. 告诉自己你已经很完美了 不强求
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Putting this book into practice. Finding effortlessness doesn't have to require great effort. Some of the ideas in this book won't apply to your life, and that's ok. You don't have to follow this as a manual of life. Pick the ideas that work best for you. Be flexible. Be forgiving of yourself. 怎样实践书中的内容 作者的观点你不适合就不用去实践,选择最适合你的去实践。灵活,学会原谅自己。不要逼迫。