TED演讲:The Art of Choosing 选择的艺术{放弃选择 其实是更好的选择
(2012-03-27 12:35:33)
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Today, I'm going to take you around the world in 18 minutes. My
base of operations is in the U.S. But let's start at the other end
of the map in Kyoto, Japan, where I was living with a Japanese
family while I was doing part of my dissertational research 15
years ago. I knew even then that I would encounter cultural
differences and misunderstandings, but they popped up when I least
expected it.
On my first day, I went to a restaurant, and I ordered a cup of
green tea with sugar. After a pause, the waiter said, "One does not
put sugar in green tea." "I know." I said. "I'm aware of this
custom. But I really like my tea sweet." In response, he gave me an
even more courteous version of the same explanation. "One does not
put sugar in green tea." "I understand," I said, "that the Japanese
do not put sugar in their green tea. But I'd like to put some sugar
in my green tea." (Laughter) Surprised by my insistence, the waiter
took up the issue with the manager. Pretty soon, a lengthy
discussion ensued, and finally the manager came over to me and
said, "I am very sorry. We do not have sugar." (Laughter) Well,
since I couldn't have my tea the way I wanted it, I ordered a cup
of coffee, which the waiter brought over promptly. Resting on the
saucer were two packets of sugar.
My failure to procure myself a cup of sweet, green tea was not due
to a simple misunderstanding. This was due to a fundamental
difference in our ideas about choice. From my American perspective,
when a paying customer makes a reasonable request based on her
preferences, she has every right to have that request met. The
American way, to quote Burger King, is to "have it your way,"
because, as Starbucks says, "happiness is in your choices."
(Laughter) But from the Japanese perspective, it's their duty to
protect those who don't know any better -- (Laughter) in this case,
the ignorant gaijin -- from making the wrong choice. Let's face it:
the way I wanted my tea was inappropriate according to cultural
standards, and they were doing their best to help me save
face.
Americans tend to believe that they've reached some sort of
pinnacle in the way they practice choice. They think that choice as
seen through the American lens best fulfills an innate and
universal desire for choice in all humans. Unfortunately, these
beliefs are based on assumptions that don't always hold true in
many countries, in many cultures. At times they don't even hold
true at America's own borders. I'd like to discuss some of these
assumptions and the problems associated with them. As I do so, I
hope you'll start thinking about some of your own assumptions and
how they were shaped by your backgrounds.
First assumption: if a choice
affects you, then you should be the one to make it. This is the
only way to ensure that your preferences and interests will be most
fully accounted for. It is essential for success. In
America, the primary locus of choice is the individual. People must
choose for themselves, sometimes sticking to their guns, regardless
of what other people want or recommend. It's called "being true to
yourself." But do all individuals benefit from taking such an
approach to choice? Mark Lepper and I did a series of studies in
which we sought the answer to this very question. In one study,
which we ran in Japantown, San Francisco, we brought seven- to
nine-year-old Anglo- and Asian-American children into the
laboratory, and we divided them up into three groups.
The first group came in, and they were greeted by Miss Smith, who
showed them six big piles of anagram puzzles. The kids got to
choose which pile of anagrams they would like to do. And they even
got to choose which marker they would write their answers with.
When the second group of children came in, they were brought to the
same room, shown the same anagrams, but this time Miss Smith told
them which anagrams to do and which markers to write their answers
with. Now when the third group came in, they were told that their
anagrams and their and markers had been chosen by their mothers.
(Laughter) In reality, the kids who were told what to do, whether
by Miss Smith or their mothers, were actually given the very same
activity, which their counterparts in the first group had freely
chosen.
With this procedure, we were able to ensure that the kids across
the three groups all did the same activity, making it easier for us
to compare performance. Such small differences in the way we
administered the activity yielded striking differences in how well
they performed. Anglo-Americans, they did two and a half times more
anagrams when they got to choose them, as compared to when it was
chosen for them by Miss Smith or their mothers. It didn't matter
who did the choosing, if the task was dictated by another, their
performance suffered. In fact, some of the kids were visibly
embarrassed when they were told that their mothers had been
consulted. (Laughter) One girl named Mary said, "You asked my
mother?"
(Laughter)
In contrast, Asian-American children performed best when they
believed their mothers had made the choice, second best when they
chose for themselves, and least well when it had been chosen by
Miss Smith. A girl named Natsumi even approached Miss Smith as she
was leaving the room and tugged on her skirt and asked, "Could you
please tell my mommy I did it just like she said?" The
first-generation children were strongly influenced by their
immigrant parents' approach to choice. For them, choice was not
just a way of defining and asserting their individuality, but a way
to create community and harmony by deferring to the choices of
people whom they trusted and respected. If they had a concept of
being true to one's self, then that self, most likely, was
composed, not of an individual, but of a collective. Success was
just as much about pleasing key figures as it was about satisfying
one's own preferences. Or, you could say that the individual's
preferences were shaped by the preferences of specific
others.
The assumption then that we do best when the individual self
chooses only holds when that self is clearly divided from others.
When, in contrast, two or more individuals see their choices and
their outcomes as intimately connected, then they may amplify one
another's success by turning choosing into a collective act. To
insist that they choose independently, might actually compromise
both their performance and their relationships. Yet that is exactly
what the American paradigm demands. It leaves little room for
interdependence or an acknowledgment of individual fallibility. It
requires that everyone treat choice as a private and self-defining
act. People that have grown up in such a paradigm might find it
motivating. But it is a mistake to assume that everyone thrives
under the pressure of choosing alone.
The second assumption which informs the American view of choice
goes something like this. The more
choices you have, the more likely you are to make the best
choice. So bring it on Walmart with 100,000 different
products, Amazon with 27 million books and Match.com with -- what
is it? -- 15 million date possibilities now. You will surely find
the perfect match. Let's test this assumption by heading over to
Eastern Europe. Here, I interviewed people who were residents of
formerly communist countries, who had all faced the challenge of
transitioning to a more democratic and capitalistic society. One of
the most interesting revelations came not from an answer to a
question, but from a simple gesture of hospitality. When the
participants arrived for their interview I offered them a set of
drinks, Coke, Diet Coke, Sprite -- seven, to be exact.
During the very first session, which was run in Russia, one of the
participants made a comment that really caught me off guard. "Oh,
but it doesn't matter. It's all just soda. That's just one choice."
(Murmuring) I was so struck by this comment that from then on I
started to offer all the participants those seven sodas. And I
asked them, "How many choices are these?" Again and again, they
perceived these seven different sodas, not as seven choices, but as
one choice: soda or no soda. When I put out juice and water in
addition to these seven sodas, now they perceived it as only three
choices -- juice, water and soda. Compare this to the die-hard
devotion of many Americans, not just to a particular flavor of
soda, but to a particular brand. You know, research shows
repeatedly that we can't actually tell the difference between Coke
and Pepsi. Of course, you and I know that Coke is the better
choice.
(Laughter)
For modern Americans who are exposed to more options and more ads
associated with options than anyone else in the world, choice is
just as much about who they are as it is about what the product is.
Combine this with the assumption that more choices are always
better, and you have a group of people for whom every little
difference matters and so every choice matters. But for Eastern
Europeans, the sudden availability of all these consumer products
on the marketplace was a deluge. They were flooded with choice
before they could protest that they didn't know how to swim. When
asked, "What words and images do you associate with choice?"
Grzegorz from Warsaw said, "Ah, for me it is fear. There are some
dilemmas you see. I am used to no choice." Bohdan from Kiev said,
in response to how he felt about the new consumer marketplace, "It
is too much. We do not need everything that is there." A
sociologist from the Warsaw Survey Agency explained, "The older
generation jumped from nothing to choice all around them. They were
never given a chance to learn how to react." And Tomasz, a young
Polish man said, "I don't need twenty kinds of chewing gum. I don't
mean to say that I want no choice, but many of these choices are
quite artificial."
In reality, many choices are
between things that are not that much different. The value of
choice depends on our ability to perceive differences between the
options. Americans train their whole lives to play "spot the
difference." They practice this from such an early age that they've
come to believe that everyone must be born with this ability. In
fact, though all humans share a basic need and desire for choice,
we don't all see choice in the same places or to the same extent.
When someone can't see how one choice is unlike another, or when
there are too many choices to compare and contrast, the process of
choosing can be confusing and frustrating. Instead of making better
choices, we become overwhelmed by choice, sometimes even afraid of
it. Choice no longer offers opportunities, but imposes constraints.
It's not a marker of liberation, but of suffocation by meaningless
minutiae. In other words, choice can develop into the very opposite
of everything it represents in America when it is thrust upon those
who are insufficiently prepared for it. But it is not only other
people in other places that are feeling the pressure of
ever-increasing choice. Americans themselves are discovering that
unlimited choice seems more attractive in theory than in
practice.
We all have physical, mental and
emotional limitations that make it impossible for us to process
every single choice we encounter, even in the grocery store,
let alone over the course of our entire lives. A number of my
studies have shown that when you give people 10 or more options
when they're making a choice, they make poorer decisions, whether
it be health care, investment, other critical areas. Yet still,
many of us believe that we should make all our own choices and seek
out even more of them.
This brings me to the third, and perhaps most problematic
assumption: "You must never say no to choice." To examine this,
let's go back to the U.S. and then hop across the pond to France.
Right outside Chicago, a young couple, Susan and Daniel Mitchell,
were about to have their first baby. They'd already picked out a
name for her, Barbara, after her grandmother. One night, when Susan
was seven months pregnant, she started to experience contractions
and was rushed to the emergency room. The baby was delivered
through a C-section, but Barbara suffered cerebral anoxia, a loss
of oxygen to the brain. Unable to breathe on her own, she was put
on a ventilator. Two days later, the doctors gave the Mitchells a
choice. They could either remove Barbara off the life support, in
which case she would die within a matter of hours, or they could
keep her on life support, in which case she might still die within
a matter of days. if she survived, she would remain in a permanent
vegetative state, never able to walk, talk or interact with others.
What did they do? What do any parent do?
In a study I conducted with Simona Botti and Kristina Orfali,
American and French parents were interviewed. They had all suffered
the same tragedy. In all cases, the life support was removed, and
the infants had died. But there was a big difference. In France,
the doctors decided whether and when the life support would be
removed, while in the United States, the final decision rested with
the parents. We wondered: does this have an effect on how the
parents cope with the loss of their loved one? We found that it
did. Even up to a year later, American parents were more likely to
express negative emotions, as compared to their French
counterparts. French parents were more likely to say things like,
"Noah was here for so little time, but he taught us so much. He
gave us a new perspective on life."
American parents were more likely to say things like, "What if?
What if?" Another parent complained, "I feel as if they
purposefully tortured me. How did they get me to do that?" And
another parent said, "I feel as if I've played a role in an
execution." But when the American parents were asked if they would
rather have had the doctors make the decision, they all said, "No."
They could not imagine turning that choice over to another, even
though having made that choice made them feel trapped, guilty,
angry. In a number of cases they were even clinically depressed.
These parents could not contemplate giving up the choice, because
to do so would have gone contrary to everything they had been
taught and everything they had come to believe about the power and
purpose of choice.
In her essay, "The White Album," Joan Didion writes, "We tell
ourselves stories in order to live. We interpret what we see,
select the most workable of the multiple choices. We live entirely
by the imposition of a narrative line upon disparate images, by the
ideas with which we have learned to freeze the shifting
phantasmagoria which is our actual experience." The story Americans
tell, the story upon which the American dream depends is the story
of limitless choice. This narrative promises so much: freedom,
happiness, success. It lays the world at your feet and says, "You
can have anything, everything." It's a great story, and it's
understandable why they would be reluctant to revise it. But when
you take a close look, you start to see the holes, and you start to
see that the story can be told in many other ways.
Americans have so often tried to disseminate their ideas of choice,
believing that they will be, or ought to be, welcomed with open
hearts and minds. But the history books and the daily news tell us
it doesn't always work out that way. The phantasmagoria, the actual
experience that we try to understand and organize through
narrative, varies from place to place. No single narrative serves
the needs of everyone everywhere. Moreover, Americans themselves
could benefit from incorporating new perspectives into their own
narrative, which has been driving their choices for so long.
Robert Frost once said that, "It is poetry that is lost in
translation." This suggests that whatever is beautiful and moving,
whatever gives us a new way to see, cannot be communicated to those
who speak a different language. But Joseph Brodsky said that, "It
is poetry that is gained in translation," suggesting that
translation can be a creative, transformative act. When it comes to choice, we have far more to
gain than to lose by engaging in the many translations of the
narratives. Instead of replacing one story with another, we can
learn from and revel in the many versions that exist and the many
that have yet to be written. No matter where we're from and what your
narrative is, we all have a responsibility to open ourselves up to
a wider array of what choice can do, and what it can
represent. And this does not lead to a paralyzing moral
relativism. Rather, it teaches us when and how to act. It brings us
that much closer to realizing the full potential of choice, to
inspiring the hope and achieving the freedom that choice promises
but doesn't always deliver. If we learn to speak to one another,
albeit through translation, then we can begin to see choice in all
its strangeness, complexity and compelling beauty.
Thank you.
(Applause)
Bruno Giussani: Thank you. Sheena, there is a detail about your
biography that we have not written in the program book. But by now
it's evident to everyone in this room. You're blind. And I guess
one of the questions on everybody's mind is: How does that
influence your study of choosing, because that's an activity that
for most people is associated with visual inputs like aesthetics
and color and so on?
Sheena Iyengar: Well, it's funny that you should ask that, because
one of the things that's interesting about being blind is you
actually get a different vantage point when you observe the way
sighted people make choices. And as you just mentioned, there's
lots of choices out there that are very visual these days. Yeah, I
-- as you would expect -- get pretty frustrated by choices like
what nail polish to put on, because I have to rely on what other
people suggest. And I can't decide. And so one time I was in a
beauty salon, and I was trying to decide between two very light
shades of pink. And one was called "Ballet Slippers." And the other
one was "Adorable." (Laughter) And so I asked these two ladies. And
the one lady told me, "Well, you should definitely wear 'Ballet
Slippers.'" "Well, what does it look like?" "Well, it's a very
elegant shade of pink." "Okay, great." The other lady tells me to
wear "Adorable." "What does it look like?" "It's a glamorous shade
of pink." And so I asked them, "Well, how do I tell them apart?
What's different about them?" And they said, "Well, one is elegant,
the other one's glamorous." Okay, we got that. And the only thing
they had consensus on: well, if I could see them, I would clearly
be able to tell them apart.
(Laughter)
And what I wondered was whether they were being affected by the
name or the contents of the color. So I decided to do a little
experiment. So I brought these two bottles of nail polish into the
laboratory, and I stripped the labels off. And I brought women into
the laboratory, and I asked them, "Which one would you pick?" 50
percent of the women accused me of playing a trick, of putting the
same color nail polish in both those bottles. (Laughter) (Applause)
At which point you start to wonder who the trick's really played
on. Now of the women that could tell them apart, when the labels
were off, they picked "Adorable," and when the labels were on they
picked "Ballet Slippers." So as far as I can tell, a rose by any
other name probably does look different and maybe even smells
different.
BG: Thank you. Sheena Iyengar. Thank you Sheena.
(Applause)
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