加载中…彻悟自己，善待自己--作者不详
(2025-01-24 20:41:23) 人生在世，和＂自己＂相处最多，打交道最多，但是往往悟不透＂自己＂．
人生走上坡路时，往往把自己估计过高，似乎一切所求的东西都能垂手可得，甚至把运气和机遇也看做自己身价的一部分而喜不自胜．人在不得意时，又往往把自己估计过低，把困难和不利也看做自己的无能，以至把安分守己，与世无争误认为有自知之明，而实际上往往被怯懦的面具窒息了自己鲜活的生命． 悟透自己，就是正确认识自己， 也就是说要做一个冷静的现实主义者，既知道自己的优势，也知道自己的不足．我们可以憧憬人生，但期望值不能过高．因为在现实中，理想总是会打折扣的．可以迎接挑战．但是必须清楚自己努力的方向．也就是说，人一旦有了自知之明，也就没有什么克服不了的困难，没有什么过不去的难关．
要悟透自己就要欣赏自己．无论你是一棵参天大树，还是一棵小草，无论你成为一座巍峨的高山，还是一块小小的石头，都是一种天然，都有自己存在的价值．只要你认真地欣赏自己，你就会拥有一个真正的自我．只有自我欣赏才会有信心，一旦拥有了信心也就拥有了抵御一切逆境的动力．
要悟透自己，就要心疼自己．在气愤时心疼一下自己，找个僻静处散散心，宣泄宣泄，不要让那些无名之火伤身；忧伤时，要心疼一下自己，找个三五好友，诉说诉说，让感情的阴天变晴；劳累时，你要心疼一下自己，为自己来一番问寒问暖，要明白人所拥有的不过是一个血肉之躯，经不住太多的风力霜剑；有病时，你要心疼一下自己，惟有对自己的心疼，才是战胜疾病的信心和力量．
悟透了自己，才能把握住自己，你生活才会有滋有味！
Get a Thorough Understanding of
Oneself
In all one's
life time it is oneself that one spends the most time being with or
dealing with. But it is precisely oneself that one has the least
understanding of. When you are going upwards in life you tend to
overestimate yourself. It seems that everything you seek for is
within your reach; luck and opportunities will come your way and
you are overjoyed that they constitute part of your
worth.
When you are
going downhill you tend to underestimate yourself, mistaking
difficulties and adversities for your own incompetence. It’s likely
that you think it wise for yourself to know your place and stay
aloof from worldly wearing a mask of cowardice, behind which the
flow of sap in your life will be retarded.
To get a
thorough understanding of oneself is to gain a correct view of
oneself and be a sober realist -- aware of both one’s strength and
shortage. You may look forward hopefully to the future but be sure
not to expect too much, for ideals can never be fully realized. You
may be courageous to meet challenges but it should be clear to you
where to direct your efforts. That’s to way so long as you have a
perfect knowledge of yourself there won’t be difficulties you can’t
overcome, nor obstacles you can’t surmount.
To get a
thorough understanding of oneself needs self appreciation. Whether
you liken yourself to a towering tree or a blade of grass, whether
you think you are a high mountain or a small stone, you represent a
state of nature that has its own raison deter. If you earnestly
admire yourself you’ll have a real sense of self-appreciation,
which will give you confidence. As soon as you gain full confidence
in yourself you’ll be enabled to fight and overcome any
adversity.
To get a
thorough understanding of oneself also requires doing oneself a
favor when it’s needed. In time of anger, do yourself a favor by
giving vent to it in a quiet place so that you won't be hurt by its
flames; in time of sadness, do yourself a favor by sharing it with
your friends so as to change a gloomy mood into a cheerful one; in
time of tiredness, do yourself a favor by getting a good sleep or
taking some tonic. Show yourself loving concern about your health
and daily life. As you are aware, what a person physically has is
but a human body that’s vulnerable when exposed to the elements. So
if you fall ill, it’s up to you to take a good care of yourself.
Unless you know perfectly well when and how to do yourself a favor,
you won’t be confident and ready enough to resist the attack of
illness.
To get a
thorough understanding of oneself is to get a full control of one’s
life. Then one will find one’s life full of color and
flavor.
人老了是什么感觉
莫里斯
一天，一个年轻人问我：人老了是什么样的感觉？我一下怔住了，因为我还从来没有想到过——我已经老了。
或许在我的生命里，这是第一次，我感觉我活出了理想中的自我。很多时候，我也对自己的身体感觉绝望：满脸的皱纹，松弛的眼袋，下垂的屁股。我也常常因为看到镜中老态龙钟的自己而感到震惊，但我不会为这些事情痛苦不堪。
我永远也不会去用真挚的友谊，精彩的生活或温馨的亲情，去换取少一些白发和扁平的肚子。我老了，也就更懂得去善待自己，对自己少了些苛刻。我成了我自己的朋友。我不会因为自己多吃了一片甜饼，或没有整理床铺，或花钱买了自己根本不需要的膨胀螺丝而斥责自己。我老了，我就有资格去大吃大喝，邋里邋遢。我见过太多的朋友过早的离开了这个世界，还没有来得及安心享受这伴随着年老而来的宝贵的自由。
如果我愿意，我可以看书，玩电脑一直到凌晨四点，然后再一觉睡到过午，这又关别人什么事呢？
如果我愿意，我可以独自一人听着五六十年代的优美旋律而翩然起舞；如果我愿意，我可以为我逝去的爱情一洒伤心之泪，想哭就哭……
如果我愿意，我可以穿着被发福的身体蹦得紧紧的泳装在海滩上悠然漫步，然后纵情跃入海浪之中，才不管那些身着比基尼的人向我投来的怜悯目光。她们也会变老的。
我知道，我的记性不好了。可话又说回来，生活中有些事情该忘记的就要忘记。当我到达生命的终点时，我只带上一生中那些最美好的回忆。
我竟有这样的福气，黑发变成了银丝，青春的欢笑在我的脸上雕刻出了道道皱纹。有多少人，还没有开心的笑过；又有多少人，还没有熬到皓首就已经悲戚地离去。我说“不”就是不，我说“行”就是行。当你慢慢老去的时候，你就会变得更加豁达，你就会更不在乎别人对你的看法。
我不再自我怀疑，我甚至修来了可以犯错的权利。
我喜欢现在的我。我不会长生不死，但只要我活着，我不会浪费生命去悔恨过往，也不会为将来而忧虑。每天餐后，我还要吃香甜的点心——
这就是年老的感觉，我喜欢年老，它给了我自由。
One day, a young man inquired of me, "What is it like to
be elderly?" For a moment, I was taken aback, as this was a
question I had never pondered before – I had already reached an
advanced age.
Perhaps for the first time in my life, I felt that I had truly lived up to my ideal self. While I often experienced moments of despair over the physical changes in my body – the wrinkles on my face, drooping eyelids, and sagging skin – these did not define me or cause me undue distress.
I would never exchange my genuine friendships, fulfilling life experiences, or warm family bonds for fewer gray hairs or a flatter abdomen. With age, I have learned to be more compassionate towards myself and less critical. I have become my own best friend. I no longer berate myself for indulgences such as eating an extra cookie, neglecting to make the bed, or purchasing unnecessary items. As I grow older, I have earned the right to indulge in small pleasures and embrace a more relaxed lifestyle. I have witnessed too many friends depart this world prematurely, without experiencing the precious freedom that comes with aging.
If I wish, I can read books or use the computer until four in the morning and sleep until noon. What does it matter to others? If I desire, I can dance alone to the melodies of the 50s and 60s; if I choose, I can shed tears for lost love whenever I feel the need. If I want, I can stroll on the beach in a swimsuit, unbothered by the judgmental glances from those in bikinis. They too will grow old one day.
I acknowledge that my memory is not as sharp as it once was. However, there are aspects of life that should be forgotten. When I reach the end of my journey, I will carry only the most beautiful memories with me.
I am grateful that my black hair has turned silver and that laughter from my youth has etched lines on my face. How many people never had the chance to laugh joyfully? How many left this world in sorrow before reaching old age? When I say "no," it means no, and when I say "yes," it means yes. With age comes a broader perspective and less concern for others' opinions.
I no longer doubt myself. I have even earned the right to make mistakes.
I appreciate who I am now. Life is finite, but while I live, I will not waste it on regretting the past or worrying about the future. After every meal, I still savor a sweet treat...
This is what it feels like to be elderly. I cherish being old because it grants me freedom.
Perhaps for the first time in my life, I felt that I had truly lived up to my ideal self. While I often experienced moments of despair over the physical changes in my body – the wrinkles on my face, drooping eyelids, and sagging skin – these did not define me or cause me undue distress.
I would never exchange my genuine friendships, fulfilling life experiences, or warm family bonds for fewer gray hairs or a flatter abdomen. With age, I have learned to be more compassionate towards myself and less critical. I have become my own best friend. I no longer berate myself for indulgences such as eating an extra cookie, neglecting to make the bed, or purchasing unnecessary items. As I grow older, I have earned the right to indulge in small pleasures and embrace a more relaxed lifestyle. I have witnessed too many friends depart this world prematurely, without experiencing the precious freedom that comes with aging.
If I wish, I can read books or use the computer until four in the morning and sleep until noon. What does it matter to others? If I desire, I can dance alone to the melodies of the 50s and 60s; if I choose, I can shed tears for lost love whenever I feel the need. If I want, I can stroll on the beach in a swimsuit, unbothered by the judgmental glances from those in bikinis. They too will grow old one day.
I acknowledge that my memory is not as sharp as it once was. However, there are aspects of life that should be forgotten. When I reach the end of my journey, I will carry only the most beautiful memories with me.
I am grateful that my black hair has turned silver and that laughter from my youth has etched lines on my face. How many people never had the chance to laugh joyfully? How many left this world in sorrow before reaching old age? When I say "no," it means no, and when I say "yes," it means yes. With age comes a broader perspective and less concern for others' opinions.
I no longer doubt myself. I have even earned the right to make mistakes.
I appreciate who I am now. Life is finite, but while I live, I will not waste it on regretting the past or worrying about the future. After every meal, I still savor a sweet treat...
This is what it feels like to be elderly. I cherish being old because it grants me freedom.
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