我们家宝宝5周岁，最近老是摸自己的小鸡鸡，还在妈妈的腿上蹭，真的吓死我了！怎么回事啊？

在你腿上来回蹭…不行，这样肯定不行，别再让他那样做了。看下这篇文章吧，希望这能对你有帮助。

手淫

手淫的发生在小孩子当中还是很普遍的。大多数情况下，这被认为是一种自然正常的行为，任何年龄段的儿童都有可能发生。小孩子经常会在18个月大的时候就开始手淫。当他们长到3岁至5岁时，手淫的发生率是最高的，随后频率就会下降，直到小青春期。

很多家长在发现自己的孩子手淫时都会异常震惊。但家长应该谨记这一点，手淫不会对孩子的身体健康产生任何负面影响。

为什么孩子会手淫

*快感——孩子很快就能发现，手淫能让他们感觉很爽。

*自我解压——对大多数孩子来说，手淫能缓解紧张感。这些孩子在感觉压抑，枯燥和难过时就会手淫。

*好奇——孩子对他们的身体充满好奇，而手淫就是他们好奇心的一个结果。

*置之不理——家长们不要对孩子的这一行为反应过头。你应该知道这一点，手淫对孩子的身体健康是没有危害的。如果你的反应过激，很有可能会给他们造成心理负担。

*不用大惊小怪——手淫在孩子当中还是非常普遍的，孩子在公共场合下手淫也很正常。

手淫的确应该是件很隐秘的事情。然而，大多数小孩子还不懂得这一点。因此，家长们必须教会他们。家长们应该告诉孩子，在公用场合下手淫是不能被人接受的，这就像是在人前抠鼻子一样，是很不光彩的。

*解释——家长们应该向孩子解释，手淫应该是一件在私下里做的事情，比如在他自己的房间或洗手间里。家长应该这样说，“在你自己的房间或洗手间里做这个是没有关系的，但不要在超市里或有其他人在场的情况下做”。不要批评，指责或惩罚孩子，平静地、客观地对待这件事就可以了。

*提供其他选择——在公共场合下，家长们应该给孩子找点事情干，应该建议孩子们做些其他的活动，这样他们就不会想着手淫了。

*方法保持一致——如果孩子在幼儿园手淫，家长应该和幼儿园的老师共同制定解决方案。家长和其他人对待孩子手淫的态度和方法应该保持一致，这一点是非常重要的。

孩子手淫的习惯也有可能导致一些问题，虽然这种情况很少见。以下情况发生时家长们应该寻求卫生保健专家的帮助。

Toni V. answers from Mountain View

Rubbing himself against your leg....NO, don't let him do that. Here is an article on the subject .....I hope it helps.

MASTURBATION

Masturbation is quite common in young children. In most cases, it is considered a natural, normal behavior in children of all ages. Children often begin masturbating at around eighteen months of age. Masturbation tends to peak when children are between the ages of three and five. It then declines in frequency until puberty.

Many parents are surprised and/or shocked to find their children masturbating. Parents should keep in mind that masturbation generally causes no physical harm to their children. In most cases, problems result only when adults overreact.

For parents to deal with their children's masturbation they must know when it is normal and when it might indicate some underlying problem.

Why Children Masturbate

*Pleasure. Children learn very quickly that it feels good to masturbate.

*Self-soothing. For many children, masturbation reduces tension. These children may masturbate when they are upset, tired, bored, or feeling stress.

*Exploration. Many children will masturbate as part of the natural curiosity they have about their bodies.

What Parents Can Do

*Ignore it. Masturbation is, after all, a normal behavior for most children. Parents can best handle it by treating it matter-of-factly. Parents shouldn't try to get their children to stop masturbating by punishing, threatening or scolding. If they do, they run the risk of giving their children the idea that their genitals are bad and/or dirty.

*Remain calm. Parents should try not to overreact. They should also keep in mind that no physical harm will come to their children as a result of masturbation. If parents overreact, they may put fear into their children about their bodies.

*Don't be surprised. Masturbation among young children is very common, and quite normal.

When Children Masturbate in Public Places

Masturbation is something that should be done in private. Most young children, however, don't know the difference between public and private behaviors. In these cases, children must be taught. Parents should treat public masturbation as they would any other behavior that is not acceptable in public places, for example, nose picking. Here are some specific things that can be done to minimize masturbation in public places.

*Explain. If parents discover their children masturbating in a public place, they should tell their children that is something that should be done only in private, for example, in the children's bedroom or the bathroom. Parents should use words like, "It's all right to do that in the bathroom or the bedroom, but not in the grocery store or when other people are around." Parents should try not to criticize, nag, or punish their children. They should treat the behavior matter-of-factly.

*Offer alternatives. Parents should provide their children with something else to do with their hands while they are in public. They could also try to distract their children from masturbating by suggesting some other activity.

*Be consistent. If children, for example, masturbate while they are at day care, parents should work out a solution with their children's day care provider. It is important that the behavior be treated in the same way by parents and by other care providers.

When to Seek Help

On rare occasions, children's masturbation habits may be an indicator of other problems. Parents should consult their children's health care provider if:

*Children's masturbation interferes with their social interactions.

*Techniques to eliminate public masturbation have failed.

*Parents have any concerns about their children's well being.

*Parents feel that their children are possibly not masturbating, but scratching or rubbing the genital area because of discomfort. It may be possible that such children have an infection or a rash.

*Masturbation is constant.

很简单，他这样做，是因为这样很舒服，他还没有自我意识。我的孩子还是个小婴儿时就发现了这个“小秘密”，而且到现在都没停下来。这应该是个好机会让他懂得，如果他想，是可以触摸他的“小弟弟”的，但不应该在公共场合下摸；让他懂得，谁也不能在公共场合下触摸“小弟弟”，也不能触摸别人的“小弟弟”（别忘了向他解释例外情况，比方医生给他做检查时）。之后，你还应该和孩子再继续几次这样的谈话，但要简短，语气要平和。我不会因为孩子手淫而惩罚他，除非我在反复告诫他后，他还用“小弟弟”蹭我的腿。 孩子手淫只是个很正常，很自然的现象，所以请不要让他感到难堪。只是他需要知道，在什么场合，什么时间手淫是可以的，而且更重要的是，他需要学习保护自己的隐私。

very simply, he does it because it feels good and he hasn’t yet learned to be self conscious. mine discovered his when he was an infant and hasnt stopped messing with it since! its a good teaching opportunity, he should be learningthat he can touch his privates if he wants to, but in private. and the same way that nobody should be touching his privates, he shouldnt be touching his privates to anyone else, or touching anyone elses privates. (dont forget to explain about exceptions, like the doctor with you present, so you dont get a minor freak out like i did yesterday when the doc needed to examine him)... this should be an ongoing conversation, short and sweet. i would definitely not give him time out for this, holy therapy! unless of course he keeps rubbing on you after you have clearly and repeatedly taught him not to, then maaaaybe. but i would never punish him for touching himself, its as natural as it gets, please dont shame him. he just needs to learn that there is a time and a place, and most importantly he needs to learn safety/privacy guidelines.

这不属于“行为不轨”，这只是一个小男孩碰巧发现了让他感觉很舒服的事。告诉他，永远都不要在你腿上蹭，这本身应该是件很私密的事情。

别把这事想得太严重，其实没有什么好担忧的。

it's not 'deviant', it's just a little guy who has discovered something that feels good. tell him he may not ever rub it on you and may only explore it in private. don't make a big deal over it. there's nothing to be so worried about.

手淫的发生在小孩子当中是非常普遍的。大多数情况下，这不会对他们的身体造成任何危害。来自美国芒廷维尤的Toni为我们推荐了一篇很棒的文章，有同样问题的家长不妨仔细阅读下。

总之，美国妈妈的一致建议是：这没什么可担忧的，只是孩子需要懂得，在什么场合，什么时间可以手淫，另外，谁也不能在公共场合下触摸“小弟弟”，也不能触摸别人的“小弟弟”（别忘了向他解释例外情况，比方医生给他做检查时）。