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孩子在课堂上太爱表现自己,该不该纠正她?——中国妈妈问,美国妈妈答[No.72]

(2011-03-22 16:29:28)
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2011年3月22日,星期二
来自温州的潇涵妈
中国妈妈问——
我家女儿现在快5周岁了,在上中班。平时不管在什么场合,她都不怕生,也不胆怯。在幼儿园或培训班,每次老师提的问题她总是把手举的高高的,不管回答的对与不对,她总是不放过任何一次老师的提问,回答错了,她也不觉得怎么样,其实我发现很多小朋友会很细心的听其他人的回答,总结别人的经验再来回答,我也告诉她应该像其他小朋友一样,多听听大家的意见,再做回答。在那心里觉得别人回答了问题,她就没机会表现了。我想请有大家帮帮忙,给我出出招,应该怎样纠正她

美国妈妈答——
来自美国华盛顿的Jacqueline
看样子,你女儿是个自信开朗的女孩!她只有5岁,所以肯定还不懂事。将来等她长大了,有的是让她感到尴尬的地方 :)。所以,现在就让她好好欣赏自己吧,用不着太担心。等她再长大些,再成熟些,她会懂得思考后再作回答和不要过分表现自己的道理。就目前而言,如果她自己觉得这没什么不好,那你也用不着为此烦恼。不过在家里,你还是可以通过角色扮演游戏来告诫她要仔细听、仔细思考,然后再开口回答问题。但不要让她觉得,问题错了回答是件很糟糕的事,因为那样会挫败她乐观和外向的天性。
Jacqueline C. answers from Washington
You have a confident and outgoing girl! She is only 5, so she doesn't really get it yet. There will be plenty of chances as she gets older to be embarrassed, lol, so just let her enjoy herself for now and don't fret too much about it. The thinking about answers and not doing it for show will come in time and with maturity. If she's not bothered by it, and there's really no harm done, you shouldn't let it get to you either. Enjoy her enthusiasm. You can still work with her on listening and answering appropriately at home, like modeling it for her and doing some role playing, just make sure she doesn't start feeling bad about answering wrong because that may squash the natural enthusiasm and outgoingness she has.


来自美国圣巴勃罗市的Cheryl
在我看来,你女儿只是想在班上作个活跃分子,她并不担心犯错误。这两点听上去还不错啊,我不知道你为什么想要改变她。如果她的答案不正确,我相信老师和其他同学会纠正过来的,这样,她既能学到东西,也能融到班级体中来。
Cheryl B. answers from San Pablo
It sounds like to me your daughter wants to be involved in the class and she does not worry about making mistakes. Both of these things seem to be good as far as I can see so I don't know why you would want to change it. If she gives the wrong answer, then I'm sure the teacher or another student corrects it, so she's learning and just trying to be part of the class.

来自美国比奇港的Kathy
这表明你女儿非常有自信,她能当着全班同学的面自如发表意见,即便她的回答是错误的,是有瑕疵的,她也不会感到畏惧。这是个不错的个性,要知道,有一些孩子太过腼腆,他们甚至都没有勇气举起手来问问题。随着她年龄的增长,她会懂得要多思考的,懂得应该在什么时候表现自己,什么时候闭上嘴巴听别人说。但就目前而言,她正在享受学校给她带来的快乐,她想要多多参与到学校生活中来,这真的是个不错的开始。
Kathy D. answers from Beach Haven
At this age/.grade level, it shows you daughter has self confidence enough to speak in front of the group without fear of embarrassment of being wrong or whatever. It is an important characteristic in school, there are children who are so shy they can't even raise their hand to ask a question when they don't understand something. As she gets older she will think more about it and make more choices of when to "show herself" and when to listen. But for now, she is enjoying school and wanting to participate and that's a good start!!

来自芒特霍利的Dawn
别担心——她挺好的。能有个如此自信的孩子该有多好啊。
总有一天,当她再给出一个错误答案时,她会体会到另一种感受的——尴尬。那个时候,她就懂得应该先思考后举手回答问题了。
Dawn B. answers from Mount Holly
Don't worry about it - she's doing just fine. How lovely that she has self-confidence.
Eventually when she gets answers wrong, she'll start feeling something else - embarrassment. Then she'll be less likely to raise her hand unless she knows the answer.

来自美国詹姆斯敦的Grandma
你女儿非常可爱,至少她一点也不害羞和胆小。这只是她成长过程中的一个阶段。事实上,她的行为也在鼓舞其他孩子。她正在用行动告诉别人,即便她不知道正确的答案,她也不害怕犯错误。在我看来这点很好。听上去她的自尊心很强。不错。
Grandma T answers from Jamestown
cute, at least she's not all shy and timid. It's just a phase. She's OKAY. Actually, she's inspiring the other kids.... she's showing that even if she doesn’t know the correct answer she isn’t afraid of being wrong. That's a good thing in my book. Sounds like she has good self esteem Mom. good job!

来自美国托皮卡的KansasMom
正常,正常,再正常不过了!!!让幼儿园的老师来处理这件事好了…不要打击孩子的积极性,以免她以后不愿意当众讲话,也不敢把自己的想法表达出来。我想她只是不想错过回答问题的机会罢了,而这种想法在她这么大的孩子中间是非常正常的。
KansasMom answers from Topeka
Normal Normal Normal!! Allow your kindergarten teacher to handle this...and don't discourage your child from being willing to speak up and put her thoughts into words. She really DOESNT want to miss the excitement of being able to answer the question...and that is so very typical of this age!!

来自美国罗斯维尔的ML B.
我认为这很正常,没什么可担忧的。
告诉她在回答问题前要先思考。她或许只是觉得很兴奋或想要引起别人的关注。这其实没什么可担忧的,随着年龄的增长,她会感到尴尬的,到时候她自己就会停下来。
ML B. answers from Roseville
I think it's okay. Nothing for you to be totally freaked out about.
Tell her to try and think first before she answers a question.
She might just be excited or need attention.
It's okay and as she ages and feels embarrassed she will most likely grow out of it. Nothing to be alarmed about in my opinion. :)

来自美国俄克拉何马城的Gamma
我在托儿所工作了13年,我知道所有的孩子都会经历这个阶段。事实上,在他们上初中前都会有这样的行为。在小学里,每一个孩子都会举手回答问题,但很少能回答正确。他们可都是些11岁左右的大孩子了,可还是有这样的行为。因此,你的孩子很正常,随着她思想的成熟,她会停下来的。
Gamma G answers from Oklahoma City
I have over 13 years in child care and ALL kids do that until they are much older. It's not something they think about until closer to Jr. High.
Today in Primary every kid in the room raised their hand to answer the questions and none of them guessed right. They are up to age 11, they were still doing just this. It's normal and something they grow out of as their minds mature.


米妈妈建议:
这次,接受采访的美国妈妈意见非常一致:你的孩子非常可爱,也非常自信,她敢当着全班同学的面自如发表意见,即便她的回答是错误的,是有瑕疵的,她也不会感到畏惧。真的没什么可担忧的,随着她年龄的增长,这样的行为就会消失的。
不过在家里,你还是可以通过角色扮演游戏来告诫她要仔细听、仔细思考,然后再开口回答问题。但不要让她觉得,问题错了回答是件很糟糕的事,因为那样会挫败她乐观和外向的天性。

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