孩子不爱说话,喜欢背广告词,看电视,是正常现象吗——中国妈妈问,美国妈妈答[No.48]

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2011年2月15日,星期二
来自北京的家鹏妈
中国妈妈问——
我家孩子6岁了,不爱说话有时候大人说话他不理解。特别喜欢玩电脑、手机、看电视,只要给他手机电脑他就更不说话了,孩子智力我不知到是不是有问题?还有我教他古诗,让他念5遍以后就会背了。还能模仿电视里边广告语。他看电视也是喜欢看广告、音乐。请问专家和各位家长这样的孩子正常吗。真诚的希望给予解答。我在这里先谢谢你们。
美国妈妈答——
来自美国帕罗奥图的Trudy
从你的描述中,我很难判断出你的孩子是否正常。不过我认为,如果你能带他去看儿童心理学家或儿童精神病学家,应该是个不错的主意。如果孩子在学校里也有异于其它孩子的表现,那你应该带孩子做下儿童心理教育方面的测试,以此来判断孩子是不是患有学习障碍或发育障碍。祝你好运。
我本人是一名儿童精神病学家,从业达16年之久。另外,我结婚已经22年了,有两个孩子,一个20岁,一个14岁。
Trudy H. answers from Palo
Alto
I can't tell, just from what you
have said, if your child id "normal", but it sounds as if getting
an assessment from a child psychiatrist or psychologist would be a
good idea. If there are any problems in school, you should ask for
psychoeducational testing to determine if there are any learning
disabilities or developmental disorders. Good luck.
A little about me: Child
psychiatrist, practicing 16 years, married 22 years with two kids
ages 20 and 14.
来自美国蒂莫尼姆的Brenda
你的描述并没有提供足够的信息,因此很难判断孩子是否正常。不过,他不爱说话,听不懂大人说话的确令人担忧。我要是你,肯定会带他去看儿科医生。
另外,我还要建议,如果有可能的话,不要让孩子长时间接触电脑和电视。一些患学习障碍或发育障碍的孩子通常会被某些特定的事情牢牢吸引,比如看电视,或听音乐,因此,这就有点像到底是“鸡生蛋还是蛋生鸡”的问题了:到底他是因为患发育障碍或学习障碍,才喜欢玩电脑、手机和看电视的,还是因为他太喜欢玩电脑、手机和看电视,才不爱说话呢?
如果你在减少他看电视的时间后情况有了改善,那问题就好解决了;但是如果情况没有任何改变,那你就真的需要带孩子去看医生了。
我不是医学专家,因此我不能确定我的建议就一定管用。请一定和孩子的儿科医生好好谈谈,或者学校里的老师也能为你提供一些信息,这或许会有帮助的。
Brenda P. answers from
Lutherville Timonium
Not enough info to say if it's
"normal" or not. The talking little and not understanding what
adults are talking about are concerning. I'd definitely bring that
up with the pediatrician.
I'd certainly recommend less
technology, if at all possible. Some kids who have disorders
gravitate toward specific things (like TV or music), so it's kinda
a chicken and egg thing: is he doing them a lot because he has a
disorder of some kind OR is he not talking, etc. because he spends
a lot of time with technology? If you lessen the amount of TV,
computer, etc. and things improve, that's your answer. If they
don't improve, that gives you different info to work
with.
I'm not a medical professional,
so I can't say what I think could be going on. Definitely talk to
your pediatrician and perhaps teachers at school can help give you
information or input that might help.
来自美国莫德斯托的Laura
他或许只是有些内向,但我认为你应该深入观察他的行为。和他的儿科医生好好谈谈——把你所有的担心都记在纸上,这样你在和医生谈的时候就不会漏掉什么了。带他去做下测试,看他是不是患有语言发育迟缓,自闭症相关的发育障碍,或其他精神方面的问题。另外,你还需要和学校里的老师好好沟通下,看他们是不是也发现了什么令人担忧的行为。如果,他只是性格内向,那你需要做的只是缩短他看电视,玩电脑和手机的时间,并鼓励他多和其他小朋友玩;但如果孩子是精神方面的问题,那你就需要寻求帮助了,他也需要有个丰富多彩的生活。
Laura D. answers from
Modesto
He may just be introverted, but I
do think his behavior warrants looking into. Talk to his
pediatrician-make a list of all your concerns so as not to forget
any. Have him evaluated for speech delay, and the autism spectrum
of disorders, and emotional issues. Discuss your concerns with his
school - have they noticed the any concerning behavior? If it turns
out he's just introverted, then you can just limit his tech time
and encourage more interactive play. If he has any mental health
issues then you can get him the help he needs to lead a productive
life.
来自美国芒特霍利的Dawn
限制你儿子看电视,玩电脑和手机的时间。他需要找些其它有趣的事儿来做,比如你给他读书或陪他玩拼图游戏。要逐渐减少他看电视,玩电脑和手机的时间,当他没在做这些事情时,你要给他足够的关注。
Dawn B. answers from Mount
Holly
Please limit the amount of time
your son spends on the computer, cell phone and TV. He needs other
stimulation in his life. Read a lot of books to him, play puzzles,
etc. Wean him off gradually, putting time restraints on his use,
little by little. Give him a lot of attention when he's not playing
on these things.
来自美国森尼韦尔的Clare
仅从你的描述很难判断出你的孩子是否正常。有人或许会认为他患有自闭症,因为逐字逐句地背广告语或拥有良好的记忆力的确是阿斯珀格氏综合症(自闭症的一种)患者的典型表现;而非语言性学习障碍则是自闭症另一典型症状。
或许有些人会担忧,给孩子扣上自闭症或其他什么精神疾病的帽子到底好不好,但请记住,只有得到一个确切的诊断才能为你指明方向,才能让你正确地帮助你的孩子,并且在一些情况下还能得到补偿(比如从保险公司或学区)。
Clare M. answers from
Sunnyvale
Its hard to tell from one
paragraph if your son is typical and just very into technology, or
if there is more reason to be concerned.
Some people are mentioning autism
because things like "reciting ad slogans from TV word by word" and
"good memory" are not unusual in people with Aspergers Syndrome. (a
high functioning type of autism). "Non-verbal learning disorder (or
disability)" is another popular diagnosis.
Some people worry about giving
there a child a label, but remember the reason to get a diagnois is
to point you in the right direction for information on how to help
your son, and in some cases, to qualify for services (through the
school district or insurance companies.)
米妈妈建议:
孩子的种种表现的确令人担忧,因此,你应该更深入地观察孩子的情况。和他的儿科医生好好谈谈——把你所有的担忧都记在纸上,这样,你在和医生谈的时候就不会漏掉信息了。另外,再带他去做下测试,看他是不是患有语言发育迟缓,自闭症相关的发育障碍,或其他精神方面的问题。