< Lie To Me >

I am enjoying an American series these days which is called < Lie To Me >. In this series, Dr. Cal Lightman and his colleagues tell us how to see through one’s fraud, how to judge one person if he is honest only by his micro-expression_r.

Looking at your eyes, watching every detail of your action, listening to your voice and shaking hand with you all can let Dr. Cal Lightman to know whether you are telling the truth. Facing the human lie detector like them, on one dares to tell lies.

There are some methods that I learned from the series, for example:

The expression_r of fear and surprise last over one seconds on your face, it’s the evidence of telling lie.

When you trump up a succession of things, you may describe it vividly in the normal order because you have prepared it. But you can’t describe it from the end correctly, because you have never experienced it.

If one person shows disdain to your question, you touch him on his most sensitive spot and maybe your doubt is right.

When you try to recall you memory, your eyeball will turn move to the lower left corner, but when you tell the lie, you don’t need any time to recall it.…

There are many tips like these to teach us how to see through the lie. There is an other point which make this series attractive. All the theory came out from the episode can be integrated with the reality. We saw the shame and embarrassment from Clinton when he talked about the “zipper-gate”. We saw the symbolic sign of despise and and disdain from Obama and Mccain when they were debating during the general election. This series also analyze the expression_r from Diana, Bush, Saddam, etc. We can get the lesson from almost every episode and try to practice them in our lives.

In the beginning of this series, it tell us that one person may tell 3 lies in his 10 words. I think it is not exaggerated, especially in this complex socity, it is not that you want to tell the lie, but that the situation forces you to tell the lie.

I like this series not because I want to be the one like Dr. Cal Lightman, to learn the skill of judging others. But I want to learn the skill of telling a perfect lie in the proper time which will never be exposed. We all know that there is a problem with telling a lie, there are so many other lies you have to come up with. I don’t want to do that, it will mess up my life. But I do need some lies in my life, because the fact is that truth or happiness, never both. Sometime we tell a white lie merely to protect someone, to prevent the situation from deteriorating. We are not malicious. When we clearly know the boundary of the black and white, we can be allowed to tell the lie to others.

It is a successful and meaningful series. But there is something that happened out of people’s expectation. It also set off a trust crisis in the society between husbands and wives, teachers and students, bosses and employees… some people tend to doubt the other under the instruction from < Lie To Me > and others feel themselves like transparent man who doesn’t dare to say any words. A father made his complaint on the web-side: I told my son that there was something wrong with the television so as to let him do the homework, not to watch TV. But he said, No, I know you lied, you put your hand on the forehead, that’s the sign of lying. I learned it from <Lie To Me>. Now, more and more people are wondering whether they should love or hate this big hit.

Actually, I had a dream when I was in the elementary school. I wanted to be a psychologist. I thought it was magic to find out people’s true feelings through appearance. But I changed my mind when I knew more about psychology. I can’t live in a world without lies and secret. I don’t want to talk with my friends with judging eyes. It is always said that people will never fell in love with a person who is a psychologist, even if they get married, they will never get the happy ending. Maybe it’s true. Dr. Cal Lightman’s divorce supported that opinion. We are human beings, we have our private room, we don’t want be stark-naked in front of anyone.

Undoubtedly, the skill of detecting is helpful when we face some sticky case. But it can also hurt people, destroy friendship, kinship and loveship. So we must know how to use the skill properly, to make our work more efficient and effective.