http://s11/middle/5e39039fg8c731d5e7d8a&690(文by纽约飘雪）

前几天在我们的家庭医生那儿看到一篇很有意思的文章。是从一个男人眼中看女人。以前看过《Men from Mars, Women from Venus》，写的很好的一本书，解析了男女间的不同，推荐所有在磨合期的couple参考。这篇文章和《Men from Mars, Women from Venus》不一样，没有一点点的理论分析，只是写下一件件的事，和一些想法。表面看似乎很凌乱，不知所谓，但其实字里行间透着男人看不懂女人的无奈，略想一下，很是好笑。这里摘录一点和大家分享。

“You’re not a mystery, exactly.  Nor enigmatic.  It’s just that your hard drive is internal.  You have no flashing lights.”你其实一点也不神秘，真的。也不高深莫测。只不过你什么事都藏在心里，不和我们分享。你也没有指示灯（脾气瞬间变化，又没有预兆，让我无从防备，每次搞到手足无措。），否则我可以提前想好对策http://www/uc/myshow/blog/misc/gif/E___6701ZHE1SIGG.gif

“You like some of the songs that we like.  You like some other songs that we pretend to like.  You don’t even pretend to like Springsteen.(What’s the matter with you?)”有些歌我们都喜欢。还有一些歌，你喜欢，我们就假装也喜欢。但你不喜欢Springsteen，居然连假装一下都不肯。（你看我们男人会迁就女人，你呢，就不知道要迁就一下我们。）

“You cheat as much as we do, which is too bad for us, because we’re more trusting.”你和我们一样，会和别人玩儿暧昧、出轨。可是这对我们来说太糟了，因为我们很信任你（不像你们女人，整天疑神疑鬼的）。

“You’re more patient than we are, but your patience is far from infinite, and your rage, once triggered, runs deeper.”你是比我们有耐心，但你的耐心也不是无限的。而且一旦触发了你的脾气，太可怕了！！http://www/uc/myshow/blog/misc/gif/E___6723ZHE1SIGG.gif

“You know how to hold a grudge.  And yet you’ll stick with us for longer than is sensible for you.”你很会记仇，但你却一直和我们腻在一起。搞不懂啊。。。

“You look better to us when you drink beer out of the bottle, when you play bass guitar in an otherwise all-male band, when you wear cotton briefs rather than a thong, and when you wear clear nail polish or none at all.  You also look awesome in a flannel shirt.  Apparently, you look best to us when you look like a man—specifically, a drunk lumberjack with rhythm.  That doesn’t make any sense, either.”。。。（其实你穿男人的衬衣、做男人的举止的时候，很性感。男人对女人的性感有不一样的定义）

“The Catholic-schoolgirl thing is hard to explain but, absolutely, yes.”。。。（男人对学生制服，对内心保守、表面狂野的女性，完全没有抵抗力）

“Then one day we all went on a ski trip, and on the way home you sat beside us on the bus, and you put your head on our shoulder and we thought we had a chance, but you were just tired from skiing.”滑雪回来的车上，你把头靠在我肩上。我还以为这下有机会了呢。原来你只是滑雪玩儿太累了。唉。。。（可怜的孩子http://www/uc/myshow/blog/misc/gif/E___6725ZHE1SIGG.gif）

“If you have children and someone has wronged them, you’re just as capable of violence as we are.  The difference is, you would use a knife.”如果有人伤害了你的孩子，你可以和我们男人一样暴力。不同的是，你会直接上刀子。

“You’ll still catch yourself wondering what your life would have been like with him long after we’ve forgotten about her.”在我们早就把前女友抛到九霄云外的时候，你还在想着你的旧情人：如果我当时和他在一起，现在会怎么样呢。。。唉。。。

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就像T对于我对首饰、包包、鞋子、时装的热情难以理解，于是选择放任自流。而我永远在问题或矛盾出现的时候选择相信T，因为他值得。有时候男女之间不需要搞的一清二楚，需要的只是信任和包容。