We all want to make positive changes in our lives, but can't seem to stop certain behaviors.

Last night my mom said to me: "in fact, I very much hope that self are calm, but always can not restrain myself when I see some things not just as one wishes. Yep I know this is a typical self-destructive behavior but I continue to do them. Is there an opportunity to change this?”- She refers to her grumpy. yes, her violent temper always got her into scrapes. but I swear she was a good, kind woman.

This is such an excellent question, because I think we can all relate to this, can’t we? Who among us doesn’t do self-destructive behaviors from time to time, if not on a regular basis? but what she said surprised me because in my whole memory she never shows so modest. on the contrary, she has been very mighty. We are like her strong but somewhat childish personality.

I don't know how to answer her words but I can unequivocally say yes, these behaviors can be changed. I’m living proof of that.

I began to reduce stay up late, changed my eating habits completely from junk food to pretty darn healthy, went from sedentary to active, got out of angst, got rid of clutter, just to name a few of the changes I made. These all went from destructive to positive behaviors.

And trust me, I’m no superman. It seems that I might seem disciplined and a model of self-mastery to an outsider, but from within I have always felt undisciplined, a procrastinator, with a distinct lack of self-control. I never thought I could make changes, but I did, and especially in difficult situations!!!

November 24, 2014.

© Ilya A. Petrovich