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2008年11月。有一件事让我非常惊奇，我用眼神接触每个人，并对他们微笑，通过用中文说“你好”，但没有一个人回应，或回以微笑（每个人用困惑的眼神盯着我）。
事实上，这是我第一次访问中国。当时我的第一反应是：中国人不友好，或者更糟的是，很粗鲁。事实上，像我一样，很多外国人（尤其是西方人）有一个艰难的心理调整过程，对于这个看似冰冷的行为。但后来我开始明白，这种看起来‘冷漠’的态度并不意味着恶意，或许这仅仅是一种文化，一种习惯。因为中国人一般都不会对一个陌生人微笑或与他们随意的交谈
- 无论是对一个外国人，还是对一个中国人。
然而，一旦最初的坚冰被打破，许多人将非常友好和慷慨的邀请你去他们的家，和你交换电子邮件和即时通讯地址。
所以，要了解一个人的思维定式（心态），必须了解其最具影响力的文化根源，即使在当时的情感逻辑和事实背道而驰...否则，你将很容易陷入一个错误的认知。
但信任应该是双向的，也应当被理解为一个良好的沟通至关重要的因素之一。
...我们的诚实和开放将产生自发的透明度和合作伙伴。
不管我们来自何方，我认为“理解和相互尊重”应当成为我们永恒的主题，因为我们生活在同一片天空下！！这就是为什么上帝说，“这是正确的”。我们的存在和我们永恒的幸福完全依赖于双方的真诚，友好和善良，无论是与我们自己的亲人、朋友相处，还是与其他陌生人相处。
请注意，这只是个人经验，不能被视为普遍。
2013年10月28日。
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Cognition
November 2008, One thing that freaked me out was
the fact that I would make eye contact, smile and say “hello” to
passing Chinese…but not a single person responded or smiled back
(instead staring back with confused
looks).
In fact , this is my first visit to China. At
that time my first reaction was: Chinese people unfriendly, or
worse, rude. Indeed and like me, many foreigners (especially
westerners) have a hard time adjusting to this seemingly cold
behavior. But then I began to understand that this kind looks'
indifference' attitude does not mean that a malicious, Perhaps this
is just a kind of culture, and a kind of
habit. Because the Chinese are generally not good
for a stranger a smile or casual conversation--either for a
foreigner or chinese.
Yet once the initial ice is
broken, many will be exceedingly friendly and generous—inviting you
to visit their home and wanting to exchange email and IM
addresses.
SO, to understand the a person's mind-set
(Mentality ), one has to understand its most influential cultural
roots, and even then emotions will run counter to logic and fact...
otherwise, you will easily into the error of
cognition.
But trust is something that should be mutual and
also should be understood as one of the most essential factors in a
good communication. ... Honesty and openness on our part will
create spontaneous transparency in the partner as
well.
No matter where we come from, I think that
"UNDERSTANDING AND MUTUAL RESPECT" should be our eternal theme, and
because we have the same sky!! this is why God says, "It is right."
Our very existence and our eternal wellbeing are wholly dependent
on both the sincerity, amicable and kindness whether it is with our
own relatives, friends get along, or get along with other
strangers.
Please
note, this is just personal experience, can not regarded as
universal.
October 28, 2013.
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