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好好的一个夜就因为我的冲动变得不完美了，每当事情发生后就会情不自禁地责问自己，为何一把年纪还是老揣着冲动的魔鬼在心里驱之不去？

还是先来跟大家分享一个故事吧：一位著名的科学家小时候大概2-3岁的时候不小心将牛奶打翻在地，牛奶杯当然也碎了。正当他等着妈妈劈头盖脸般的责备的时候，妈妈不仅没有严加责备而是干脆让孩子先玩了一通打翻在地的牛奶，然后又启发孩子如何才能做到不将手中的杯子打破（下面附有原文）。就是这样一位母亲不断激励着启发着儿子，最后儿子成了伟大的科学家。

这个故事，或者说类似于此的故事，我早已读了千百回。可是当事情发生在我自己身上的时候，我依然会将所有的修养和优雅丢弃，犯下许多明知故犯的错误。这一夜就已经无法挽回：

本来难得一个晚上能全程陪伴妙妙，她也格外开心和满足。缠着我为她读了一本书，继又开始涂鸦。不知何故妙妙手中的一支颜料笔不小心被折断了。这时候我母亲就说：噢，你把颜料笔折断啦？妙妙听了不言语，继续把玩她的颜料笔。我看着也就是一支颜料笔，兴许这笔早就断了吧，于是并未发表任何评价。在我看来几个大人同时向小孩开炮并不是什么好事情，只会增加孩子的心理负担。况且我当时觉得一支颜料笔断了也未必就是妙妙的过错。

可是事情如果就是这样也就好，就不存在今夜的缺憾了。就在我继续自顾自地忙自己的事情的时候，突然发现新的一幕——妙妙正在把每支颜料笔都横折成两半。上帝啊，她这是什么行为啊？莫非是被母亲大人提醒了她原来颜料笔还可以这样玩？还是在对我的不理不睬进行无声的抗议啊？

如果是后者，她赢了。因为我再也沉不住气了：妙妙，你在干嘛啊？为何要把颜料笔全部折断啊？对于我的疑问，妙妙非但没搭理我而且继续折断颜料笔。这丫头是不是疯了啊？我开始命令了：妙妙，把颜料笔放好了，不要这样子。那头还是继续不理继续折断颜料笔。

这个人的倔强到底是哪里学来的啊？反正我已经是好说歹说好几次了，可是她依然不听不停，继续她的“破坏”。剩下我在一边无可奈何，我的大脑开始飞速运转，究竟怎样让她停下来：妙妙，你这样折断颜料笔她会痛啊。这话不奏效，继续折断。

我开始怒不可遏了，呼的一声从座位上起来，走到她面前像老鹰抓小鸡一样把她拎起来如同一头猛兽一样：你是不是觉得你这样折断颜料笔它们不痛啊，蜡笔的妈妈会因此而伤心死的，我把你手臂折断看你痛不痛。一边说一边如同一个疯子一样我开始折妙妙的手臂。

就在那一刹那我看到妙妙眼神中的害怕和恐慌，我仿佛也听到自己内心的惊雷：你真的要这样折断妙妙的手吗？这时候妙妙开始大哭：妈妈，不要啊，会痛的。我不折颜料笔了。一边哭喊着一边又抱着我不放。似乎感觉这一刻我要把她丢下一样。每次我对妙妙发脾气她的反应都是更加缠着我不放嘴巴里拼命叫着妈妈抱抱我。严重的缺乏安全感的母爱。

看着她这样，再怎么铁石心肠的我也下不了手了。难道说颜料笔的妈妈心疼孩子被折断我就不心疼妙妙的手臂被折断吗？不过狠心的我并没有因此而“就此罢休”：那你现在去把颜料笔都收回到它们的家中吧，它们现在都很痛，需要休息了。收拾好了，我们也洗漱去休息。

这会儿她乖乖地去收拾颜料笔了。带着她去洗漱的时候，我问她究竟为何要那么做，她沉默不语。我想还是算了吧，不要逼问她了，也许她只是觉得好玩而已。今天晚上她已经很难受了，也被我的疯狂吓呆了。洗漱后我还是给她贴了一个巧虎印章原因就是最后她把她用过的东西收拾好了。（规定：如果妙妙能自己收拾好东西就能得到一枚巧虎印章）

敲下这些文字，更是深感内心的局促不安。不知道我刚才那一手下去会是什么样的结局，这会儿会是在医院内对着妙妙嚎啕大哭捶胸顿背后悔莫及吗？为什么当孩子犯错的时候，自己却要错上加错？育儿啊育儿，这条路是怎样的千转百回？

PS：附科学家的故事的原文

The Scientist out of the Spilled Milk

A famous scientist was asked why he was able to be so much more creative than the average person.What set him so far apart from others?He responded that, in his opinion,it all came from an experience with his mother that occurred when he was about two years old.

He had been trying to remove a bottle of milk from the refrigerator when he lost his grip on the slippery bottle and it fell,spilling its contents all over the kitchen floor—a veritable sea of milk!When his mother came into the kitchen,instead of yelling at him,giving him a lecture or punishing him,
she said,Robert, what a great and wonderful mess you have made!I have rarely seen such a huge puddle of milk.Well, the damage has already been done.Would you like to get down and play in the milkfor a few minutes before we clean it up?"
Indeed, he did.

After a few minutes, his mother said,You know, Robert,whenever you make a mess like this,eventually you have to clean it up and restore everything to its proper order.
So, how would you like to do that? We could use a sponge, a towel or a mop.
Which do you prefer?"He chose the sponge and together they cleaned up the spilled milk.
His mother then said,You know,what we have here is a failed experiment in how to effectively carry a big milk bottle with two tiny hands.Let’s go out in the back yard and fill the bottle with water
and see if you can discover a way to carry it without dropping it."
The little boy learned that if he grasped the bottle at the top near the lip with both hands,
he could carry it without dropping it.
What a wonderful lesson!

This renowned scientist then remarked that it was at that moment that he knew he didn’t need to be afraid to make mistakes.Instead, he learned that mistakes were just opportunities for learning something new,which is, after all,what scientific experiments are all about.Even if the experiment "doesn’t work,"we usually learn something valuable from it.Wouldn’t it be great if all parents would respond the way Robert’s mother responded to him?