In one sense, Librans are always lovers, even when they're programming computers, making political speeches or designing a garden. Everything they do, they do with refinement, grace and style. They show their best qualities in a civilised relationship which contains plenty of harmony, compromise and clear, open communication.
If you enjoy tempestuous, violent scenes with slammed doors and
smashed crockery and lots of tears and torn clothes, choose another
sign. If you're big on heavy silent atmospheres, that's not going
to go over well either. Although it's certainly possible to drive a
Libran to the point of real explosiveness, it takes a lot of work,
and afterward you'll find that, far from enjoying all that
passionate intensity, your Libran partner loathes every minute of
it, loathes you, loathes herself for reaching that disgracefully
bestial level of behaviour, and never forgets it.
If you want to discuss love problems with a Libra, you must discuss
them. With words, in clear, logical, grammatically sound sentences.
You can't just emote. And make sure you temper your accusations
with a good helping of, "Yes, I know that part is my fault",
because otherwise the Libran sense of fairness will be offended. In
short, learn diplomacy.
It can all get too intellectualized for some people. Libra is capable of spending hours discussing a relationship - what's wrong with it, what's right with it, how "we" (don't forget the royal Libran "we") can make it better. In the end, Librans, for all their extraordinary intelligence, can show a surprisingly small capacity to act on these ideals in an emotionally convincing way.
Libra's feeling nature is quite childlike, very powerful, and usually repressed. When they become horribly rational and discuss emotions like a political debate with pros, cons, and suggested fair compromises, you might feel like doing something really basic, like setting the house on fire and screaming. Yet having a reasonable partner can be a great boon. It means you can reason with her.
Of course there are times when reason has no place in love, and
this is often Libra's most difficult and painful lesson. You may
wait a long time for your Libra partner to offer a genuine and
spontaneous emotional response which hasn't been thought out
carefully first. But if you can truly understand and respect
Libra's need for harmony and civilized behaviors, it can make a big
difference.
Librans can be gently coaxed into trusting their emotions, if the
relationship is mutually respectful. But they can't become somebody
else. If you can't accept the innate Libran tendency to rely on
reason, try something a little more explosive, like an Aries or a
Scorpio. The need for companionship makes Libra very companionable,
and if you're a ferociously independent type who likes to do
everything alone, you may have a difficult time with Libra, who
likes to do everything together.
They aren't in the least bit weak. Far from it, Librans can be
determined, tenacious and unstoppable if they believe in an ideal.
It's just that they're people-lovers, and even a quiet, introverted
Libra needs an understanding and interested mate and companion with
whom to share ideals and dreams. Librans are deeply interested in
making relationships work, and if you get involved with a Libran,
you're the beneficiary of that romantic idealism. For such a
priceless gift, it's well worth learning to communicate with your
Libran partner rather than just dissolving into tears or shouting
and slamming the door.
The Libra woman loves beauty, style and elegance. But don't let
that fool you into thinking she's shallow or superficial. She has a
mind like a steel trap. This woman is not some vague, fluffy bundle
of mascara and stiletto heels that will stare in open-mouthed
admiration at your mental acrobatics. She's probably either got a
string of academic degrees or might as well have, and has already
worked out the solution to the problem in ten minutes which you've
been struggling with for two hours.
Libra women can be quite unnerving. They often show a huge
contradiction between their appearance and their real nature. Some
Libra women prefer to find their beauty and elegance solely in the
world of ideas. But even here you can see the style and grace at
work, and most Libra women are usually very aware of their
appearance. The appearance of the Libra woman often belies the
capacities and capabilities of her intellect. She is, however,
generally too tactful to allow this to be immediately known. You
might not find out for years that she's a lot smarter than you
are.
There's often a strong intellectual drive in the Libra woman,
whether this shows itself as a love of theoretical knowledge or a
love of organizing. The Libra woman may need a strong career to
allow expression of her gifts. There is often a real ability to
work with groups and get people together in cooperative action. Her
goal-orientated qualities are expressed through the Libra woman's
ability to work with structures, forms, organizations and concepts.
This can be very disconcerting, as this is also usually the woman
who will happily spend a day being pampered at the beauty salon and
throw away a fortune on designer clothes.
No Libra is simple. The strong mental bias of the sign means she may tend to suppress her emotions. Whatever conventional stereotypes society might expect of women, the Libra woman generally prefers to reason things out rather than reacting out of instinct.
This is both a great boon and a great problem. It's a boon in terms
of potential achievement in the world and in terms of establishing
clean, strong friendships. It's a problem because her powerful
intellect can make an insecure type of man feel very threatened;
and dealing with children and intimate relationships can be
difficult because the Libra woman may find it hard to show emotion
spontaneously or respond freely to a partner's or children
emotional needs.