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Four person you will meet in your life

(2006-05-06 22:54:01)
   无意间在北京某台看到一专题节目<爱情宣言>,很多演艺明星在大谈自己的爱情观。我想给朋友们推荐一篇曾经读过的文章<人的一生会遇上的四个人>,也许会有所感悟。

    人生就是为了找寻爱的过程,每个人的人生都要找到四个人。
           第一个是自己,
           第二个是你最爱的人,
           第三个是最爱你的人,
           第四个是共度一生的人.
           首先会遇到你最爱的人,然後体会到爱的感觉;
           因为了解被爱的感觉,所以才能发现最爱你的人;
           当你经历过爱人与被爱,学会了爱,才会知道什么是你需要的

           也才会找到最适合你,能够相处一辈子的人。
           但很悲哀的,在现实生活中,这三个人通常不是同一个人;
           你最爱的,往往没有选择你;
           最爱你的,往往不是你最爱的;
           而最长久的,偏偏不是你最爱也不是最爱你的,
           只是在最适合的时间出现的那个人。
           你,会是别人生命中的第几个人呢?
           没有人是故意要变心的,他爱你的时候是真的爱你,
           可是他不爱你的时候也是真的不爱你了,
           他爱你的时候没有办法假装不爱你;
           同样的,他不爱你的时候也没有办法假装爱你 。
           当一个人不爱你要离开你,
           你要问自己还爱不爱他,
           如果你也不爱他了,千万别为了可怜的自尊而不肯离开;
           如果你还爱他,你应该会希望他过得幸福快乐,
           希望他跟真正爱的人在一起,绝不会阻止,
           你要是阻止他得到真正的幸福,就表示你已经不爱他了,
           而如果你不爱他,你又有什么资格指责他变心呢?
           爱不是占有,
           你喜欢月亮,不可能把月亮拿下来放在脸盆里,
           但月亮的光芒仍可照进你的房间。
           换句话说,你爱一个人,也可以用另一种方式拥有,
           让爱人成为生命里的永恒回忆,
           如果你真爱一个人,就要爱他原来的样子─爱他的好,也爱他
的坏:
           爱他的优点,也爱他的缺点,
           绝不能因为爱他,就希望他变成自己所希望的样子,
           万一变不成就不爱他了。
           真正爱一个人是无法说出原因的,
           你只知道无论何时何地、心情好坏,你都希望这个人陪著你;
           真正的感情是两人能在最艰苦中相守,也就是没有丝毫要求。
           毕竟,感情必须付出,而不是只想获得;
           分开是一种必然的考验,
           如果你们感情不够稳固,只好认输,
           真爱是不会变成怨恨的。
           两人在谈情说爱的时候,
           最喜欢叫对方发誓,许下承诺我们为什么要对方发誓,
           就是因为我们不相信对方,我们根本不相信情人,
           而这些山盟海誓又很不切实际:
           海枯石烂、地老天荒,都不能改变我对你的爱!
           明知道海不会枯、石不会烂、地不会老、天不会荒;
           就算会,也活不到那时候。
           许下诺言的时候千万注意,不要许下可以实现的诺言,
           最好是承诺做不到的事,
           反正做不到的,随便说说也不要紧,
           请记住:可能实现的诺言最动人?           在爱情里,说的是一套,做的是另一套;
           讲的人不相信,听的人也不相信。
           你呢?找到了第几个?
           茫茫人海中,你遇见了谁?谁又遇见了你?
 
 
Four person you will meet in your life
 
Everyone's life is the porcess of finding love. In everybody's whole life,
there are always four person to meet.
The first one is you, yourself.
The second one is the one you love the most.
The third one is the one who love you the most.
The fourth one is your better half who will accompany you for the rest
of your life.
 
At first, you will meet the one you love the most and experience the
feeling of love; becaue now you know about the feeling of being loved by
someone, then you will meet the second person who loves you the most;
after you have experiened loving someone and being loved by someone,
you have learned how to love and got to know what exactly you want.
Therefore, the next person, which you are going to meet is the one who
will accompany with you for the whole life.
 
But the sad part is: in the real life, these three person are not always the
same one. The one you love most didn't choose you; the one who love
you most, however, it's not your choice; the one who becames your life
parter, unfortunately, is not the one who you love the most or the one
who loves you the most. It is only because she appears at the very right
time in yor life. And then you two come together and live together
forever.
 
Whcih person you will be in other person's life?
 
Nobody is intended to change her heart. When she loves you, she really
loves you; when she no longer loves you, she also mean it. When one
loves you, she cannot pretend to not love you; while when one don't love
you any more, she also cannot pretend to love you. Therefore, when one
person is going to leave you because she doesn't love you anymore, just
let it go. If you still love her, you should wish her a happy life. When you
are trying to stop her from getting her happy life, It means that you are
not loving her anymore.
 
To love is not to possess.
 
You love the moon, but you cannot take the moon into your basin for
your own. Yet the moonlight can still get into your room.
 
In another word,  if you love someone, you can own her in an
alternative way: to let your love become the eternal memory in you life.
 
When you are falling love with someone, you can never speak out the
reasons why you love her. The only thing you know is that you just
want her to be together with you whenever, wherever, and no matter
you are happy or upset.
 
To be apart is the inevitable test between you and her. Be wise to give up
when something goes wrong of your love because the true love will
never turn into complains.
 
People who fall in love often ask their lovers to promise something, and
to swear to the God that she will never change her heart to someone
else. However, all these swearings are very fragile and unpractical.
Never trust them! On the contrary, it's always better to swear that you
cannot promise to do something other than swear you can do
something. Pleasee remeber: the most attractive promise is the one which
can never come true!
 
In love, to say is one thing, while to do is another thing. Don't make
yourself so childish and stupid to believe those untested words!
 
As for the four person I am talking about today. How about you, my
friend? who have you found in your life? the second one, the third one
or the fourth one?
 
In this big world, who you met ? and who met you?

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