今天的美国，教会里的离婚率不必教会外的离婚率低。为什么基督徒也有那么高的离婚率呢？

其中一个主要原因就是，婚姻关系的双方没有把希望放在神那里，而是放在对方。美国基督徒高尔夫职业选手，

Webb Simpson‏与妻子就总结出这样的经验，不要更多地把希望放在对方的身上，而要仰望神。

夫妻双方仰望神是基督徒婚姻成功的秘诀。

http://www.golfdigest.com/golf-tours-news/2011-11/gwar-webb-simpson-rosaforte-1107?currentPage=3

They met and fell in love but took a year off during the relationship because both felt -- and she was working at a faith-based company at the time -- that they were putting too much hope in one another and not enough in God. "I had people tell me it was crazy, that I was losing the best thing that ever happened to me," says Dowd. A year passed and on Christmas Eve 2008 Webb called to ask her out.
 
"I live with him. I'm his wife, and he is definitely not perfect," says Dowd, "but it's hard to walk away from Webb and not see a light in him, see a brightness he brings to a crowd. Ultimately, it's the love of Christ pouring out from him."
 
Simpson has expressed his spiritual gratitude publicly, causing some discomfort in the secular crowd. The viral criticism is one of the reasons why he backed off ­Twitter, but pointing to the sky after a win, having Titus 3:3-7 stitched to the back of his Titleist hat and giving greenside testimonials is what Webb Simpson stands for. "Why bring God into it?" he asks. "Well, he's in it for me."