Love means having a responsibility toward the person I love.
This responsibility does not involve my doing for you what you are
capable of doing for yourself; nor does it mean that I run your
life for you. It does imply acknowledging that what I am and what I
do affects you, so that I am directly involved in your
happiness and your misery. A lover does have the capacity to hurt
or neglect the loved one, and in this sense I see that love
involves an acceptance of some responsibility for the impact my way
of being has on you.