假期里睡了很多大觉，吃了很多东西，也看了很多大片。

《八月迷情》已经不算是新片了，最早听说此片的时候还是去年9月给新生的第一节课上，一个女生推荐给大家的，是那个夏天最感动她的一个片子，我记下了片名，却直到半年后的冬天才想到下载来观看，却可以算作这个冬天让我觉得最温馨的一部影片。在这部关于亲情，爱情和音乐的电影中，音乐很赞，男女主角很漂亮，小孩如天使般纯真，故事也有一个近乎童话般完美的happy ending。

假期开始的时候看过威尔史密斯的新片《七磅》，应该怎么评价这部电影呢？有朋友在QQ签名里曾说过，看这部片子，如果你能坚持到最后五分钟，你就赢了。这是一部关于赎罪与救赎的影片，整部电影的前一个小时进展得有些拖沓，缺乏亮点，而且因为导演想将那个悬念保持到最后一刻，前面的剧情有点让人迷糊，因此要坚持看下去的确是需要耐性的。不过经过了前面故事情节的铺垫（尽管铺垫得颇为让人犯困），影片的最后确实能给观众带来感动。威尔史密斯扮演的角色是个悲情人物，从影片一开始脸上就有种浓得化不开的悲伤，但是我并不觉得他在演技上有什么突破，也许正是因为他脸上挂着的那一副从始至终一成未变的纠结愁苦表情，让人觉得表演太单一缺乏层次感吧。从片中还了解到一件事，原来水母也可以用来作为自杀工具，不过看那个过程未免也忒痛苦了吧。

《马达加斯加2》和《闪电狗》都是动画片，我更喜欢后者。或许是因为对《马1》的喜爱让我对第二部期望值过高了吧，《马2》是一部很热闹的动画片，但是笑点没有第一部多，相比起来闪电狗Bolt当中的电脑特技和故事情节更吸引我一些。

Complete list of Academy Award winners and nominees

Best picture

'The Curious Case of Benjamin Button'
'Frost/Nixon'
'Milk'
'The Reader'
WINNER: 'Slumdog Millionaire'

Director
WINNER: Danny Boyle, 'Slumdog Millionaire'
Stephen Daldry, 'The Reader'
David Fincher, 'The Curious Case of Benjamin Button'
Ron Howard, 'Frost/Nixon'
Gus Van Sant, 'Milk'

Actor
Richard Jenkins, 'The Visitor'
Frank Langella, 'Frost/Nixon'
WINNER: Sean Penn, 'Milk'
Brad Pitt, 'The Curious Case of Benjamin Button'
Mickey Rourke, 'The Wrestler'

Actress
Anne Hathaway, 'Rachel Getting Married'
Angelina Jolie, 'Changeling'
Melissa Leo, 'Frozen River'
Meryl Streep, 'Doubt'
WINNER: Kate Winslet, 'The Reader'

Supporting actor
Josh Brolin, 'Milk'
Robert Downey Jr., 'Tropic Thunder'
Philip Seymour Hoffman, 'Doubt'
WINNER: Heath Ledger, 'The Dark Knight'
Michael Shannon, 'Revolutionary Road'

Supporting actress
Amy Adams, 'Doubt'
WINNER: Penelope Cruz, 'Vicky Cristina Barcelona'
Viola Davis, 'Doubt'
Taraji P. Henson, 'The Curious Case of Benjamin Button'
Marisa Tomei, 'The Wrestler'

Animated feature
'Bolt'
'Kung Fu Panda'
WINNER: 'WALL-E'

Adapted screenplay
'The Curious Case of Benjamin Button,' screenplay by Eric Roth, screen story by Eric Roth and Robin Swicord
'Doubt,' written by John Patrick Shanley
'Frost/Nixon,' screenplay by Peter Morgan
'The Reader,' screenplay by David Hare
WINNER: 'Slumdog Millionaire,' screenplay by Simon Beaufoy

Original screenplay
'Frozen River,' written by Courtney Hunt
'Happy-Go-Lucky,' written by Mike Leigh
'In Bruges,' written by Martin McDonagh
WINNER: 'Milk,' written by Dustin Lance Black
'WALL-E,' screenplay by Andrew Stanton, Jim Reardon; original story by Andrew Stanton, Pete Docter

Art direction
'Changeling,' James J. Murakami; set decoration: Gary Fettis
WINNER: 'The Curious Case of Benjamin Button,' Donald Graham Burt; set decoration: Victor J. Zolfo
'The Dark Knight,' Nathan Crowley; set decoration: Peter Lando
'The Duchess,' Michael Carlin; set decoration: Rebecca Alleway
'Revolutionary Road,' Kristi Zea; set decoration: Debra Schutt

Cinematography
'Changeling,' Tom Stern
'The Curious Case of Benjamin Button,' Claudio Miranda
'The Dark Knight,' Wally Pfister
'The Reader,' Chris Menges and Roger Deakins
WINNER: 'Slumdog Millionaire,' Anthony Dod Mantle

Costume design
'Australia,' Catherine Martin
'The Curious Case of Benjamin Button,' Jacqueline West
WINNER: 'The Duchess,' Michael O'Connor
'Milk,' Danny Glicker
'Revolutionary Road,' Albert Wolsky

Documentary feature
'The Betrayal (Nerakhoon)'
'Encounters at the End of the World'
'The Garden'
WINNER: 'Man on Wire'
'Trouble the Water'

Documentary short
'The Conscience of Nhem En'
'The Final Inch'
WINNER: 'Smile Pinki'
'The Witness -- From the Balcony of Room 306'

Film editing
'The Curious Case of Benjamin Button,' Kirk Baxter and Angus Wall
'The Dark Knight,' Lee Smith
'Frost/Nixon,' Mike Hill and Dan Hanley
'Milk,' Elliot Graham
WINNER: 'Slumdog Millionaire,' Chris Dickens

Foreign language film
'The Baader Meinhof Complex,' Germany
'The Class,' France
WINNER: 'Departures,' Japan
'Revanche,' Austria
'Waltz with Bashir,' Israel

Makeup
WINNER: 'The Curious Case of Benjamin Button,' Greg Cannom
'The Dark Knight,' John Caglione Jr. and Conor O'Sullivan
'Hellboy II: The Golden Army,' Mike Elizalde and Thom Floutz

Original score
'The Curious Case of Benjamin Button,' Alexandre Desplat
'Defiance,' James Newton Howard
'Milk,' Danny Elfman
WINNER: 'Slumdog Millionaire,' A.R. Rahman
'WALL-E,' Thomas Newman

Original song
'Down to Earth' from 'WALL-E,' music by Peter Gabriel and Thomas Newman, lyrics by Peter Gabriel
WINNER: 'Jai Ho' from 'Slumdog Millionaire,' music by A.R. Rahman, lyrics by Gulzar
'O Saya' from 'Slumdog Millionaire,' music and lyrics by A.R. Rahman and Maya Arulpragasam

Animated short
WINNER: 'La Maison en Petits Cubes'
'Lavatory -- Lovestory'
'Oktapodi'
'Presto'
'This Way Up'

Live-action short
'Auf der Strecke (On the Line)'
'Manon on the Asphalt'
'New Boy'
'The Pig'
WINNER: 'Spielzeugland'

Sound editing
WINNER: 'The Dark Knight,' Richard King
'Iron Man,' Frank Eulner and Christopher Boyes
'Slumdog Millionaire,' Glenn Freemantle and Tom Sayers
'WALL-E,' Ben Burtt and Matthew Wood
'Wanted,' Wylie Stateman

Sound mixing
'The Curious Case of Benjamin Button,' David Parker, Michael Semanick, Ren Klyce and Mark Weingarten
'The Dark Knight,' Lora Hirschberg, Gary Rizzo and Ed Novick
WINNER: 'Slumdog Millionaire,' Ian Tapp, Richard Pryke and Resul Pookutty
'WALL-E,' Tom Myers, Michael Semanick and Ben Burtt
'Wanted,' Chris Jenkins, Frank A. Montaño and Petr Forejt

Visual effects
WINNER: 'The Curious Case of Benjamin Button,' Eric Barba, Steve Preeg, Burt Dalton and Craig Barron
'The Dark Knight,' Nick Davis, Chris Corbould, Tim Webber and Paul Franklin
'Iron Man,' John Nelson, Ben Snow, Dan Sudick and Shane Mahan

   刚看完Desperate Housewives第100集，被感动得一塌糊涂，一张纸巾拽在手里就没放下过。确切来说也没有看完，因为首发的版本从中间开始就出现严重的画面抖动问题，以至于关于Lynette那一部分就跳过了，改天得重新下载一个好的版本再看看。不过我确信让我流泪的原因不会是画面的抖动，而是里面一个个温馨动人的小情节。

   DH每一集的剧情一向都设计得不错，开头和结尾的旁白尤其出彩。作为DH的第100集，故事情节的编排上自然也下了很大功夫。开头以一个新角色——小镇里的维修工人Eli出场，看似和前面的剧情毫无关联，但是却通过Eli这个小人物的突然病逝引发的每个主妇的回忆来将故事串联。在每个人的回忆里，Eli都是那么自然而然的出现在紫藤街人们的生活里，为人诚恳真挚，值得信赖，每次都提着他的工具箱，认真地为她们修好破损的物件，同时，也在不经意间帮助她们找回对生活的信心，对梦想的追求，对追寻真爱的执着。正如旁白所说，在Mary自杀事件之后，深受触动的Eli默默对上帝许下了诺言：在以后的生活中，他会尽力帮助所有能帮助的人，帮助他们fix their lives，而且在那之后他也在一直兑现着自己的诺言。

   其实我们都是生活中再平凡不过的小人物，而我们周围同样也有着很多平凡的人，在自己力所能及的情况下，付出彼此的关爱，哪怕只是一点点，或许也能make some difference.

   Desperate Housewives应该是我追的最久的美剧了，一集不落得看到至今，到了第五季，差不多每集都有一些小感动。被剧集感动到流泪也许会被认为很傻，但是我觉得如果什么都无法让自己感动的时候，那才是最可怕的。第100集的结尾并不像往常一样留下一个悬念，而是以一集作为一个完整的单元，能够让看过的人都有些感触，就是成功的了。

   看完之后到百度贴吧去转了转，有网友在讨论片子画面发抖的问题，其中有个回复很有才：其实。。你可以和它一起抖 当你们的频率一样时 你就感觉不到它在抖了～

有些伤痛，有些感动，

有些收获，有些失落，

所有的欢笑和眼泪，

所有的开心与不开心，

统统都留在2008吧。

Farewell,2008!

Hello,2009!

'Come in,' God said to me, 'so, you would like to interview Me?'

'If you have the time,' I said.

He smiled through His beard and said: 'My time is called eternity and is enough to do everything; what questions do you have in mind to ask me?'

'None that are new to you. What's the one thing that surprises you most about mankind?'

He answered: 'That they get bored of being children, are in a rush to grow up, and then long to be children again. That they lose their health to make money and then lose their money to restore their health. That by thinking anxiously about the future, they forget the present, such that they live neither for the present nor the future. That they live as if they will never die, and they die as if they never had lived...'

His hands took mine and we were silent. After a long period, I said, 'May I ask you another question?'

He replied with a smile.

'As a Father, what would you ask your children to do for the new year?'

'To learn that they cannot make anyone love them. What they can do is to let themselves be loved.

To learn that it takes years to build trust, and a few seconds to destroy it.

To learn that what is most valuable is not what they have in their lives, but who they have in their lives.

To learn that it is not good to compare themselves to others. There will be others better or worse than they are.

To learn that a rich person is not one who has the most, but is one who needs the least.

To learn that they should control their attitudes, otherwise their attitudes will control them.

To learn that it only takes a few seconds to open profound wounds in persons we love, and that it takes many years to heal them.

To learn to forgive by practicing forgiveness.

To learn that there are persons that love them dearly, but simply do not know how to show their feelings.

To learn that money can buy everything but happiness.

To learn that while at times they may be entitled to be upset, that does not give them the right to upset those around them.

To learn that great dreams do not require great wings, but a landing gear to achieve.

To learn that true friends are scarce, he/she who has found one has found a true treasure.

To learn that they are masters of what they keep to themselves and slaves of what they say.

To learn that they shall reap what they plant; if they plant gossip they will harvest intrigues, if they plant love they will harvest happiness.

To learn that true happiness is not to achieve their goals but to learn to be satisfied with what they already achieved.

To learn that happiness is a decision. They decide to be happy with what they are and have, or die from envy and jealousy of what they lack.

To learn that two people can look at the same thing and see something totally different.

To learn that those who are honest with themselves without considering the consequences go far in life.

To learn that even though they may think they have nothing to give, when a friend cries with them, they find the strength to appease the pain.

To learn that by trying to hold on to love ones, they very quickly push them away; and by letting go of those they love, they will be side by side forever.

   手机常用的主功能键在整个手机的界面上有点鹤立鸡群的味道，我从来没觉得这有什么不好，直到上个月收到一朋友发来短信质疑我的手机是否中病毒了，一天给他的手机发了好几条短信，包括彩信，我吃惊之余第一反应是问他彩信是什么内容，虽然手机里不至于存有什么艳照，但好歹还是有本人无聊时的臭美自拍，要是真发了什么过去，人家还指不定以为我心怀不轨，存心骚扰呢，那才是比窦娥还冤了。在得之彩信内容为空白时，我庆幸之余才赶紧向对方say sorry，也顾不得心疼那一元一条的彩信了，赶紧思考原因。其实稍微动动末梢神经也能想到，罪魁祸首就是那个功能键，只要不锁键盘，反复按动功能键的结果就是给手机通讯录里的第一个人发短信。我立马把通讯录里第一个人换成了我的另一个不常用的手机的号码，以绝后患！

   12月1号我又去逛街了，这真是个值得纪念的日子啊，不仅仅因为那天难得的冬日阳光暖融融，也不仅仅是因为去办了公积金心里美滋滋，更不仅仅因为买到了超划算的衣服偷着乐，而是因为我回到家，搁下东西，懒洋洋地坐在椅子上不经意地拿起那个撂在家里的不常用的手机一看，额滴神啊，55条新信息！！！太彪悍了，创下了我一天收到短信数量最多的吉尼斯记录！清一色的发送人号码，清一色的空白信息。可以想象，我那个又忘了锁键盘的手机那一天在我的包里是多么的繁忙，我这个不常用的手机那一天在家里是多么的抓狂！世界原本就很疯狂。

   虽然西方的情人节和圣诞节在中国越来越风行，但是美国的感恩节却始终没有占领多少中国人的领地，但恰恰是这个节日我倒觉得很有意义，能让人怀着一颗感恩的心，去回想过去日子里不经意的感动和生活的赐予。

   今年外教邀请我去参加他们的感恩节party，据说总共有二三十人，本来还邀请了另外一个同事，可是该同学临时说有事去不了了，我只好独自前往，一路上祈祷party上还有别的中国同胞。感恩节爬梯，对像我这种深居简出的非party人群来说，太洋盘了！

   我决定要贡献一道菜，这一想法不免让人大吃一惊，以至于某同学第一反应就是深深担心吃菜人的生命安危。其实蒜蓉茄子这道菜我做过两次，虽然每次放盐的时候都是老妈在旁边插手，但是其他程序都是我独自完成的，而且因为放了鱼油的缘故，竟然多少有了些鱼香茄子的味道，香甜可口，回味无穷，非常不错。不过临到要出发的时候我还是改变了主意，一是因为太费事，二是因为和老外们做的西餐有些不搭调。于是我顺手拿走了冰箱里那袋三全凌汤圆，又省事又有团圆的寓意，多好。

   聚会上果然老外居多，也有五六个中国人，我记性不好，常常笑着跟别人握手互相自我介绍后，转头就忘了对方的名字，需要重复输入才能有印象。美国人的习俗是只要每道菜都做好了，就可以开始感恩节大餐了，虽然没有传说中的火鸡，但是菜品仍然很丰盛，最难得的是Don居然做了两个像模像样的南瓜派，让众人惊艳不已，可惜当时忘了拍个片片。另外加了水果、雪碧和冰块的葡萄酒也很好喝，据说是西班牙的一种酒品，当然拥有一个很洋盘的西班牙名字，可惜我也没记住。

   还有一个习俗，每个人都就着自己的手掌画了张小图，因为手掌看上去有点像火鸡的样子，然后写上几句感恩的话，贴在墙上，很可爱。

   上次的游记写到中途，留了句“下次再表”，谁知这个“下次”一直拖到了半年后的今天，我不会厚着脸皮给自己找理由，就只因一个“懒”字。有时候想记下点什么，可是过了一阵也没了心情。将近九个月的时间里，发生了很多事，让我用几个关键词来一笔带过吧：汶川地震，桂林阳朔，北京奥运，菲尔普斯，三聚氰胺，金融危机。也许将来的某天我会心血来潮写点什么，就像今天一样。还是回到未完的版纳之旅的记录，让照片帮我回到那片绿色的记忆。

   上次说到野象谷的动物展示和表演区，首先一站就是百鸟园。汉语中的“百”啊“千”啊都是概数，所以当然没抱太大的期待，可是现实还是让我们不高的希望跌落谷底，所谓的“百鸟园”里顶多也就不到十种鸟儿在无聊地踱来踱去，蹉跎岁月。然后我们去看了一场所谓的表演，也是我的愤怒的开始。参加演出的是几只白色的鹦鹉，一个中年男人煞有介事的说这是会带来吉祥的幸福鸟，请大家把手掌摊开，鸟儿会带着吉祥的花朵飞到你的手心。于是大家都很虔诚得摊开手心，几次落空之后人们才发现自己好傻好天真。原来鸟儿只飞向拽着人民币的手心，然后用花朵交换五元十元不等的钞票。有人试图用一元钱来蒙混过去，鸟儿飞过来鄙夷地瞥了一眼，旋即又飞走了，原来人家只认五元和十元的，少一分也买不去吉祥如意。原本纯洁的动物，在这里被贪婪的人类熏染上了铜臭味。

百鸟园中的一只，还算长得有点特色的

这只猴子一直坐在亭子上保持着那副狰狞的表情，无声的呐喊

被五花大绑的黑熊。。。

小鹿本该在林间奔跑，无奈只能摇尾乞食

大象表演给人们带来了很多欢笑，只是一看到那些人手里拿着的粗粗的铁钩子，我就笑不出来了

菠萝菠萝蜜

晚上吃了家不怎么地道的傣家风味餐，席间有歌舞表演，这个小妹妹长的很秀气

   我的记性不太好了，我必须承认这一点。曾经我总是年少轻狂地跟人说“我这人没啥好，就是记性特别好”，现在却换成了无比沧桑的一句“人老咯，记忆力不行咯。。。”我记不住学生的名字，也许也是因为没用心去记；我常常忘记密码，各种密码，所以我把它们写在记事本上；我学会了不轻易承诺，因为我无法保证我不会忘记诺言；在不需要我特别准时的情况下我总会迟到几分钟，这似乎已经变成了一种习惯，好像有个术语叫做Chronically Late，我不断提醒自己下次要注意，然后又在每一个“下次”来临的时候忘记。

   但是我的记性也不是那么糟糕，我能记住很多年前发生的一些小事以及一些心情，一些日期和一些数字，最早甚至可以追溯到读托儿所的时候跟着一帮两三岁的小屁孩钻桌子被管我们的老太太打屁股的事。翻看小学的毕业照，我居然能说出大部分同学的名字。搜索记忆，能记住的大多是或快乐或有趣的回忆。曾经应该也有过很多难过的事，但是大多都被我忘记了。我想这应该是一种天赋，也或者是很多人都有的一种本能，就像飞蛾的趋光性，人往往都向往光明积极的东西，然后把悲伤失意的埋在记忆的沙漠里，在时间的流逝中逐渐淡忘。我把这种本能叫做“选择型遗忘”。这种遗忘不是刻意的，因为越是刻意越会铭记，它就那么自然而然地在每一天悄无声息的发生着，直到那些悲伤的过往再也不会跳出来破坏我们的心情，即便是没有完全忘记也已经云淡风清。就好像是一个徒步旅行的背包客，背包里承装着记忆，快乐的那部分尽量留在背包里，然后从一个破开的小口里让忧伤的那部分一点一点的漏下去，一路撒在他的身后，这样一来，他的旅途就算不是天天都那么快乐，至少他也会拥有一颗平和的心。

昨天重温了一下Desperate Housewives第四季的Episode10，意外地收获到一首小诗，在剧中是老朋友悼念龙卷风中离开人世的Ida老太太的，听上去却不像有些追思亡灵的诗歌那么悲痛，反而有种温暖的感动。诗的韵律也很好听，google了一下，似乎有好几个版本，作者也不太详实，不过这些都没有关系，重要的是这首诗带给你我怎样的心绪。姑且把剧集里的那个版本摘录在这里，自己试着翻译了一下：

Do not stand at my grave and weep,         不要站在我的墓前为我哭泣，

I'm not there. I do not sleep.             我不在那里，我不曾睡去。

I am a thousand winds that blow.           我是那飞扬起千万次的风，

I am the diamond glints of snow.           我是钻石般闪耀的皑皑白雪。

I am the sunlight on ripened grain.        我是金色麦芒上镶镀的阳光，

I am the gentle autumn's rain.             我是那秋天缠绵的细雨。

Do not stand at my grave and cry.          不要站在我的墓前为我哭泣，

I am not there. I did not die.              我不在那里，我未曾离去。