加载中…加载中…加载中…Love like you've never been hurt
Dance like nobody's watching
Sing like nobody's listening
Work like you don't need the money
Live like it's heaven on earth
---------Alfred D'Souza
"Live the Present
Pray the Future
Learn the Past"
人淡如菊，云淡风情
C'est ma vie en rose.
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傍晚，在小时候住过的街道走来走去，吃过小饭馆，吮着冰淇淋
那里有晚饭后散步的老人，老街，小孩
慵懒的金毛在闷热的空气中闲散的踱来踱去
黑夜里的基督教堂庄严肃穆，走过去时心生敬畏
在斑驳的墙上看张贴的二手房出卖的广告
二十几年的老房子已经卖到了这个价格，可惜没有存够钱，不然一定要在这里买一个小屋
偶尔住一住，晚饭后汲着拖鞋，穿着短裤和背心，牵着我的金毛歪歪扭扭的闲晃
想想小时候穿着脏兮兮的校服，背着双肩包，坐在爸爸摩托车后的模样
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张小娴说： 有时候，我们愿意原谅一个人，
并不是我们真的愿意原谅他，而是我们不想失去他。
不想失去他，唯有假装原谅他。
张小娴说：做一个诚实的孩子。
喜欢一个人，不到一定程度，不要轻易去说喜欢。
因为你的一句轻浮的话，很可能悲伤另一个人一段时光。
也有的，将会是，一生。
张小娴说：当时间过去，
我们忘记了我们曾经义无反顾地爱过一个人，
忘记了他的温柔，忘记了他为我做的一切。
我对他再没有感觉，我不再爱他了。
为甚么会这样？原来我们的爱情败给了岁月。
首先是爱情使你忘记时间，然后是时间使你忘记爱情。
张小娴说：大部分负心人的记性都是差劲的。
如果他的记性好，记得情人为他付出的一切，
记得当天多么甜蜜，他又如何能够忍心背弃她？
张小娴说：男人和女人，一旦睡過，就會對對方有要求;
有要求，就有埋怨，有埋怨，就有痛苦 ;
有痛苦，就有怨恨。
张小娴说：寂寞的人，感冒会拖得特别的久，因为她自己也不想痊愈。
张小娴说：女人放弃一个跟不上她的男人，是有志气。
男人放弃一个跟不上他的女人，则是无义。
张小娴说：好的爱情是你透过一个男人看到世界，坏的爱情是你为了一个人舍弃世界。
张小娴说：失望，有时候也是一种幸福。
因为有所期待，所以才会失望。
因为有爱，才会有期待。
所以纵使失望也是一种幸福，虽然这种幸福有点痛。
张小娴说：两个人在一起是为了快乐，分手时为了减轻痛苦，
你无法再令我快乐，我也唯有离开，
我离开的时候，也很痛苦，
只是，你肯定比我痛苦，因为我首先说再见，
首先追求快乐的是我。
张小娴说：如果没有很大把握，又或者没有坚定地信念，
请不要说太长久的承诺。
相爱时叫承诺，不爱的时候呢？
也不是谎言吧。
毕竟爱着的时候就算说了地久天长，相信也是出自真心。
只不过后来的离开，不是自己能把握的。
张小娴说：不要在爱情结束后，
把那个你曾经爱过的到处指责，将TA说的一无是处。
没必要的，既然留不住心，不如留下那份感情的纯洁度，
蒙了尘，也就减损了回忆的价值。
张小娴说：你以为不可失去的人，原来并非不可失去，
你流干了眼泪，自有另一个人逗你欢笑，
你伤心欲绝，然后发现不爱你的人，
根本不值得你为之伤心，
今天回首，何尝不是一个喜剧？
情尽时，自有另一番新境界，
所有的悲哀也不过是历史。
张小娴说：开始的开始总是甜蜜的
后来就有了厌倦、习惯、背弃、寂寞、绝望和冷笑
曾经渴望与一个人长相厮守，后来，多么庆幸自己离开了
曾几何时，在一段短暂的时光里，
我们以为自己深深的爱着的一个人。
后来，我们才知道
那不是爱，那只是对自己说谎。
张小娴说：同一个人，是没法给你相同的痛苦的。
当他重复地伤害你，那个伤口已经习惯了，感觉已经麻木了，
无论在给他伤害多少次，也远远不如第一次受的伤那么痛了。
张小娴说：时间会让你了解爱情，时间能够证明爱情，也能够把爱推翻。
没有一种悲伤是不能被时间减轻的。
如果时间不可以令你忘记那些不该记住的人，
我们失去的岁月又有什么意义？
张小娴说：一个钱币最美丽的状态，不是静止，
而是当它像陀螺一样转动的时候，没人知道，
即将转出来的那一面，是快乐或痛苦，是爱还是恨。
快乐和痛苦，爱和恨，总是不停纠缠。
张小娴说：
爱情中最伤感的时刻是后期的冷淡，一个曾经爱过你的人，
忽然离你很远，咫尺之隔，却是天涯。
曾经轰轰烈烈，曾经千回百转，曾经沾沾自喜，曾经柔肠寸断。
到了最后，最悲哀的分手竟然是悄无声息。
张小娴说：世上最凄绝的距离是两个人本来距离很远， 互不相识，
忽然有一天，他们相识，相爱。距离变得很近。
然后有一天，不再相爱了，本来很近的两个人，变得很远，甚至比以前更远。
张小娴说：抛弃别人总比被人抛弃好过一点，
所谓离别，总是一个走，一个留下，
走的那个当然比不上留下的那一个痛苦。
张小娴说：一个承诺在最需要的时候没有兑现，那就是出卖，以後再兑现，已经没什么意思了。
张小娴说：我们总是不懂得珍惜眼前人？
在未可预知的重逢里，我们以为总会重逢，总会有缘再会，
总以为有机会说一声对不起，却从没想过每一次挥手道别，都可能是诀别，
每一声叹息，都可能是人间最后的一声叹息。
张小娴说：你遇上一个人，你爱他多一点，那么，你始终会失去他。
然后，你遇上另一个，他爱你多一点，那么，你早晚会离开他。
直到一天，你遇到一个人，你们彼此相爱
终于你明白，所有的寻觅，也有一个过程。
从前在天涯，而今咫尺。
张小娴说：爱情总是想象比现实美丽，
相逢如是，告别亦如是。
我们以为爱得很深、很深，
来日岁月，会让你知道，它不过很浅、很浅。
最深最重的爱，必须和时日一起成长。
十年前就读过这个关于鸡蛋、胡萝卜和咖啡的故事。今天收到好友的邮件，还是很感动。谢谢一直默默关注我，在背后给我支持的你！真的很感谢！也借此机会跟大家分享，希望能够慰藉到你的心灵。
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A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee
You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again, whether you drink coffee or not
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying A word
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl
Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see." "Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.
Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.
Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma the daughter then asked, "What does it mean, Mother?"
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its insides became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water。
"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.
Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.
You might want to send this message to those people who mean something to you (I JUST DID)； to those who have touched your life in one way or another; to those who make you smile when you really need it; to those who make you see the brighter side of things when you are really down; to those whose friendship you appreciate; to those who are so meaningful in your life.
If you don't (re)send it, you will just miss out on the opportunity to brighten someone's day with this message!
May we all be COFFEE!!!!!!!!
米兰昆德拉说，“人类一思考，上帝就发笑。”
我还是很喜欢想啊想，或许这就是金牛座的特质吧。金牛座是天生的思想家，马克思如是说。
今天学到成功人的三重境界，
第一重： 昨夜西风凋碧树。独上高楼，望尽天涯路。
第二重： 衣带渐宽终不悔，为伊消得人憔悴。
第三重： 众里寻他千百度，蓦然回首，那人却在，灯火阑珊处。
晚上开完会，急匆匆的跳上回家的通勤大巴，穿过陌生同事们的眼神，走到车尾，捡了个靠窗的高位子来坐，车子一路颠簸，我昏昏欲睡，半梦半醒之间，我觉的今天回家后势必要写点什么，哪怕只言偏语。子开到终点，我最后一个跳下车，然后冲进超市，直到最后提着两大袋子的生活必需品，结帐，刷卡。出了门口，出租车司机善意的帮我打开后座的车门，我把身体放在后座，一只手扶着塞着满满的袋子，一只手拨通了母亲的电话，我讲，“我买了很多东西，提不动，下来接我”。电话打完之后，突然觉得心里很温暖，司机大叔从倒后镜里望了我一眼，我笑笑，说，“不小心，买到提不动。”心里却暗自窃喜。以前心里觉得空，会钻进衣服堆，直到提着满满的袋子踢着正步走出商场，才会觉得满足。后来渐渐爱上逛超市，每次都是先到音像杂志区域，买钟爱的杂志和有浓墨香味的书，再到bakery section买面包和奶酪，最后用饮品填满购物车，咖啡，酸奶，热巧和柚子茶。饮品可以调节情绪，超市中可以嗅到一种味道，这种味道有名字，他叫“生活”。
规律的工作，学会和同事相处，和领导交流，早7晚5，偶尔加班，偶尔偷个小懒，有自己的房间，偶尔跑通勤回家，体贴父母，去超市采购，生命的每一天都沉浸在自己为自己营造的“小”幸福。
记得以前看过一部西班牙电影的台词，路人问孩儿，
－“你以后想做什么？”
－“生活。”
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