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自信的演讲稿

(2011-05-13 19:16:57)

Many people yearn to be more self-confident. Yet they have no idea how to achieve that objective. They look at others who have the gift and say, “Hey that’s what I want. I hate feeling unsure of myself. I wish I could stop obsessing about what others think of me and quit worrying about disappointing other people. I want to stop anguishing over my decisions and torturing myself about my mistakes. I think it would be so great to feel self-assured, hold my head up high and stand tall. I’ve never been self-confident. I wish there were a way I could be.”

There is a way. You don’t have to be born with self-confidence. Self-confidence can grow and flourish and ripen and blossom until you actually come to feel as though there is a different person inside of you. Here are some insights that might facilitate the quest.

Learn what a self-confident person is really like. They are not cocky, know-it-all people who don’t care what anybody else thinks. They have their doubts. And make mistakes. And are far from perfect. However, they are willing to acknowledge their inadequacies without dwelling on them. They do this by maintaining a sense of humor, putting problems in perspective, and focusing mainly on what they’ve done right, not wrong.

Though self-confident people do believe in themselves, they don’t try to suffocate others with their ideas or beliefs. They are confident in what they know not only because they read, learn and think but also because they respect their instinct, intuition and the unique body of knowledge that they’ve developed by living life. They realize that one doesn't have to be labeled an “expert” to believe in one's own truths.

Self-confident people don’t undermine their own worth by comparing themselves with others, only to conclude that they aren’t “good enough”. They appreciate their strengths and accomplishments and can acknowledge, without embarrassment, their weaknesses. They don’t live in the “victim” position. Even if something really bad has occurred, they turn it into a challenge, remembering to be grateful for the little things in life.

Self-confident people let the world know who they are. If they want something badly enough, they know they have every right to “go for it.” Yet, they also know that the path will rarely be easy. Mistakes, blunders and failures are part of the learning process. They seek to learn from their mistakes and do not waste time torturing themselves over what “could have been”.

Self-confident people are not obstinate people. If they have an idea about something and it differs from the way another person is thinking about it, they will usually try to look at it from that person’s point of view, see why it makes sense to them. Yet, a confident person’s sense of self is grounded. It does not blow in the wind. Their ideas do not fluctuate based on what others deem are important.

I hope these insights are helpful to you. If so, perhaps one day you will be able to say what the actress Phyllis Rashad once said, simply but eloquently, ” I am just myself and who I am is a lot.”

许多人渴望变得更加自信,然而他们并不知如何能做到。他们面对那些(天生)自信而有才能的人时总是说到:看,这就是我想要的,我讨厌怀疑自己,我希望我不要再为别人怎么看待我而烦恼,也不再总是担心自己会使别人失望。我希望告别我的优柔寡断,且并不再受我之前犯下的错误的困扰。我想能高昂起我的头,挺直的站立,这种自信的感觉一定好极了。我是多么希望有什么方法可以使我变成那样。
  的确有一种方法。你不必天生就带有“自信”。自信可以在你心中生长,繁荣,成熟,绽放,直到你真切的感受到在你内心中还有一个完全不同的自己。以下的方法可以缩短你为此的探求。(以下是一些达到上述所说的捷径)
 (你)要了解一个真正自信的人是什么样的。他们绝不是傲慢的,只有自以为无所不知的人才无视别人的看法。他们也有自己的困惑,同样也犯错,而且绝非完美。然而他们愿意承认他们的不足之处,而不是掩盖它们。(或是他们愿意毫不掩饰的承认他们的不足之处)他们保持着一贯的幽默感,向别人提出自己的疑问,然后专注于自己所作对的,而非所犯过的错误。
  虽然,这些自信的人的确有些自我,但他们不会强迫别人接受自己的观点和看法(意译)他们对于自己(所知道)的自信不仅来源于他们的阅读、学习和思考,更源于他们对自己才能、直觉、和通过自己生活经历所积累的独到经验的尊重。他们意识到一个人不需要给自己贴上专家的标签之后才能相信自己。(或,一个人不需要通过一个所谓“专家”的标签来产生自信) 
  自信的人不会损害他们自己的价值,比较自己与他人,只是为了得出这样的结论:他们没有“足够好” 。他们赞赏他们的优点和成绩,也承认,没有尴尬,他们的弱点。他们没有住在“受害者”的立场。即使非常糟糕的事情发生了,他们把它变成一个挑战,记住要感谢生活中的小事。

  自信的人让世界知道他们是谁。如果他们想要的东西严重的是,他们知道他们完全有权利“走出去了。 ”然而,他们也知道,道路很少会是容易的。错误,错误和失败是学习过程。他们设法从自己的错误,不要浪费时间折磨自己了什么“本来” 。

  自信的人不固执的人。如果他们有一个想法的事情,它不同于其他人的方式是考虑这件事,他们通常会试图把它从人的角度看,明白为什么它是有道理的。然而,一个自信的人的自我意识是基础。它不吹在风中。他们的想法不浮动的基础上别人认为是很重要的。

  我希望这些见解,有利于你。如果是这样,也许有一天,你将能够说出演员菲利斯拉沙德曾经说过,只要但雄辩地说: “我只是我自己和我是谁了很多。 ”

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