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横看成岭侧成峰 Color love in our eyes

(2010-12-11 23:18:50)
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跟学校的一位美国同事讨论她喜欢的男人类型。她说她喜欢有所追求懂得上进的人。她还告诉我,她以前有过一个男友,各方面都很好,只是不求上进,甚至大学都没有毕业,好像之后就开始吸毒酗酒。她想要一个聪明幽默的男子,时时带给她激情与欢愉,让她永远不会感到厌倦。

I asked an American workmate at school what kind of men she likes. She said that she prefers someone who never gives up trying to be better more and has got some dreams and goals to go. She also told me that she used to have a very cool bf, the only problem is that he is not ambitious when he quit from college and put himself into drugs. She wants someone who is smart and humorous and can bring her news to hear all the time so that she would never ever feel bored of him.

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学校的另外一个同事也跟我说,你知道吗,有时候我真的觉得一个有能力的女人应该去找一个比自己更有能力的男人。而男人则不一定要去找比自己强的女人。她之所以这么说,是因为在一次聚会上看见了我们的领导跟她的老公,他们两个都属于事业有成的类型。

Another Chinese workmate at school also said the other day: “You know Jenny, I really think that a powerful woman should and would find a man who must be much stronger and better than her while a successful man can stay with a girl who is not as perfect as him." She told me this cos our boss was in the party with her husband and they are both very successful people.

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每每遇到这种情况,我都会这样子说,也许你是对的,但是,我也认为,女人应该找一个爱自己大于自己爱对方的人,只有这样,才能得到你想要的幸福。

During all of these conversations, I would always have the same opinion. I said yes you are right but, I also think that women should find someone who loves you more than you love them if you want to be happy.

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    而对于我自己来说,我就曾经同时喜欢过两个人。你可能会说那怎么可能。事实是,我之所以同时喜欢他们两个人,是因为他们看起来就好像是对方一样。唯一的区别是一个真实地生活在我们学校,而另一个则是每天的电视上出现。现实当中的根本算不上成功,用他自己的话来说就是,因为如果他真的很牛的话,就不必非得回到母校来教书。因此他倒是常常鼓励我好好学习。我那么喜欢他,不仅是因为他长得好看,更重要的是他对我很好。即使他长得并不高,其他的女孩儿也都觉得帅本身就包括高的意思。即使他在别人眼中并非那么成功,可是,只要他足够爱我并且还没有结婚的话,我无论如何都会嫁给他的。而对于电视上的那个,他是我选择接触媒体的最初动力,即使到了今天,我依旧还是很喜欢他。但是,这种喜欢也只是停留在追星的地步,我顶多会希望自己有天见到他,跟他要一下签名,或者合一张影啊什么的。我绝对不会再去要求别的任何东西,只是因为他太过成功而已,而且我百分之三百的确定他根本就不会成为我的。

For me myself, I used to like two guys at the same time. You might wonder how would that happen. The thing is that I like both of them cos they look like exactly the same like each other. The only difference is that one was in real at my school and the other was on TV everyday. The real one is not successful at all, according his saying, cos he wouldn't have to come back to school to teach if he was so he always encouraged me to study hard. I liked him so much cos he was not only very handsome but also very nice to me. Even he is too short and all other girls think that handsome means good looking and tall. Even he is not that successful in other people's eyes, as long as he loves me, I would love to marry him anyway if he is not married yet. For the guy on TV, he was my first motive to touch media and I still like him a lot till today. However, my only wish for him is to get to see him one day and take a photo with him and also ask for a signature. I wouldn't ask too more just cos he is too successful and I am 300 percent sure that he would never be mine.

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在那之前,我也还喜欢过其他两个男生,第一个是我们老师的儿子,学习成绩很差,但是非常帅(虽然现在变了)。我喜欢他不仅仅因为他人长得帅,更重要的是他会逗我开心。他总是跟我开玩笑,并且每次都让我开怀大笑。如果是别家的孩子欺负我的话,他也会努力去保护我。我觉得,那个时候,他对我来说,就好像是我的哥哥,虽然他也是我的第一个美好幻想对象。我会经常梦见和他接吻并且在一起睡觉。我喜欢他,也是因为他对我好。他中学没有毕业就放弃了,更别说去上大学了。但是,如果他今天还是单身并且愿意娶我的话,我也根本不会有丝毫的犹豫。

And also I used to like two guys before that. The first one was the son of my teacher who was really bad at study but extremely handsome(even he is not any more). I liked him cos he was not only humorous but also tried to make me happy. He would kid on me and always made me laugh. He would also try to protect me if other kids treated me badly. I think at that time he was like my brother to me even he was the first guy that I dreamt or imagined to kiss and sleep with. I liked him also cos he was nice to me. He quit middle school and never went to high school not to say college. However, if he is still single now and would love to marry me, I wouldn't hesitate at all about it.

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第二个长得也很帅。他学习成绩很好,即使他学习并不努力,所以我们都觉得他很聪明。他写字和人一样帅。即使他脾气很臭,我还是很喜欢他,甚至都觉得他略带沙哑的声音很有磁性。自从我转学之后,不久之后他也退学了。虽然他家境很是富裕,可是他却连高中都没有去上。我不知道如果我当初跟他在一起的话,我妈妈是否会反对,但是我根本就不在于他是否和我爸爸一样是一名建筑工人。

The second one was also very handsome. He was very good at studying even he was not working hard so we called him really smart boy. He has an extremely cool writing. Even he has got a very bad temper, I still liked him a lot and I even found his not clear voice pretty sexy. He also quit school after I left that school and never went to high school even he is from a rich family. I am not sure if mom would agree if I were with him but I don't care if he is working as a builder like my father or not.

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如果你想要和一个成功的男人的一起到话,即使你认为自己也和他一样成功了,你依旧需要付出很多的东西。有的时候,男人可能只是因为感觉到压力就去外面寻欢作乐,从而获得某种程度上的自信和快感。有的时候,他们只是想在黑暗中扮演一个真实的自己,借此缓解现实中的压力。你能够保证自己不会因此而伤心吗。而且,如果你很爱他的话,你可能会特别心甘情愿地去改变自己,那么,你很可能会因此而失去自我。我觉得,不管是男人还是女人,都应该有自己的追求和梦想并且坚持永不放弃。我们的梦想可以相互碰撞但是绝对不可以磨灭。在我们身体的某一部分,应该是绝对属于我们的,任何人都不能以任何理由践踏或者侵犯。这一部分是我们存在并且快乐的理由,即使没有了爱情。如果我们的生活当中没有如此乐观的目标,那么,我觉得你就应该去寻找一个帮你找到这个目标的人。我觉得,真爱可以帮我们找寻自我并且让双方变得比以前更好。这才是所谓的真正的爱的力量。

You definitely need to suffer more if you want to be with a very successful man even you think you are as successful as him. Sometimes men just feel too much pressure and they want women who are weaker than them so that they would feel more confident of themselves. Sometimes they just want to be bad in the dark at night so they go out for adventure and take risks and it might break your heart. Moreover, if you love him too much, you might be so willing to change yourself that you lose yourself. I think, no matter as a man or woman, we all should have dreams or our own. Our dreams can meet but never change. We should have some part of us that belongs to us only and keeps us happy even without love. If we don’t have such positive goals, then you should find someone that will help you find your goals. I think true love helps both of the two sides to be better more. That’s the real power of love.

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    我也知道,很多女明星都选择嫁入豪门,因为她们不想在老了之后失去事业之后,无法继续过着那种丰衣足食的光鲜生活。但是,我认为,一个真正事业成功的女人是不会惧怕年龄的。因为她们也不会通过想要通过婚姻来获取物质上的支持。

I know its the same thing when famous female stars tend to marry rich guys cos they worry about their career when they get old and they need someone to keep their life expensive and high. If a woman is really successful and she would never be afraid of being old, then she definitely doesn’t have to marry someone who is rich so that he could support her.

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最后,如果你能够找到一个愿意为你而改变的男人,那么,你不会因此而感觉到幸福吗?我们都知道每个成功男人的背后都会有一个无比伟大的妻子,所以,从现在开始,停止抱怨吧,努力为了你男人事业的成功去做个伟大的妻子吧。就是这样。

Meanwhile, if you can find a man who loves you so much that he would love to change yourself for you, wouldn't you feel even happy about that? We all know that there is always a wonderful wife behind a successful man, so stop complaining about your man now and try to be a wonderful woman for him. That's it.

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PS:我非常爱他,因为他就是我的完美。我为他而感到自豪,我希望他能够理解我对他的爱,一如我知道他对我的爱一样。我爱你,D,非常非常多!你在我眼中总是最好的!!

PS: I love my big man and he is just the prefect ideal for me. I am so proud of him and I hope he will understand my love to him as much I know his love to me. I love you D, very very much!! You are always the best in my eyes!!!

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灰色空间
作词:姚若龙 
作曲:Yoo/Young Seok 
编曲:陈飞午 
演唱:罗志祥
原来不是白就是黑
只不过是天真的以为
要醉得清醒 要无辜的犯罪
现实的世界只有灰
坚强得太久好疲惫
想抱爱的人沉沉的睡
卷来的风暴 凶猛里有种美
死了心 痛就没感觉
灰色空间 我是谁
记不得幸福是什么滋味
无路可退 你是谁
怎么为我流泪
梦见发着光的草原
一身伤回到很久以前
我选择不恨 带着平静走远
醒来后 夜还是长夜
紧抱着我流泪

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