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人生一旦放弃内心幸福的追求,无视自己内心的需要,把人生的幸福建立在外部世界的基础上,就已经踏上了一条欲来欲往的“不归路”。不归路上,有金钱美女,有官位权势,有荣誉名声,有血亲好友,不归路上开出的欲望花朵陪伴人生走完大部分旅程。为了求得在欲望世界中生存和发展的基础,我们除了被自己的欲望所摆布捉弄之外,还要研究其他人的欲望倾向,然后依赖自己与他人众多的欲望构建一个适合自己生存和发展的欲望小圈子。
欲望往往需要利益产销链的机制来滋养,离开这个欲望的利益结构,我们将无法生存和发展,很多人放不下就是因为他们的一切幸福都来源于此,让他们离开辛勤编织的利益圈比死亡更难受,因为在编织欲望的人生过程中是需要很大的体力和精力投入的,古人说“业精于勤荒于嬉”,既然勤于编织利益结构,利益没有不精的道理,升官发财也是情理之中的事。但牧师说“欲精于勤荒于心”,因为时间和精力的限制,人不可能兼顾外部欲望和内心幸福。于是,我们走在欲望的不归路上,就会生出更多占据心灵的牵肠挂肚,这个放不下,那个放不下。为了谋点财天天要应酬,伤害自己的命;为了谋个缺天天陪笑脸,丧失自己的尊严;为了谋个名天天做广告,不分善恶是非;为了谋兴家天天要奔波,承担没完没了的责任.哪一个新鲜欲望的产生不需要新的利益去填平呢?钱财所生的是非需要钱来解决,所以赚钱是为了解决钱的是非,赚钱者花钱的机会不会太多;官员所生的是非需要官位来解决,所以你必须当更大的官才能解决官位所生的是非,官者自己享受到官的滋味真的很少,多半是为别人摆桌弄椅,为上下摆弄利益的平衡;名声所生的是非需要名声来解决,只有更出名才能解决名声所生的是非,名者自己感受到名声的快乐实在有限;家庭所生的是非需要家长来解决,作为家长一生都在为子女而担忧,可怜天下父母心,中国的父母哪位不可怜呢?作为一家之长你不可能享受到太多的自我幸福。欲望的马车既然已经起程,你也就别想下车了,而且也不可能下车了,除非马车坠崖抑或抛弃马车改为步行,你愿意步行吗?
我们亲手编织的欲望之网,结结实实的绑架了我们的人生,试问你到底是谁?这些欲望是你自己内心真正的需要吗?一生忙到死,你都不知道自己是怎么被这些欲望活埋的。活在欲望的世界里,久而久之思维模式成了一种欲望定式,如果没有了欲望,也就没有了生存的基础,所以就算知道欲望是毒酒,你也必须一杯接一杯的往肚子里喝,唯有饮鸩才能止渴,直到自己被欲望毒死,才算解脱放下.所以,有时死亡并非一无是处,死亡可以帮助生命解除那些欲望的慢性中毒.所谓一了百了就是这样一种说法.
有一种"放下"不需要去死,就是从头再来从零开始,以无比的勇气和胆量放下欲望,放下亲手编织的欲网,权当刚出世,力行寻找内心的幸福之路.可以从吃喝拉撒睡寻找到人生的基本快乐,因为很多人连吃喝拉撒睡的基本快乐都被欲望剥夺了,这个不能吃,那个不能喝,拉不出、睡不着的痛苦时常折磨着躯体.还可以尝试着通过各种喜欢的运动方式恢复自己的健康,因为身体健康是人生幸福的保证.当然,人最高的享受当来自于精神世界的享受,精神的享受比任何享受都要来得高级,你可以通过各种渠道学习知识、接受教育,让自己获得解决摆脱欲望的智慧,让精神世界处于一种“怡然自得”的快乐。
已经在欲望的世界中获得大大好处的人,如果不了解“厌倦”是给你带来痛苦的根源,那你真要好好研究一下,你获得的各种外部资源是否真的让你幸福?在欲望世界中处于上层的分子,也就是平常所说的成功者,理应更有生存和发展所需的物质基础支持你寻回久已失落的内心幸福感。
很多人在欲望的世界中并不成功,有很多人甚至还处在贫穷的挣扎之中,为了摆脱贫穷,还处在追求财富止渴的欲望号街车上,还在欲望的“不归路”上挣扎,芸芸众生的痛苦因为不断的欲望追求而绵绵不绝。
放下欲望并非什么都不干,不能简单的理解成放下工作和事业、抛弃家庭,去过贪图旅游山玩水的逍遥日子,而是说先认清自己内心的真正需要,在内心里找到人生快乐的根,把幸福感立足在内心的根子上,人生有了根,要长什么叶子(家庭),要长什么树枝(事业),那是水到渠成的自由发挥而已,可有可无的心态和人生佳境何其不痛快呢?
放不下,才让我们走上一条欲望的“不归路”,只有放下,才能找到灵魂回家的路,才能实现打心里底生起的幸福。
内心有了幸福的根子,才能够不怕那些外部世界的风吹雨打和变化无常,就算冬季来临,我们的根子也在地底下幸福的等待来年春天发芽的机会,人生就是这样年年有枝繁叶茂,而不是茂盛一阵子荒芜一辈子的"冰水二重天"或"今朝有今朝醉"的短命快感,再也不能把人生当作一锤子买卖了.
幸福必须埋在心底,幸福不需要任何外部的粉饰,幸福不是一种感觉,幸福是实实在在的人生价值取向的坦然计划和端正安排.
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inner life to give up the pursuit of happiness, to ignore their
inner needs, to the happiness of life built on the basis of the
outside world, it has to set foot on For stargazers heading for a
"road of no return." Of no return, there is money to beauty, there
are powerful position, there is honor reputation genetically friend
out of no return on the desire of the majority of flowers to
accompany the journey through life. In order to achieve the desire
for a world based on the survival and development, apart from being
manipulated by their own desire to tease, we should also look into
other people's desire to tend to, and then rely on their own and
others, the desire to build a large number of their own survival
and development desire for a small circle.
Desire to the interests of production and marketing chain often
require mechanisms to nourish, the interests of the desire to leave
the structure, we will not be able to survive and develop to fit a
lot of people because they are derived from the well-being of all
of this, let them leave the hard knitting circle than the death of
the interests of even worse, because the desire of life in the
weaving process requires a lot of physical strength and energy
inputs, the ancients said, "industry experts in shortage in the
play ground", since the interests of the hard-working woven
structure, the interests of the reason there is no sperm, promotion
is also rich reasonable thing. But the pastor said, "For shortage
of expertise in ground handling in mind," because time and energy
constraints, can not take into account the external and inner
well-being of desire. So, we walk in the desires of no return, it
will give birth to more worry about the mind occupied, this does
not fit, that does not fit. Finance seek every day in order to
point to social and hurt their own fate; missing every day in order
to seek , the loss of their dignity; of people every day in order
to seek to advertise, regardless of right and wrong good and evil;
Hing home in order to seek every day to go and bear not a
responsibility. which desire to have a fresh new interests do not
need to be filled up? Born to non-money need money to solve, so the
money to make money is to address the right and wrong, the chance
to spend money to make money are not too many; born to non-official
position to address the needs, so you must be greater when the
officer position to solve the non-born officials themselves really
enjoy the taste of the very few officers, most of the table before
others get chairs for the up and down playing with a balance of
interests; reputation reputation born of the need to solve the
non-only more well-known reputation in order to solve the non-born,
people who feel their reputation is only a limited amount of
happiness; family of non-born parents to resolve, as the parents
for their children in life and worry about the poor Parents,
parents in China who do not so poor? as the head of the family can
not enjoy too much of your self-happiness. Now that desire to leave
the carriage, you should not even think about it and get off, and
can not get off unless carriage changed or abandoned carriage walk,
you are willing to walk it?
We hand-woven web of desire, the kidnapped our lives, how can you
who in the end? These desires are the real heart of your own needs?
Busy life to die, you do not know how he is buried alive by these
desires. Live in a world of desire, the passage of time and desire
to become a mode of thinking pattern, in the absence of a desire,
there would be no basis for survival, so even if the desire is to
know, you must also go to the stomach drink, thirst to drink poison
only until the desire that they have been poisoned, only to lay
down their release. Therefore, the death was not completely useless
sometimes, death can help to lift the lives of those who desire to
chronic poisoning. the so-called such a claim is resolved once and
for all.
There is a "down" do not need to die, that is, start all over again
from scratch, with immense courage and guts to lay down their
desire to lay down their hand-woven For networks, the right when
the newborn, We find the road to inner happiness. Can pull from the
dining Caesar sleep to find the basic pleasure of life, not even
eat or drink because many people sleep Laksa basic desire to have
been deprived of happiness, this can not eat, that can not drink,
not pull, I could not suffer the pain of the body from time to
time. also can try a favorite sport through a variety of ways to
restore their health, because health is a guarantee of happiness in
life. Of course, when people enjoy the highest enjoyment from the
spiritual world, the spirit of enjoyment more than any enjoyment of
all high-level, you can learning through various channels of
knowledge, access to education, so that their desire to be resolved
out of wisdom, so that the spiritual world in a
happiness.
Have the desire to gain a significant advantage of the world, if do
not understand the "tired" is to bring you the root cause of
suffering, then you really have to look at, you get a variety of
external resources so that you really happy? In the desire in the
world of the upper elements, which is usually referred to success,
should the existence and development of the necessary material
foundation to support your long-lost heart found
happiness.
Many people in the world of desire is not successful, and even a
lot of people struggling in poverty, in order to get rid of
poverty, the pursuit of wealth is still in the thirst of A
Streetcar Named Desire, the desire is still the "road of no return
"the struggle, the suffering of all mortal beings as the desire to
continue to pursue and never continuous.
To lay down their desire to not do not do anything, can not simply
lay down their work into the understanding and the cause, abandoned
the family, went to make a sightseeing tour of Happy journey just
for the sake of time, but first get a clear understanding of the
real needs of their own hearts, into their hearts to find happiness
in life the root, the well-being based on the root cause of the
heart, the life with roots and leaves nothing to be a long
(family), what should be long branches (the cause), it is a matter
of course the freedom to play only a dispensable mentality and How
life does not pick them happy?
Unable to get rid of, only the desire for us to embark on a "road
of no return", and only down to find the soul of the way home, can
be achieved at the end of play in mind from the well-being of
Health.
With the root cause of the well-being of the heart can the outside
world are not afraid of those exposed to the elements and volatile,
even if the arrival of winter, the root cause of our happiness is
also underground to wait for the opportunity to germinate the
following spring, every year of life is happy,
rather than lush desert life while the "ice water two-days" or
"Today there are Jinzhao drunk," the short-lived pleasure of life
can no longer be treated as a sale of a
hammer.
Must be buried in the heart of happiness, happiness does not
require any external cosmetic, not a feeling of happiness,
happiness is the real value of life-oriented plans and correct
arrangement frankly.
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