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Life or lifestyle?  选择生活还是选择生活方式?

(2009-04-11 12:24:31)
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Life <wbr>or <wbr>lifestyle? <wbr> <wbr>选择生活还是选择生活方式?

这是一篇发表在《英语世界》2009/03期上的文章,非常的喜欢,也更坚定了自己的人生观——We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give. 在找寻幸福的人生旅途上,希望我们猪猪侦探所有越来越多的的“侦探所得”。

 

What is a lifestyle and how is that different from a life? A lifestyle is about brand names and buying identity or prestige. Lifestyle gives a false sense of peace and acceptability that comes from others recognizing what you've bought into (as well as bought). If your car, clothes, and Home are expensive, you're sophisticated and stylish. If you have the right kind of job or go to the right social gatherings, then you receive the superficial approval of others. This means that your self-esteem is always at the mercy of others, with no appreciation of you as an individual.

何谓生活方式,它与生活有何不同?生活方式与品牌相关,与用金钱换得身份和声望相关。生活方式给人一种和睦和受欢迎的错觉,这种感觉来自他人对你所购之物的认可。如果你的汽车、服装和住房价格不菲,那你就是既高雅又时尚的。如果你有份体面的工作或者出入高档的的社交场合,那你就会得到他人表面的赞许。而这意味着你的自尊总是受他人支配,和是否欣赏你这个人并无关系。

 

A life, on the other hand, is very different. A life is what you lead when you know what matters most to you. It is very simple and comes from being connected to what you know is important and being willing to put that first, not matter what others may think. When you create a life vs. a lifestyle, your self-esteem comes from what's inside you, not what others think about you.

另一方面,生活就大不相同了。生活是在你明白什么对你最重要时所过的日子。生活非常之简单,源自于你与你认为重要的事息息相关,愿意把它放在第一位,而不为他人想法所左右。当你创造了一种生活而非生活方式的时候,你的自尊就来自你的内心,而不是来自别人对你的看法。

 

How many times have you seen someone (this used to be me!) work long hours in a job that they do not enjoy just to be able to maintain an expensive lifestyle? There was a recent commercial on TV that showed a man laughing in his yard saying: "I drive an expensive car, have a 5 bedroom home, a country club membership, a swimming pool and I'm in debt up to my eyeballs!" Every time I see this commercial I think about the book - The Millionaire Next Door. The book says that most of the people living in the largest Homes are exactly like the man in the commercial and that the real millionaires are the ones you would never guess, because their focus is on creating a life vs. a lifestyle.

有人(我过去就是这样!)只是为了能维持奢华的生活方式而加班加点地做着他们并不喜欢的工作,这种情况你已看到过多少次了?最近电视上有一则广告,演的是一个男人在他家的院子里大笑着说:“我开这一辆高级轿车,拥有一套有5间卧室的住所,是一家乡村俱乐部的会员,还有一个游泳池,不过我现在已经债台高筑、负债累累!”每次看到这个广告,我都会想起一本书—《隔壁的百万富翁》。那本书上说:大多数住在面积最大的“房子”里的人都与广告中的那个男人惊人地相像,而真正的百万富翁是你永远都不会猜到的人,因为他们关注的是创造一种生活而不是创造一种生活方式。

 

Lifestyle is expensive monetarily and personally, because it costs a great deal to keep up appearances and do what you think is socially acceptable. A Life is not expensive. Rather than draining personal or financial resources, a life generates energy and staying power. If we focus on what we wear, or what kind of car we drive, or where we live, then we are saying that how others see us is more important than what we think of ourselves. If we find out what our true beliefs and values are and choose to live by these, then the opinions of others don't drive our lives. This is not an issue of avoiding luxury for its own sake; it's about liberating yourself from the mindless consumption that society dictates. It is about making the choices that are in line with your values, instead of draining your bank account or energy for no heart-driven reason.

生活方式无论在经济上还是精力上都代价高昂,因为你要付出很多去保持光鲜的外表,去做你认为在社会上很体面的事。生活则不需要付出那么昂贵的代价。生活不仅不消耗人力和财力,反而还能激发出人的能量并让人保持活力。如果我们只注意自己穿戴什么服饰,开什么品牌的车,住什么样的地方,那么我们就是在表明,别人如何看待我们要比我们自我认知的更为重要。如果我们找到什么是我们真正的信仰和价值观并选择按此来生活,那么我们的生活就不会为他人看法所左右。这绝不是为了拒绝奢华而拒绝奢华,而是将自己从社会支配的盲目消费中解放出来。这是要你作出与自身价值观相一致的选择,而不是为了并不由衷的理由去耗费金钱和精力。

 

How can you make the change? Understand the difference between a Life (being directed from within) and a Lifestyle (being directed from outside). Analyze your current lifestyle to see what it is costing you in money, time, stress, and energy to maintain it. Let go and make room for what is really important to you, what sustains you and brings you joy. Remember that who you are comes from within, not what you own!

那么你如何才能改变呢?弄清楚生活(受内在因素支配)与生活方式(受外在因素支配)的差异吧!分析你现在的生活方式,弄清为了维持这种生活方式你在金钱、时间、压力和经历上都耗费了什么。抛开那些,将空间留给对你来说真正重要的事物—那些支撑你的生命并给你带来快乐的事物。记住:决定你是谁的是你的内心,而非你所拥有的那些外在的东西。

Copyright May 2004 by Vicki Miller

 

 

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