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养儿养女

(2011-02-14 15:01:50)
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分类: 父母之道(Parenting)
有同事春节喜得一子。除了祝福声外也有提醒,养儿子是建设银行,养女儿是招商银行云云。除了希望这些言论也许能些微改变中国落后地区女孩命运外,我个人完全不赞同这些言论。
 
首先请教所有男同胞,是否认为自己是父母这一生的大包袱?请教所有已婚男士是否认为自己完全靠房子(或附加车子)才娶到老婆?请教所有单身男士是否认为没有房子自己一无是处?
 
其次请教所有女孩家长,是否愿意自己女儿一无所长但求一个金龟婿?
 
再请教所有年轻人是否愿意自己一生被拴在一所房子上成为毕生的房奴(即使不用还贷款)?是否愿意一出生就成为父母的负担?
 
希望天下父母不要假定子女的未来,给他们机会自己做主,跟孩子谈谈责任、独立,鼓励子女追寻梦想,追寻比房子、美女、金龟婿大一点儿的梦想。
 
最后,真心希望这种言谈只是对高房价无奈的调侃,只是对年轻人啃老善意的嘲弄。
 
One of my colleagues got a new-born baby boy during the Spring Festival. When this good news is disclosed, among the celebrations, there are also the common talk these days about how costly it would be to raise a boy, something like the parents must prepare him a household to get a daughter-in-law afterwards.
 
I don't like that kind of talk not only because I myself am a mother of a small boy, but also that I do believe such talk has nothing good except that there is a little chance that it may change some people's solid belief that girls are useless  at all.
 
First of all, I'd like to ask all the male population, do you reckon your life a disaster to your parents, or at least a heavy burden? If you're married, do you believe you got your wife solely because of your household? If you're single, do you have no confidence in yourself to attract a girl but with a house?
 
Second, I want to ask all the parents of girls, do you want your daughter to grow up to for nothing but has a wealthy husband? Do you want your daughter to be totally dependent on her husband without her own ability to make a living?
 
Then, I want to ask the young boys or girls, do you want your whole life be tied to a househole even before you are born, thus lost the freedom to walk around and see the world? Do you want to be a burden for your parents the moment you are delivered to them?
 
Last, I want to ask all the parents, do not try to shape your children's future based on your assumption, give them a chance to choose their own lifes, talk with them about being responsible and independent, encourgae them to pursue their dreams, some dreams that are bigger than a house, a hot girl, or a wealthy husband.
 
I really hope this is just kind of a joke that is used to refelct the disappointment many people feel about the high price of houses, a joke that some young people turn to their paprents for economical aids.

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