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[视频翻译] 害怕父母

(2011-04-21 08:44:09)
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父母

恐惧

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父辈罪过

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原视频链接:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mj_Nrv0M2UE

 

译者:Desteni中文翻译组     责任人:吴畏

 

害怕父母

2007年10月18日

 

嗨,我是害怕父母这个设计。父母如何通过爱的恐惧——事实上是通过爱恐惧,毁掉他们孩子的生活的。

 

好的,我从哪里开始呢?

 

我们来看一看——要理解有孩子们诞生在这个世界上。孩子们在这个世界上诞生于“家庭场景或情形”中。我举的例子是诞生在这个世界中的一个“家庭装置”中的小孩子:这孩子的父母在他们之前有他们的父母,而那些父母在他们之前也有他们的父母——因此我们一代一代又一代地回到这里来。

 

所有小孩子都做过一个有趣的声明,而这个声明过后在你的世界中显现为你自己的一个经历。这个声明如下:“我永远不会像我父母教育我这样来教育我的孩子”——或者“我的孩子永远不会像我与我父母在一起这样长大”。然后,有了孩子——然后,只有过了很长时间后,一个场合或一个事件发生在你与你的孩子之间,而你认识到:“真见鬼,我确确实实正在做我告诉过我自己永远不会做的事情。我对我孩子做的事情恰恰正是我父母对我做过的事情。”

 

这就是所谓的“父辈的罪过”代代相传。

 

即使你并不是有意以你被抚养的方式来抚养孩子——或是父母以他们被抚养的方式来抚养孩子——尽管并不是有意的,但是这仍然显现为一个实际经历。

 

因此,孩子们由于父母……父母们是心智系统,而所有心智系统都知道教给他们的东西,他们所学到的东西:对和错,好和坏,正和负——心智的极性显现物。看看这个世界上的父母们:他们很大程度上显现为基于极性的心智等式的经历,因此他们也会如此教育他们的孩子。

 

孩子们不理解的,孩子们没有理解的,也没有可能理解的是:父母朝他们表达的,尤其是表达的愤怒和恐惧——这是主要的——还有焦虑。

 

当父母朝孩子喊叫,或向孩子表达愤怒、恐惧或焦虑时,父母没有理解的是:他们朝着他们自己的表达对孩子所做的,事实上存在于他们自己之中;这与孩子没有任何关系。而孩子,当然,将其解释为是他们,是他们的错,是他们该受责备,是他们对这情形负有责任——但事实上从来都并非如此。是父母们没有理解到孩子们在这里是向你反映你自己。

 

并且这非常重要和紧迫地需要由父母们理解和认识到——你的孩子们在那里是你作为生命的无条件表达。无论你对你的孩子们表达什么,要理解你朝他们表达的事实上你是在朝你自己表达。孩子们是一面镜子,是你的反映。

 

关于现在正诞生的孩子们,我们已经被安置在“有觉察的孩子”出生时,以使诸如此类影响不会以任何方式伤害到孩子的进程。

 

至于那些已经被他们父母过去的行动、他们父母过去的表达“伤害”或“影响”的存有们,我建议你回到发生过的每一个事件中——你会在你的心智的记忆中找到它们,几乎就像是铬在那里似的,还在那里,就像是你心智中的一个伤疤,很大程度上提醒着你的童年和你成长的岁月——你曾经经历过并且现在仍在你的生活中影响你的世界。

 

从一个角度来看,把你自己再次放回到那些场景之中,但是将其带到这里来:把你自己放在这里,然后把你的父母放在你面前,或者无论是谁朝你表达了特定的话语,或是朝你做了特定的事情。在那些事件之中要理解一件事情:这与你没有任何关系——绝对没有任何关系。他们仅仅是在表达着他们内心中实际上正在发生的事情。

 

可以做的一件有趣的事情是:拿一面镜子——就像是你拿了一面镜子放在你面前,而你的父母或某个家庭成员站在你面前,他们在尖叫、喊叫或想要踢你或打你,或其它事——你就放一面镜子在你面前。他们在踢打和吼叫的会是谁?实际上是他们自己。但这必须由你自己亲自去理解。

 

然后,再把你的父母或家庭成员(他们对你说的特定的话或做的特定的事是任何身体或情绪方面虐待性质的)——把此人放在你之内作为你,然后做自我宽恕。如果存在任何反应、念头、情绪、感情、记忆、批判、仇恨、愤怒——做自我宽恕。

 

把你自己从过去、从记忆之中解放出来。因为如果你看一看,那些都是过去发生的事件,而你却仍然在接受和允许它们影响在这里作为生命气息的你自己。因此是要放下过去,认识/实现在这里每一刻中的你自己。

 

非常感谢。

 

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FEAR of PARENTS

18 October 2007

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mj_Nrv0M2UE

 

Hi, this is the design of fear of parents; how parents ruin their child’s life through fear of love – through fear AS love, actually.

 

Right, where do I start?

 

Let’s have a look – understand that we have children that are being born in this world. Now, children are born in this world in a ‘family scenario’ or ‘situation’. Now, I’m taking for example the young children who are born in a ‘family placement’ in this world: the parents of that child had parents before them, and those parents had parents before them – and so we go back and return here to the generation after generation after generation, after generation.

 

Now, an interesting statement is made by all young children, and that one statement manifests as an experience of yourself later in your world. That one statement is the following: ‘I will never teach my children the way my parents taught me’ – or ‘My children will never grow up as I grew up with my parents’. Then, the children come – and then, only after a long while, one occasion, or one event, or one situation will occur with your children where you will realise: ‘Oh shit, I am indeed doing what I told myself I would never do. I’m doing with my children exactly what has been done unto me by my parents.’

 

This is what is referred to as the ‘Sins of the Fathers’ that has been passed down from generation to generation.

 

Now, even if it is not intended to raise children as you have been raised – or, for parents to raise children as they have been raised – although that wasn’t intended, it does still manifest as an actual experience.

 

Therefore, the children of parents… – the parents are mind-systems and all mind-systems know is what has been taught to them, what they have learned: right and wrong, good and bad, positive and negative – the polarity manifestations of the mind. Have a look at parents in this world: they’re very much manifested as the experience of the polarity-based equation of the mind, and thus they will teach their children accordingly.

 

Now, what children do not understand and what children have not understood and cannot possibly understand, is: parents’ expression towards them, especially the expressions of anger and fear – big ones – anxiety.

 

When parents shout at a child, or express anger to a child, or fear to a child, or anxiety to a child, the parent is not understanding that what they‘re doing towards the expression of themselves to the child – is actually existing within them; it has NOTHING to do with the child. The child, of course, interprets it as them, [it] being their fault, and that they‘re to blame and that they‘re responsible for the situation – but they never actually are. It‘s the parents not understanding that the children are here to reflect you back to yourself.

 

And this is very important and imperative for parents to understand and realise – your children stand there as the unconditional expression of life as you. Whatever expression you have towards your children – understand that that which you‘re expressing towards them, you‘re actually expressing toward yourself. The children are a mirror – a reflection of you.

 

Now – in terms of the children that are being born now, we have been placed in the birth of ‘the child of awareness’, so that no such influences will harm a child’s process in any way whatsoever.

 

And those beings that have been ‘harmed’ or ‘influenced’ by their parents’ actions of the past, their parents’ expressions of the past, I would suggest to go back to each and every event that has occurred – and you will find them in your mind as memories that are almost being burned there, remaining there, like a scar within your mind that reminds you very much of your childhood and your years of growing up, which you’ve experienced [and which are] still influencing your world in your life now.

 

Take it from one perspective, place yourself back in to those situations again, but bring it here: place yourself here and then your parents before you, or whoever expressed specific words towards you, or had done specific actions towards you. Understand one thing in those events: that it had nothing to do with you – absolutely nothing. They were merely expressing themselves of what was actually going on inside them.

 

What would be an interesting application to do, is: take a mirror – if you’d have taken a mirror and placed it in front of you, as your parents or a family member were standing in front of you and they were just screaming and shouting or wanting to kick you or hit you, or whatever – and you just place a mirror in front of you. What would they have been kicking and hitting and shouting at? Themselves, actually. But this is what you have to see for yourself.

 

And then, also, to place your parents or family member who had specifically voiced words to you or done anything to you in any physical way or emotional way of abuse – place the being inside you, as you, and apply self-forgiveness. If there are any reactions, thoughts, emotions feelings, memories, judgments, hatred, anger: apply self-forgiveness.

 

Set yourself free from the past, from the memories. Because if you have a look – those are past events that occurred, that you’re still accepting and allowing to influence you here as the breath of life that’s you. It is to let go of the past, to realise yourself here in every moment.

 

Thank you very much.

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