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To Be a Better friend

(2010-09-18 18:31:49)
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本文是河北学位英语2011年上半年教材的第二十单元课文

本文是河北学位英语2010年下半年教材的第二十单元课文

是本次教材新添加课文。

博客上贴出来的是整篇文章。教材上节选了本文的第一,二、三、七、八、九、十段。红色部分是教材上的课文内容

  

Back when we were kids, the hours spent with friends were too numerous to count. There were marathon telephone conversations, all-nigh studying and giggling sessions. Even after boyfriends entered the picture, our best friends remained irreplaceable. And time was the means by which we nurtured those friendships. Now as adult women we never seem to have enough time for anything. Husbands, kids, careers and avocations--all require attention; too often, making, time for our friends comes last on the list of priorities. And yet, ironically, we need our friends as much as ever in adulthood. A friendship network is absolutely crucial for our well-being as adults. We have to do the hard work of building and sustaining the network and forging close,instead of superficial,alliances. Here are some important ways for accomplishing this.
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在孩提时代,我们和朋友呆在一起的时间不计其数:马拉松式的电话交谈,整夜在一起学习和玩耍。即使在交了男朋友之后,我们最好的朋友的位置还是不可取代。正是相互在一起的时间培养了我们之间的友谊。现在是成人女子了,时间似乎总不够用。丈夫、孩子、事业和业余爱好都要投人精力,因而很多时候便把朋友搬到了一边。然而有讽刺意义的是,我们在成年时和儿童时代一样需要友谊。一个由友谊编织成的网络对我们成年人的幸福至关重要。我们必须努力去建立和保持这个网络。以下便是达到这个目的的几个重要方法:
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Let go of your less central friendships

    Many of our friendships were never meant to last a lifetime. It's natural that some friendships have time limits. Furthermore, now everyone has a busy social calendar, so pull back from some people that you don't really want to draw close to and give the most promising friendship a fair chance to grow.
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舍得放弃  

    许多友情本来就不能终生维持。有的友情随时光的流逝而消失是情理之中的事。此外,现在每个人都那么忙碌,所以,放弃那些你并不想真正接近的人,以更多的时间去培养那些最重要的友情。
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Be willing to "drop everything" when you're truly needed

    You may get a call from a friend who is really depressed over a certain problem when you are just sitting down to enjoy a romantic dinner with your husband. This is just one of those instances when a friend's needs mattered more. Sometimes, because of our unbreakable commitments or other circumstances, we simply can't give a needy friend the time we'd like. If you can't be there at that given moment, say something like, "I wish I could be with you--I can hear that you're in pain. May I call you tomorrow?" Be sure your friend knows she's cared about.
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急朋友之所急

    当你刚刚坐下想和丈夫享受一顿浪漫的晚餐时,你的朋友却突然打来电话,她正为某一问题沮丧不已。在一些情况下,朋友之需显得更为重要,这只是其中的一个例子。有时候,因为我们有事无法分身或别的原因,我们虽然想助一臂之力,但苦于没有时间。如果你不能及时给朋友以帮助,那么不妨对她说,"我真希望能陪陪你--我能听出来你很痛苦。我明天给你打电话行吗?"一定要让你的朋友知道你对她的关心。
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Take advantage of the mails

    Nearly all of us have pals living far away--friends we miss very much. Given the limited time available for visits and the high price of phone calls, writing is a fine way to keep in touch--and makes both sender and receiver feel good. Besides, letters, cards and postcards have the virtue of being tangible--friends can keep them and reread them for years to come.
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利用鸿雁传书

    几乎我们所有人都有远在异地让我们非常想念的朋友。考虑到抽不出时间去走访,电话费又那么贵,那么写信是保持联系的好方法。这种方式让写信人和收信人都感到很高兴。另外,信件、卡片和明信片都是看得见摸得着的,朋友可以将其保存,以后还可以再读。
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Risk expressing negative feelings

    when time together is tough to come by, it's natural to want the mood during that time to be upbeat. And many people fear that others will think less of you if you express the negative feelings like anger and hurt. Remember honesty is the key to keeping a friendship real. Sharing your pain will actually deepen a friendship.
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吐露真情实感

    大家聚在一起不容易时,自然希望彼此都有个好心情。好多人都担心,把自己的心事--愤怒和受伤害等吐露出来会让人家瞧不起。记住以诚相待是保持友谊真实的关键。让朋友分担你的痛苦其实反倒会加深友谊。
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Don' t make your friends' problems your own

    Sharing your friend's grief is the way you show deep friendship. But taking on your friend's pain doesn't make that pain go away. There's a big difference between empathy or recognizing a friend's pain, and overidentification, which makes the sufferer feel even weaker-"I must be in worse pain than I even thought, because the person I' m confiding in is suffering so much!" Remember troubled people just need their friends to stay grounded in their own feelings.
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不要过分卷入朋友的痛苦

    分担朋友的痛苦是表露友情的一种方式。但是承受朋友的痛苦并不能消除其痛苦。心灵相通(即理解朋友的痛苦)与过分卷入朋友的痛苦有很大区别。过分卷入使对方感到自己更脆弱--"我的痛苦肯定比我感受到的更可怕,因为听我倾诉的朋友都如此难过。"记住,处于逆境中的人需要的只是朋友的理解和支持。
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Understand that long-turn friendship wax and wane

    Long-term friendship are similar to marriage in that there will be both periods of excitement and dullness. Your friends and you might be out of touch for a year or more because things get so hurried nowadays. But understand that if you need each other, you'll be there for each other as much as you can.
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友情也会有盛衰

    长期的友情同婚姻一样,既有兴奋期,也有觉得乏味的时候。现在一切都这么匆忙,你和你的朋友有可能一两年都不通音信。但相信一旦彼此需要,你们仍会竭尽所能。
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Never underestimate the value of loyalty.

    Loyalty has always been rated as one of the most desired qualities in friends. True loyalty can be a fairly subtle thing. Some people feel it means that, no matter what, your friend will always take your side. But real loyalty is being accepting the person, not necessarily of certain actions your friend might take.
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切勿低估忠诚的价值

    忠诚一直被列为朋友间最重要的品质之一。真正的忠诚是件相当微妙的事情。有人认为忠诚意味着不管你做什么,你的朋友总是站在你这一边。但真正的忠诚指的是接受其人,而不一定赞同其所有的行为。
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Give the gift of time as often as time allows

    Time is what we don' t have nearly enough of ---and yet, armed with a little ingenuity, we can make it to give it to our friends. The trick is remembering that a little is better than none and that you can do two things at once. For instance, if you both go for a weekly aerobics, go on the same day. If you both want to go on vocation, schedule the same destination.
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巧妙利用时间,

    增进友谊时间似乎总是不够用,但稍微变通一下便可以为朋友挤出时间来。重要的是要记住时间即使少一点也总比没有好,而且有时你可以一箭双雕。比如说,如果你和某位朋友每个星期都要去做一次健美操,那么就安排同一天去。如果双方都要去度假,那么不妨选择同一个去处。
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The last but not the least thing to keep a friendship alive is to say to your friends "I miss you and love you." Saying that at the end of a phone conversation, or a visit, or writing it on a birthday card, can sustain your friendship for the times you aren't together.
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维持友谊的最后一点,但并不是最无关紧要的一点,就是在通完电话或拜访结束时说一句,或在生日卡上写一句:"我想你,爱你!"这简单的话语会在你们分开的日子里维系友谊。

 

 

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