在上海的第二个礼拜。

  对比HK和上海，我还是更喜欢HK吧。把人民广场周周围围的地方走得差不多了。今天好友带我去浦东那边转了下。

  怎么说，整个城市，除了压抑，还是压抑。虽然在HK，我也一度感到快节奏的压抑，但是，至少，人们的感觉很一致。不会像上海，什么人群都有，什么程度的人都有，很多时候，你面对着中年妇女鄙视外地人的眼神，年轻白领清高孤傲的神态，还有乞讨者们游离的目光……在HK，人们自由来往，自由交谈，很少有人会去注视身边的你，我，他；也很少有人去影响其他人，包括时间、道路、言论……

  早晚的穿梭是匆匆且疲惫的。在教室的时间，是枯燥而昏睡的。生活却不单调。一个城市，由陌生到熟悉，就是在这些匆匆、疲惫、枯燥与昏睡中产生了。与任何一个城市建筑的墙面对话，与任何一个城市人的眼神交流或者话语问候，你都可以听到这个城市最真切的呼吸。话说回来，一切的抱怨与烦躁，只是短暂与偶尔的。更多的时候，我宁愿让自己变成一个局外人，完全去享受这样一个城市的特点，无论好坏，它在成长，它在前进。作为一个过客，我需要的不是批评，不是批判，而是带着思考的头脑与它对话，认识它，了解它，熟悉它。之后，才会给它好的建议，或者帮助它。

  因为它太特殊了。一个曾今在课上被我们说成事distorted development的典型城市，现在，我以生活的方式融入其中，不得不去认真的了解，而不是一般游人的所谓“东方明珠前拍拍照，外滩上走走”的心情。

For a couple’s marriage, they have to order the hotel a year ago before the wedding day.  People give 1000-10000 as the wedding gifts?!

If a boy doesn’t own a house, it means that he almost gets no chance to marry a girl in SH. My friend gave me a very impressive example, he said that a boy without a house want to marry a girl, the result will be like that a disabled boy without his arms to ask a girl to marry him…

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During these days, I am always thinking something else. I just want to figure out something. Luckily, I found my answer in the end. I know I just have to move on. There is no reason for me to move even a step backward, no way! No matter how much I missed all the beautiful memories and experiences, no matter how cherish those memories are, I have to tell to myself that Candy, you can’t do that, just keep your mind clean and tidy. You are on your way now. You’ve already tasted every story. Love is not just love, it should be consider many things. It’s not just about the two people who love each other, their own friends, families should also be considered, especially the friends of each other. It’s very important. I cannot force myself to accept some behaviors, some people which I don’t like at all. It’s just too complicated for me to figure out everything which happened months ago. It’s so weird, so crazy, though it was still fabulous. It’s the hard time for me to get over with, but I will try my best, and I know I will!