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生活充满选择 - Life is full of choices

(2006-07-17 11:21:51)
分类: 拾萃娑婆 痴人说梦
以下是末学在一英文佛学论坛上发表的一篇针对一位师兄谈到“后悔”的一些看法,在此和各位分享一下,为了方便大家,我也把原文翻成中文,习惯看英文佛友可以以英文原文为准因为我双语能力只限于用一种语言思考而不善于翻译:

生活充满选择。

人们总是想着一些没有选上的选择,猜测着如果他们选了另一个选择他们的生活又会变得怎样。

“后悔”只是个相对的名词,是“满足”的其中一个反义词。当一个人不满现状,他就开始幻想着“也许会是”什么样的结果。继而,悔意就从潜意识涌出。

你将一些从没有发生过的东西加上“更好的选择”的标签,而忘记了这些选择也有同样的“不满足”的可能。
 
凡事往正面的方向看是好的,但是应要将目光放在现实的东西上,就是“当下”,应是平常遇到的事,而不是在你想象中可能会遇到的事。

追根究底,悔意是我们对更好的东西的欲望,我们对现在拥有的东西的不满欲望。

如果我们学习去欣赏我们所拥有的,参透了无论你对所发生了的事后不后悔,生活还是继续往前走,明白了我们自己的欲望和对我们认为所要的东西的执著是后悔和负面感觉的根源,生活将会变得更美丽,因为所有的悔意其实都是心所造。

从头开始意味着你需要接受你以往的行为所带来的果。否认或拒绝承认而继续在后悔中和“也许会这样”的痴梦中活着并不能让你从头开始。其实,我们每一刻都在从头开始,因为我们正在以我们现在的行为和思想来创造将来的果。

所以,不要再只看着以前,应将往事记下,承认它,然后继续往前。一刻一刻的,一口气一口气的,活在当下。
 
阿弥陀佛!
 

Life is full of choices.

People only ponder on the choices they failed to choose, wondering what would have happened if their lives had taken a different course.

"Regret" is only a relative term, an opposite of "Satisfaction". When one is not satisfied with what had turned out, one starts to ponder about what "Could Have Been" the result. Thus, regret springs from the subconscious of our mind.

You label things which had never happened as "better alternatives", neglecting their possible results of being equally "dissatisfying".

Looking at the brighter side of things is good, but one needs to anchor on a more realistic object, i.e. NOW, things you come across, not things you imagine that you could have come across.

Getting to the root of the problem, regret is our desire for better things, our unsatisfied desire on what you currently have.

If we learn to appreciate what we have, realizing life simply moves on with or without you regretting what had happened, knowing our desire and clinging to what we thought we want are the root causes of regret and negative feelings, life will become beautiful, as all regrets are simply in our mind.

Starting anew means you need to come to terms with what you have become as a result of your past actions. Denying or refusing to admit and living in regret and dreams of "what could have happened" would not prepare you to start anew. In fact, we start anew every moment as we are creating the future results by our current actions and thoughts.

So, don't look back, note the past, acknowledge it, and move on. Live at present, moment by moment, breath by breath.

Metta.

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