今天陪#1做作业时，开始翻一本书: How to raise a child with a high EQ: a parents' guide to emotional intelligence.




等她磨磨蹭蹭做完了，我已经看了几十页了。 本来要先看Daniel Goleman的经典之作Emotional Intelligence的，但是现在看来这本书似乎更加实用。

Emotional intelligence is defined by Daniel Goleman as "abilities such as being able to motivate oneself and persist in the face of frustrations; to control impulse and delay gratification; to regulate one's moods and keep distress from swamping the ability to think; to empathize and to hope."

这个定义，字字打在我饱受#1考验和折磨的心灵上。

我正在悲天悯人之时，这本书开篇说的另一段话顿时让我如同打了鸡血一样欢欣鼓舞:

(意译): 跟与天俱有无法改变的IQ不同，小孩子的EQ是家长能够通过有效的PARENTING来影响和改变的。

对于已经发现在EQ方面欠缺的孩子，作者建议家长扮演THERAPIST的角色，把握平时日常生活的很多机会引导帮助孩子建设良好的心理素质。

再抄一段AMAZON上的书评:
"This well-written, insightful book, through games, activities, tricks, skills, and habits, guides parents in developing the moral emotions of empathy, honesty, shame, and guilt; thinking skills such as realism and optimism; resourcefulness; social skills including conversation, humor, manners, and friendliness; persistence and motivation; and emotional control. In addition to displaying a sure grasp of the parenting and psychological literature, Shapiro also covers software that helps children express themselves. His application of principles and techniques from the burgeoning field of neuroscience is a first in the literature targeted toward parents. The "parent's E.Q. checklist" uses specific issues and problems to direct parents to the chapter that will help them most--a practical feature of this forward-looking, comprehensive guide to the emotional well-being of children. "

希望开学前我能见缝插针把这本书赶紧读完。