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Don't think about superficial nonsense

(2009-05-11 14:06:40)
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Dear Ariel and Ben:

I'm a freshman and have recently had a question. Back in middle school, a boy liked me and I liked him too, but we could not fall in love with each other for many reasons. I got to university, but he still has not finished high school. I always miss him, but I also know that it's impossible, because our parents would not approve.

This holiday I saw him and got his phone number. But I don't always text him because I'm afraid it would delay his finding a girlfriend. But I think of him a lot. What should I do?

Lin

Don't think about superficial nonsense

I THINK everyone out there has someone they met in their life about whom they always ask that big question: “What if...”

Normally, I would tell you to get a life and forget this guy but fate has serendipitously reconnected the two of you. And serendipity shouldn't be taken lightly! If you've been thinking about this guy for this long, I say you should really go for it. Don't think about your backgrounds or any other superficial nonsense.

 

At this point, you have absolutely nothing to lose. Don't be that 90-year-old spinster lying on her deathbed regretting the fact that she never contacted the guy. Who knows what could happen? Maybe he's been harboring the same feelings for you all these years. You need to call, if not for yourself, do it for him; better yet, do it for the rest of us who chickened out and never made that call ourselves at one time or another! The worst case scenario is that, even if things don't go as planned and you don't end up living happily ever after, you will at least have reached some sort of closure and can move on with your life.

Ben

Ask to meet him

OF course you should call this boy! Otherwise you'll drive yourself crazy thinking about what might have been. After all the years you've spent thinking and dreaming about him, you finally have a chance to know him as he is now. Ask him to meet you for a *platonic date–just old friends catching up with the latest developments after a long time apart. You haven't seen each other in years, and it's possible that you're no longer compatible as romantic partners.

 

Maybe you'll just want to be friends. Maybe you'll discover that you don't like him at all. Or, you might find that your love is rekindled and stronger than ever. Either way, you won't know until you spend time together again. Don't worry about keeping him from other girls–asking for a friendly reunion is not the same as demanding a lifetime commitment from him! He may be just as curious as you are to see if there's still a spark.

If you do want to start a romantic relationship with him, talk to your parents honestly about how you feel. Explain why this boy is so special to you. Ask them to judge him on his own merits rather than on their opinion of his parents. Ultimately though, your choices should be based on your own feelings.

Whether you find you're still in love, or better suited to be just friends, or not interested in each other at allthese are options that are better than doing nothing and wondering what might have been.

Ariel

BONUS

a flash in the pan

昙花一现

The writer's successful bestseller turned out to be a flash in the pan. He never managed to write another book after that.

这个作家的成功只不过是昙花一现,自从他写了那本畅销书后,他再也没有写过别的东西。

chicken out

退缩

That girl smiled at you. Don't chicken out, go and ask for her phone number.

那个女孩朝你微笑了。别退缩,过去要她的电话号码吧。

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