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            <title>让你精力旺盛的24个好习惯</title>
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            <description><![CDATA[<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">1.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">晨练</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">5</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">分钟</SPAN></P>
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&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">起床后锻炼</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">5</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">分钟，不仅为身体充电，而且能加倍燃烧卡路里。很多人误认为晨练必须</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">5</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">点钟爬起来跑上几公里，其实是不必要，也不太现实的。你只消花</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">5</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">分钟，做做俯卧撑和跳跃运动，使心率加快，就能达到理想的效果；要么对着镜子冲拳</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">100</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">下，感受那种能量积蓄的过程。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">　</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">2.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">养成喝水习惯</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">处于缺水状态的你，会时常感觉衰惫。清早起来先喝一杯水，做一下内清洁，也为五脏六腑加些“润滑剂”；每天至少喝进去
一升水，不过也不是多多益善。</SPAN></P>
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　</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">3.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">讲究吃早餐</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">美国有研究发现，不吃早餐的人身高体重比（</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">BMI</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">）偏高，也就是体重超标，还爱犯困，做事无精打采；讲究吃早餐的人则精力充沛得多，身形也相对匀称。最营养健康的西式早餐是：两片全麦面包</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">一块熏三文鱼和一个西红柿。全麦面包含有丰富的碳水化合物和纤维；西红柿的番茄红素有利于骨骼的生长和保健，并且对前列腺疾病的预防很有好处；三文鱼中丰富的</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">omega-3</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">脂肪酸和蛋白质对身体更加有益。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">4.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">十点加餐</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">即使早餐吃得不错，到上午十点半，前一天储存的糖原也差不多用没了。你要想在一天剩下的时间仍像刚充完电，这时就必须加加餐。一块巧克力，或者一根能量棒</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">几块饼干，补充能量以外，还能有效避免午餐暴饮暴食。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">5.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">午后喝咖啡</SPAN></P>
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　午餐后，身体的睡眠因子（一种能引发睡眠的分子）成分增多，是最容易犯困的时候，此时喝一小杯咖啡效果最好。当然喝茶也行，随你喜欢！别忘了睡前</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">4</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">小时内不要喝咖啡，免得过于兴奋睡不着。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">6.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">多倾诉多纾解</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">性格也能调节疲惫。荷兰的一项研究表明，在工作中内向</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">害羞的人更容易觉得累，而外向的人精力更足，这是因为爱跟人交谈的人善于发现乐趣，把自己的烦恼</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">压力及倒霉事一股脑说出来，就不会觉得累和无聊，相反地，喜欢安静</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">独处</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">不爱社交的人缺乏这种纾解压力的渠道，时间长了，必然感觉不堪重负。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">　</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">7.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">坐有坐相</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">坐姿不良，走路踢里踏拉，耸肩腆肚，这些通常是你能量已耗干的表现。在办公室一坐就是七八个小时，如果不能保持正确的姿势，反而会觉得更疲劳。不管是站还是坐着，应当收腹立腰，放松双肩，脖子有稍稍伸展的感觉。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">8.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">张驰结合</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">工作中碰到难题，一时半会儿又没法解决，不如稍事休息，如去倒杯茶，换换脑筋，然后接着干。累得快透不过气来时，深吸一口气（数</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">3</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">下），然后呼出来（数</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">6</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">下）；或者翻翻体育杂志，上网浏览娱乐八卦，找谁聊几句，说不定灵感在不经意间就来了。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">　</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">9.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">站起来接电话</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">站着打电话借机舒展舒展筋骨，一边深呼吸，使富含氧气的血液流进大脑。这个简单的变化能让你几个小时都精两倍旺。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">10.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">边沐浴边唱歌</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">淋浴时大声唱歌促进身体释放内啡呔，从而产生一种快乐与幸福的感觉，减轻压力。你越是心情不好的时候，越要唱出来，至于好不好听，跑没跑调，你管它呢！</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">　</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">11.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">交乐观的朋友</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">乐观</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">精力旺的朋友或同事人见人爱，他们积极的情绪总能感染周围的人。不仅要和聪明有才华的人交往，更要和那些充满热情，积极向上的人交朋友；跟一个悲观</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">喜欢抱怨的人一起呆上</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">30</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">分钟，你的能量就会被间接耗尽</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">12.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">大事化小</SPAN></P>
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　一口气吃不成胖子！不要总想着把某项大工程一气做完，结果自己累得趴下了。不妨把大工程拆成若干个小工程，一样一样地做，时不时休息一下，这样，既保持体力，又能提高工作效率，最终还能加快工作进度。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">13.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">锻炼背部</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">你有没发现“背多分”型的男人往往受到殊遇，不仅如此，强壮的背部能让你工作起来比别人更轻松，不觉得太累。锻炼背部最有效的方法是用划桨器，注意姿势要正确；脚放平，膝盖微曲，双桨恰到好处地停在胸部。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">14.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">打坐</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">早晨睡眼惺松，先不忙爬起来，舒舒服服地坐在床上坐着，挺直后背，闭上双眼，快速地用鼻子呼气和吸气，嘴巴微闭。（这个胸部练习应当像拉风箱一样，快速而机械地进行）</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">15.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">每天运动</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">哪怕你再忙，也要坚持锻炼，或跑步或键步走或游泳。你要是对自己体力过于自信，以为年轻就是本钱，不会那么轻易倒下，有人也许会跟你急。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">16.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">午睡</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">20</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">分钟</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">20</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">分钟左右的小憩是最理想的，它其实跟午睡一小时的作用没什么两样。一个小时对大多数人来说有点长了，睡得太沉，晚上可能睡不好。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">　</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">17.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">补铁</SPAN></P>
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　如果你体内铁的储存太低，身体就不能制造血液中运载氧气的血红蛋白，人就容易觉得累。最好的补铁办法是通过饮食，采用食物疗法：含铁质丰富发热有动物肝脏</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">肾脏；其次是瘦肉</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">蛋黄</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">鸡</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">鱼</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">虾和豆类。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">18.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">开车多吃纤维食物</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">男人很少吃零食，你可以在车里放些花生和葡萄干，这些东西含有大量的钾，你的身体需要钾将血液中的糖转化为能量；坚果也不错，它富含碳酸镁，缺乏碳酸镁会使身体产生大量乳酸，而乳酸易使人产生疲劳感。</SPAN></P>
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<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">放些香料在家里，尤其是迷迭香</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">薄荷和姜，可以提神醒脑，增强记忆力，并且能治疗头痛偏头痛。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">20.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">多看喜剧</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">笑一笑，十年少。笑能锻炼面部肌肉，改变你的面部循环，从而提高注意力。英国科学家近日公布的研究表明，尽管快乐不像俗语形容的那样能挽留青春，但每天保持愉悦心情的人确实更健康，罹患心血管病</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">糖尿病的风险更低。</SPAN></P>
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<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">多睡</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">60</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">分钟的提神功效等于喝两杯咖啡。这是指你每天早睡一小时，而不是周末拼命睡懒觉。否则生物钟被打乱，总感觉晕乎乎的。</SPAN></P>
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<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">美国马萨诸塞大学的研究表明，愤怒和敌对的情绪在冬天比较多，而夏天比较少。晒太阳能提高大脑血清素的含量，改善心情，为身体充电。不妨争取一切能晒太阳的出差或旅行机会。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">　</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">23.</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">控制酒量</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">&nbsp;</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">　酒精让你产生蒙蒙睡意，但是睡前喝酒反而会因兴奋影响睡眠，虽然闭着眼，眼球却在不停地转。你得牢记睡前两小时不喝酒，晚餐啤酒最多只喝一两杯。</SPAN></P>
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　一项研究发现，那些健身族下班后去健身，浑身酸酸地，回家洗个澡睡个好觉，起来后犹如获得新生，无独有偶，美国芝加哥大学的学者认为，晚上锻炼能增加</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">XXXXX</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">素的水平，这对能量的新陈代谢至关重要。</SPAN></P>
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　　本来是分享来的，可是这文章太有用了，还是写下来随时提醒自己最合适了。</SPAN></P>]]></description>
            <author>邵雷鹏</author>
            <category>生活常识</category>
            <comments>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed70100a17o.html#comment</comments>
            <pubDate>Wed, 18 Jun 2008 04:19:50 GMT+8</pubDate>
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            <title>[转]经济学家告诉你生活中的猫腻</title>
            <link>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed70100a17j.html</link>
            <description><![CDATA[美国康奈尔大学经济学教授罗伯特·弗兰克是个问题制造者。他把经济学当做了博物学，让学生们写短文，提出生活中的问题，并从经济学的视角做出回答。
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<font STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 黑体">1.</FONT><font STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 黑体">为什么牛奶装在方盒子里卖，可乐却装在圆瓶子里卖？</FONT></FONT></FONT></FONT></P>
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原因之一可能是，软性饮料大多是直接就着容器喝的，所以，由于圆柱形容器更趁手，抵消了它所带来的额外存储成本。而牛奶却不是这样，人们大多不会直接就着盒子喝牛奶。</P>
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可就算大多数人直接就着盒子喝牛奶，成本效益原则亦显示，它们不大可能装在圆柱形容器里贩卖。不错，方形容器的确能节约货架空间，但牛奶一例中节约的空间，显然比软性饮料一例中来得更划算。超市里大多数软性饮料都是放在开放式货架上的，这种架子便宜，平常不存在运营成本。但牛奶则需专门装在冰柜里，冰柜很贵，运营成本也高。所以，冰柜里的存储空间相当宝贵，从而提高了用方形容器装牛奶的收益。</P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal" ALIGN="center"><font COLOR="#FF0000">&nbsp;&nbsp;</FONT> <font COLOR="#FF0000"><font SIZE="2">&nbsp;<font STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 黑体">2.</FONT><font STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 黑体">为什么女装的扣子在左边，男装的扣子却总在右边？</FONT></FONT></FONT>&nbsp;</P>
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毕竟，全世界90%以上的人（无论男女）都是右撇子，用右手从右边扣扣子要容易多了。那么，为什么女装扣子在左边？在这个例子中，好像真的是历史说了算。17世纪扣子最初问世的时候，只有有钱人的外套上才钉扣子。按当时的风俗，男士自己穿衣服，女士则由仆人帮着穿。女士衬衣上的扣子钉在左边，极大地方便了伺候女主人的仆人们。男士衬衣的扣子在右边，不仅因为大多数男人们是自己穿衣服，还因为用右手拔出挂在左腰上的剑，不容易被衬衫给兜住。</P>
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如今，为什么女装扣子依然留在左边呢？规范一经确立，就很难改变。既然所有女装衬衫的扣子都在左边，成衣商提供扣子在右边的女士衬衣，就很冒险</P>
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&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; <font STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 黑体" COLOR="#FF0000">3.</FONT><font STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16px; FONT-FAMILY: 黑体" COLOR="#FF0000">为什么鲸鱼濒临灭绝，鸡却没有繁衍之忧？</FONT></P>
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几乎每年环保主义者都会上街游行，谴责国际捕鱼业对许多大型海洋哺乳生物的生存造成了威胁。可没有人上街抗议，号召大家拯救小鸡。这是为什么呢？简单来说，鸡从来没当过濒危物种。但这就引出了另一个问题：为什么有的物种濒临灭绝，有的却没有？</P>
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鲸鱼的数量持续下降，是因为没有人拥有它们的产权。它们畅游在国际海域，而有几个国家拒绝履行国际禁止捕鲸协议。相反，世界上多数的鸡都有主人。你从自家笼子里抓一只鸡杀掉，你拥有的鸡数量就减少了一只。如果养鸡是你的谋生手段，那么，你必然有着强烈的动机，要使送去市场卖的鸡和新养的鸡在数量上保持平衡。这就解释了前者濒于灭绝、后者繁衍不息的原因。</P>
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<font STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16px; FONT-FAMILY: 黑体">4.</FONT><font STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16px; FONT-FAMILY: 黑体">为什么不少学校要求学生穿校服？</FONT></FONT></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal" STYLE="TEXT-INDENT: 21.75pt"><font STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 14px">倘若学生能够自由选择衣服，就必须考虑到自己传递给别人的暗示信息。比方说，要是有人希望传达自己是个大胆姑娘的信息，她说不定就会穿得惊人地大胆豪放。要是有人希望显得成功、一切尽在掌握，或许会穿格外名贵的衣服。可诸如大胆、名贵表达的都是相对含义。倘若有许多学生都开始穿着能凸显这些规范的衣服，那么规范本身就会发生变化。就好像雄麋鹿的犄角一样，过不了多久，学生中间就会掀起昂贵的衣着竞赛。可见，穿校服虽然限制了学生们自我表达的能力，却减少了在衣着竞争上所投入的货币及情感成本。</FONT></P>]]></description>
            <author>邵雷鹏</author>
            <category>生活常识</category>
            <comments>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed70100a17j.html#comment</comments>
            <pubDate>Wed, 18 Jun 2008 04:17:08 GMT+8</pubDate>
            <guid>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed70100a17j.html</guid>
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            <title>凌烟阁</title>
            <link>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009zwt.html</link>
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凌烟阁</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US"><span STYLE="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp;</SPAN></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">凌烟阁是原本皇宫内三清殿旁的一个不起眼的小楼，贞观十七年二月，唐太宗李世民为怀念当初一同打天下的众位功臣（当时已有数位辞世，还活着的也多已老迈），命<span STYLE="COLOR: aqua">阎立本</SPAN>在凌烟阁内描绘了二十四位功臣的图像，褚遂良题之，皆真人大小，时常前往怀旧。这二十四人的姓名与事迹如下：</SPAN></P>
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赵公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">长孙无忌</SPAN>第一。李世民长孙皇后之兄，自幼与李世民为友，李渊太原起兵后投靠李世民。参与李世民历次战役，尤其在玄武门之变中起主导作用。终身为李世民信任，李世民评价为“我有天下，多是此人之力”。李世民去世后，受遗命辅佐唐高宗。因反对唐高宗立武则天为皇后而失宠，后来被诬陷谋反，自杀。</SPAN></P>
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赵郡王<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">李孝恭</SPAN>第二。其父为李渊堂弟，李渊起兵后，他负责经略巴蜀。得李靖之助，灭萧铣、辅公佑，长江以南均受其统领，战功几可与李世民分庭抗礼。李世民登基后，退出权力中心，以歌舞美人自娱。贞观十四年，暴病身亡。</SPAN></P>
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莱公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">杜如晦</SPAN>第三。李世民主要幕僚。李渊攻克长安时投靠李世民，得房玄龄推荐而受李世民重用，为十八学士之首。参与李世民历次战役及玄武门之变。贞观年间与房玄龄共掌朝政，贞观四年病故，年仅四十六岁。其死深为李世民痛惜，死后极尽哀荣。</SPAN></P>
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郑公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">魏征</SPAN>第四。原为李密谋士，后随李密降唐，为唐朝招降李世绩。窦建德进攻河北时被俘，窦灭亡后重回唐朝，隶太子李建成麾下。玄武门之变后，归顺李世民。因感知遇之恩，凡事知无不言，以进谏著称。终生深受李世民信任，李世民评价说贞观之前辅佐之功以房玄龄第一，贞观之后以魏征第一。贞观十六年病故。</SPAN></P>
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梁公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">房玄龄</SPAN>第五。李世民主要幕僚，善于谋略。李渊起兵后派李世民进攻渭北，受温彦博推荐投入李世民幕府，被委以心腹，参与李世民历次战役及玄武门之变。李世民登基后论功行赏，被比为汉之萧何。贞观年间负责行政，为相近二十年，深得李世民信任。李世民出征高丽时被委以留守重任。贞观二十三年病故。</SPAN></P>
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申公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">高士廉</SPAN>第六。李世民长孙后、长孙无忌的亲舅舅，二人之父早死，实际由高士廉抚养。高对李世民极为器重，以至主动将长孙后许配给李世民。因得罪杨广，被发配岭南，随后中原大乱，被隔绝在外，直到李靖灭萧铣南巡时才得以回归。其人善行政、文学，为李世民心腹，参与玄武门之变的策划。</SPAN></P>
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鄂公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">尉迟敬德</SPAN>第七。原为刘武周部将，刘武周灭亡后投降李世民。起初不被众将信任，几乎被处死，但李世民坚持起用他。唐郑决战时有单骑救主之功，得以稳固地位，此后以勇将身份参与李世民历次战役。玄武门之变的主要角色，亲手杀死齐王李元吉，拥立之功第一。突厥倾国进犯时以骑兵迎击取胜。天下安定后无用武之地，晚年闭门不出，最终得享天年。</SPAN></P>
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卫公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">李靖</SPAN>第八。是“使功不如使过”的典型，曾试图揭发李渊谋反，因此几乎被李渊处死，幸而为李世民所救。后来戴罪立功，协助李孝恭经营巴蜀、灭萧铣、辅公佑，被李渊评价为“萧、辅之膏肓”。未参加玄武门之变。贞观年间负责抵御突厥，成功地消灭突厥政权，战功无人可及。后来又挂帅出征，消灭吐谷浑势力。屡次被诬告谋反，为免嫌疑，主动退休闭门不出。</SPAN></P>
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宋公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">萧禹</SPAN>第九。隋炀帝萧后之弟，以外戚为隋炀帝重臣。因反对出征高丽，被贬为河池郡守，到任后受薛举进攻，奋力抵御。李渊起兵后，归附唐朝，善行政，终生为李渊重用。李世民即位后，因与房玄龄、杜如晦不和，多次得罪李世民，仕途沉浮，但从不“改过自新”。后来李世民评价其为“疾风知劲草，板荡识诚臣”。</SPAN></P>
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褒公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">段志玄</SPAN>第十。李渊在太原时的旧部，首义功臣。参加李唐历次重要战役，以勇武著名。李世民兄弟相争时，拒绝建成、元吉的拉拢，忠于李世民，并参加了玄武门之变。其人治军严谨，李世民评价为“周亚夫无以加焉”。贞观十六年病故。</SPAN></P>
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夔公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">刘弘基</SPAN>第十一。游侠，隋炀帝征高丽时，因避兵役逃往太原依附李渊。太原起兵时，与长孙顺德一同负责招募勇士，有大功。进攻长安途中于霍邑之战阵斩隋主将宋老生，攻克长安后被评为战功第一。进攻薛举时在浅水原大败，力尽被擒，李世民灭薛氏后获救。又在刘武周进攻太原时战败被俘，侥幸自己逃回，随后配合李世民在介休歼灭宋金刚。因唐朝与突厥关系恶化，常年驻守北边抵御突厥。贞观年间曾随李世民征高丽。唐高宗时病故。</SPAN></P>
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蒋公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">屈突通</SPAN>第十二。原为隋朝大将，历仕杨坚、杨广，战功赫赫。杨广南巡江都，委以镇守都城长安的重任。李渊起兵后进攻长安，屈突通率部下死战，力尽后自杀未遂，最终投降李渊，被封为兵部尚书。后参与唐朝历次重大军事行动，尤其灭王世充被评为战功第一。后被委派镇守洛阳，于贞观元年病故。</SPAN></P>
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勋公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">殷峤</SPAN>第十三。李渊旧部，太原起兵时投奔李渊，参与进攻长安。进攻薛举时，在浅水原大败，与刘文静一同被追究责任，贬为庶民。后随李世民灭薛氏有功，得以重被任用。参加李世民历次战役，在进攻刘黑达时，得病身亡，是凌烟阁功臣中最先去世的一个。</SPAN></P>
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谯公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">柴绍</SPAN>第十四。李渊之婿，娶平阳公主。李渊起兵时身在长安，侥幸逃脱追捕前往太原。参与攻克长安、灭薛举、刘武周、王世充、窦建德等重要战役。贞观年间作为主将消灭最后一位反王梁师都。贞观十二年病故。</SPAN></P>
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邳公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">长孙顺德</SPAN>第十五。李世民长孙后之叔，外戚。隋炀帝出兵高丽时，为避兵役逃往太原依附李渊，与李氏父子友善。太原起兵时，与刘弘基一同负责招募勇士，有大功。进攻长安时任先锋，擒隋主将屈突通。此后功劳不显。贞观年间因多次贪污被弹劾，病故。</SPAN></P>
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郧公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">张亮</SPAN>第十六。原为李密部下，隶属李世绩，随李一同降唐。得房玄龄、李世绩推荐入李世民幕府。贞观年间，因善于行政而颇得信任，又揭发
侯君集谋反、随征高丽而立功。但其后逐渐名声败坏，贞观二十年谋反，受诛。</SPAN></P>
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潞国公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">侯</SPAN><span STYLE="COLOR: blue">君集</SPAN>第十七。李世民心腹，常年担任其幕僚。玄武门之变的主要策划人。贞观年间，担任李靖副将击败吐谷浑，又任主将击灭高昌。回朝后因私吞高昌战利品而被弹劾，为此怀恨在心。李世民诸子争当太子的斗争中，依附太子李承乾，图谋杀李世民拥立承乾，事泻被杀。</SPAN></P>
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郯公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">张公谨</SPAN>第十八。原为王世充部下，后投降唐朝，受李靖推荐进入李世民幕府。参与了玄武门之变的谋划。李世民登基后，以其为李靖副将抵御突厥，协助李靖灭亡突厥。次年病故，仅三十九岁。</SPAN></P>
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卢公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">程知节</SPAN>第十九。本名程咬金，原为瓦岗军勇将，李密失败后降王世充，因不满王的为人，与秦叔宝一同降唐，分配到李世民帐下。参加李世民历次战役及玄武门之变。唐高宗时出征贺鲁，屠杀已投降的平民，因此免官，后病故。</SPAN></P>
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永兴公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">虞世南</SPAN>第二十。隋朝奸臣虞世基之弟，自幼以文学著称。宇文化及江都兵变后被裹胁北返，宇文被灭后归窦建德，窦死后入李世民幕府。此后尽心辅佐李世民，被评价为德行、忠直、博学、文辞、书翰五绝。贞观十二年病故。</SPAN></P>
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渝公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">刘政会</SPAN>第二十一。李渊任太原留守时的老部下，随李渊起兵，首义功臣。此后负责留守太原，刘武周进攻时被俘。忠心不屈，还找机会打探刘武周军情秘报李渊。刘武周灭亡后获救。曾担任刑部尚书，贞观九年病故。</SPAN></P>
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莒公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">唐俭</SPAN>第二十二。唐家与李家均为北齐大臣，有世交之谊，唐俭亦与李渊为友。参与李渊太原起兵的策划，为首义功臣。最大功劳是揭发独孤怀恩谋反，被特赐免死罪一次。贞观初年负责与突厥外交事宜，被李靖“谋害”，竟奇迹般逃生。后来任民部尚书，因怠于政事贬官。唐高宗年间病故。</SPAN></P>
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英公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">李世绩</SPAN>第二十三。原为瓦岗军大将，少年从翟让起兵，翟死后跟随李密。李密降唐后成为独立势力，但仍坚持以李密部下的身份降唐以示不忘故主，被李渊称为</SPAN>
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“纯臣”。遭窦建德进攻后，因父亲被窦擒为人质不得已投降。密谋暗杀窦重归唐朝，但未能成功，侥幸逃走。随李世民灭王世充、窦建德、刘黑达，又担任主将灭徐圆朗，随李孝恭灭辅公佑。贞观年间与李靖一起灭亡突厥，此后十六年负责唐朝北边防御，多次击败薛延陀势力，又随李世民进攻高丽。李世民死后辅佐唐高宗，被委以军事，担任主将再次出征高丽，终于将高丽灭亡。唐高宗重画其形象于凌烟阁。灭高丽后次年病势。</SPAN></P>
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胡公<span STYLE="COLOR: blue">秦叔宝</SPAN>第二十四。本为张须陀部下勇将，张死后归裴仁基部下，又随裴投降李密，为瓦岗军大将。在李密与宇文化及童山之战中立下大功。李密失败后投降王世充，因不满王的为人，与程知节一同降唐，分配到李世民帐下。参加李世民历次战役，每战必冲锋在先。为玄武门之变的主力。后因历次作战负伤太多而疾病缠身，贞观十二年病故。</SPAN></P>
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其实这二十四个人里面，超过一半以上的人曾经是唐太宗的“死对头”。尤其侯君集，后因贪污腐败被关了一阵子而心怀不满，怂恿另一个功臣张亮与自己一起造反。张亮密报唐太宗，太宗却道：“与君集都是功臣，如今君集只对你一个人说了，如果让你们二人对证，君集一定不承认，我应该相信谁？”于是不再提这件事，“待侯君集如初”。</SPAN></P>
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后来，侯君集“有负圣望”造了反，被抓住了，唐太宗亲自审讯，并对他说：“你是国家功臣，我不想让你受刀笔吏的羞辱，因此亲自来将事情弄清楚。”证据确凿，唐太宗又召集文武百官说：“君集有功于国，我将乞求饶他一命，诸位能够答应么？”群臣都说：“君集之罪，天地不容。”</SPAN></P>
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造反本来是要灭族的，但太宗念他曾有功于国，饶了他妻儿的命。临刑前，太宗与他诀别，哭着说“吾为卿不复上凌烟阁矣！”</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US"><span STYLE="mso-spacerun: yes">&nbsp;</SPAN></SPAN></P>]]></description>
            <author>邵雷鹏</author>
            <category>生活常识</category>
            <comments>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009zwt.html#comment</comments>
            <pubDate>Sat, 14 Jun 2008 15:34:12 GMT+8</pubDate>
            <guid>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009zwt.html</guid>
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            <title>汽车牌照的含义:</title>
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汽车牌照的含义</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">:

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&#9675;大型民用汽车，牌照为朱红底，白字。</SPAN></P>
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&#9675;小型民用汽车，牌照为中绿底，白字。</SPAN></P>
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&#9675;公安专用汽车，牌照为白底，红“</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">GA</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">”，黑字。</SPAN></P>
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&#9675;武警专用汽车，牌照为白底，红“</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">WJ</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">”，黑字。</SPAN></P>
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&#9675;军用汽车，牌照为白底，红中文字：“甲、乙、丙……”黑字。</SPAN></P>
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&#9675;大使馆外籍汽车，牌照为黑底，白字及空心“使”字标志。</SPAN></P>
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&#9675;领事馆外籍汽车，牌照为墨底，白字及空心“领”字标志。</SPAN></P>
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&#9675;其他外籍汽车，牌照为黑底白字。</SPAN></P>
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&#9675;试车牌照为蓝底白字，数字前有“试”字标志。</SPAN></P>
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&#9675;学习车牌照为蓝底白字，数字前有“学”字标志。</SPAN></P>
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&#9675;临时牌照为白底红字，数字前有“临时”二字。</SPAN></P>
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&#9675;汽车补用牌照，为白底黑字。</SPAN></P>
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&#9675;车辆“移动证”，为白底红字。</SPAN></P>
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&#9675;民用汽车牌照上有两行字，上面一行小字是省、直辖市、自治区的名字和发证照及监管机关的代号，编号从</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">01-99</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">。</SPAN></P>
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&#9675;民用汽车编号，一般为</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">5</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">位数字，即从</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">00001-99999</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">。</SPAN></P>
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&#9675;编号超过十万时，就用</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">A</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">、</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">B</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">、</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">C</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">等英文字母代替。</SPAN></P>
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车牌号的第一个是汉字：代表该车户口所在省的简称：如四川就是川，北京就是京，重庆就是渝，上海就是沪</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">......</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">，第二个是英文：代表该车所在地的地市一级代码，规律一般是这样的，</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">A</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">是省会，</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">B</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">是该省第二大城市，</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">C</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">是该省第三大城市，依此类推。然后就是后五位啦，这后五位是这样的规律，如果你是第一个在该省该地区上的第一个车牌，从理论上讲你车牌后五位就是</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">00001</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">，如果你是第</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">8965</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">位车主，你的车牌的后五位理论上就应该是</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">08965</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">，如果车牌超过了数字的容量就是第</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">100000</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">万位时，就从第一位开始用字母</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">A</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">，后面用</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">0001</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">至</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">9999</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">，用完后第一位改成</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">B</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">再跟</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">0001</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">至</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">9999</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">，依此类推，也就是说如果车牌号越大说明车越新，前面的英文字母越靠后，说明车越新，这就是一般规律。黄色牌号代表大车，兰牌代表小车，黑牌代表外资企业或者是大使馆的车</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">,</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">军车的牌号是按军队的编法编的，与地方车不一样，但是都是白底红字，警车与地方车编法基本相同，只是最后位数字不是数字而是改成了红色的警字。</SPAN></P>
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车牌号是按各个地方的简称及简称的字母来编排的</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">.</SPAN></P>
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首位标注</SPAN> <span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">
省</SPAN> <span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">
直辖市</SPAN> <span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">
自治区代码</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">,</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">再标注警种</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">,</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">后缀四位数字如</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">: WJ31-</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">消</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">0010(</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">北京消防局车牌</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">)</SPAN></P>
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<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">2\O</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">为省级公安厅专用车牌，如：京</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">O</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">为北京市公安厅。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">3\U</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">为省委、省级政府专用车牌，如：鲁</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt" XML:LANG="EN-US">U</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 16pt; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'">为山东省政府。</SPAN></P>
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-013<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" XML:LANG="EN-US"><span LANG="EN-US" XML:LANG="EN-US">”</SPAN></SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-hansi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'" XML:LANG="EN-US">为韩国使馆车辆。</SPAN></SPAN></P>
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            <author>邵雷鹏</author>
            <category>生活常识</category>
            <comments>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009zws.html#comment</comments>
            <pubDate>Sat, 14 Jun 2008 15:29:51 GMT+8</pubDate>
            <guid>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009zws.html</guid>
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            <title>七个受用一生的心理寓言之七亲密的寓言</title>
            <link>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009za1.html</link>
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七、亲密的寓言：独一无二的玫瑰</SPAN> <span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/>
<br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">　　</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">小王子有一个小小的星球，星球上忽然绽放了一朵娇艳的玫瑰花。以前，这个星球上只有一些无名的小花，小王子从来没有见过这么美丽的花，他爱上这朵玫瑰，细心地呵护她。那一段日子，他以为，这是一朵人世间唯一的花，只有他的星球上才有，其他的地方都不存在。然而，等他来到地球上，发现仅仅一个花园里就有</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">5000</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">朵完全一样的这种花朵。这时，他才知道，他有的只是一朵普通的花。</SPAN>
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一开始，这个发现，让小王子非常伤心。但最后，小王子明白，尽管世界上有无数朵玫瑰花，但他的星球上那朵，仍然是独一无二的，因为那朵玫瑰花，他浇灌过，给她罩过花罩，用屏风保护过，除过她身上的毛虫，还倾听过她的怨艾和自诩，聆听过她的沉默</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">……</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">一句话，他驯服了她，她也驯服了他，她是他独一无二的玫瑰。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">　　</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">正因为你为你的玫瑰花费了时间，这才使你的玫瑰变得如此重要。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">”</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">一只被小王子驯服的狐狸对他说。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 13.5pt; COLOR: purple; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">【心理点评】</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">　　这是法国名著《小王子》中一个有名的寓言故事，我曾读过十数遍，但仍然是直到</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">2005</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">年才明白这一点。面对着</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">5000</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">朵玫瑰花，小王子说：</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">你们很美，但你们是空虚的，没有人能为你们去死。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">”</SPAN> <span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">
只有倾注了爱，亲密关系才有意义。但是，现在我们越来越流行空虚的</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">亲密关系</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">”</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">，最典型的就是因网络而泛滥的一夜情。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">　　我们急着去拥有。仿佛是，每多拥有过一朵玫瑰，自己的生命价值就多了一分。网络时代，拥有过数十名情人，已不再是太罕见的事情。但我所了解的这些滥情者，没有一个是不空虚的。他们并不享受关系，他们只享受征服。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">征服欲望越强的人，对于关系的亲密度越没有兴趣。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">”</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">广州白云心理医院的咨询师荣玮龄说，</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">没有拥有前，他们会想尽一切办法拉近关系的距离。但一旦拥有后，他们会迅速丧失对这个亲密关系的兴趣。征服欲望越强，丧失的速度越快。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">”<br/></SPAN> <span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">
　　对于这样的人，一个玫瑰园比起一朵独一无二的玫瑰花来，更有吸引力。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">　　然而，关系的美，正在乎两人的投入程度和被驯服程度。当两个人都自然而然地去投入，自然而然地被驯服后，关系就会变成人生养料，让一个人的生命变得更充盈、更美好。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">　　但是，无论多么亲密。小王子仍是小王子，玫瑰仍是玫瑰，他们仍然是两个个体。如果玫瑰不让小王子旅行，或者小王子旅行时非将玫瑰花带在身上，两者一定要黏在一起，关系就不再是享受，而会变成一个累赘。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">　　</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">切记：一个既亲密而又相互独立的关系，胜于一千个一般的关系。这样的关系，会把我们从不可救药的孤独感中拯救出来，是我们生命中最重要的一种救赎。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">　　如果不曾体验过，你就无法知道这种关系的美。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">

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            <author>邵雷鹏</author>
            <category>心情</category>
            <comments>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009za1.html#comment</comments>
            <pubDate>Fri, 13 Jun 2008 05:11:21 GMT+8</pubDate>
            <guid>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009za1.html</guid>
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            <title>七个受用一生的心理寓言之五行动的寓言</title>
            <link>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009z9y.html</link>
            <description><![CDATA[<span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 13.5pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">
五、行动的寓言</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 13.5pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">——</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 13.5pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">螃蟹、猫头鹰和蝙蝠</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/>
<br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">螃蟹、猫头鹰和蝙蝠去上恶习补习班。数年过后，它们都顺利毕业并获得博士学位。不过，螃蟹仍横行，猫头鹰仍白天睡觉晚上活动，蝙蝠仍倒悬。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: purple; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">【心理点评】这是黄永玉大师的一个寓言故事，它的寓意很简单：行动比知识重要。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　用到心理健康中，这个寓言也发人深省。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　心理学的知识堪称博大精深。但是，再多再好的心理学知识也不能自动帮助一个人变得更健康。其实，我知道的一些学过多年心理学的人士，他们学心理学的目的之一就是要治自己，但学了这么多年以后，他们的问题依旧。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　之所以出现这种情况，一个很重要的原因是，他们没有身体力行，那样知识就只是遥远的知识，知识并没有化成他们自己的生命体验。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　我的一个喜欢心理学的朋友，曾被多名心理学人士认为不敏感，不适合学心理学。但事实证明，这种揣测并不正确。他是不够敏感，但他有一个非常大的优点：知道一个好知识，就立即在自己的生命中去执行。这样一来，那些遥远的知识就变成了真切的生命体验，他不必</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">懂</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">”</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">太多，就可以帮助自己，并帮助很多人。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">如果说，高敏感度是一种天才素质，那么高行动力是更重要的天才素质。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　这个寓言还可以引申出另一种含义：不要太指望神秘的心理治疗的魔力。最重要的力量永远在你自己的身上，奥秘的知识、玄妙的潜能开发、炫目的成功学等等，都远不如你自己身上已有的力量重要。我们习惯去外面寻找答案，去别人那里寻找力量，结果忘记了力量就在自己身上。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">切记：别人的知识不能自动地拯救你。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　如果一些连珠的妙语打动了你，如果一些文字或新信条启发了你。那么，这些别人的文字和经验都只是一个开始，更重要的是，你把你以为好的知识真正运用到你自己的生命中去。</SPAN>
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你必须自己开始。假如你自己不以积极的爱去深入生存，假如你不以自己的方式去为自己揭示生存的意义，那么对你来说，生存就将依然是没有意义的。</SPAN>]]></description>
            <author>邵雷鹏</author>
            <category>心情</category>
            <comments>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009z9y.html#comment</comments>
            <pubDate>Fri, 13 Jun 2008 05:09:29 GMT+8</pubDate>
            <guid>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009z9y.html</guid>
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            <title>七个受用一生的心理寓言之六放弃的寓言</title>
            <link>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009za0.html</link>
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六、放弃的寓言：蜜蜂与鲜花</SPAN> <span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/>
<br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">玫瑰花枯萎了，蜜蜂仍拼命吮吸，因为它以前从这朵花上吮吸过甜蜜。但是，现在在这朵花上，蜜蜂吮吸的是毒汁。</SPAN>
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蜜蜂知道这一点，因为毒汁苦涩，与以前的味道是天壤之别。于是，蜜蜂愤不过，它吸一口就抬起头来向整个世界抱怨，为什么味道变了？！终于有一天，不知道是什么原因，蜜蜂振动翅膀，飞高了一点。这时，它发现，枯萎的玫瑰花周围，处处是鲜花。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: purple; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">【心理点评】</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: purple; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　这是关于爱情的寓言，是一位年轻的语
文老师的真实感悟。有一段时间，她失恋了，很痛苦，一直想约我聊聊，希望我的心理学知识能给她一些帮助。我们一直约时间，但快两个月过去了，两人的时间总不能碰巧凑在一起。</SPAN>
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最后一次约她，她说：</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">谢谢！不用了，我想明白了。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" XML:LANG="EN-US">”<br/></SPAN> <span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">
　　原来，她刚从九寨沟回来。失恋的痛苦仍在纠缠她，让她神情恍惚，不能享受九寨沟的美丽。不经意的时候，她留意到一只小蜜蜂正在一朵鲜花上采蜜。那一刹那间，她脑子里电闪雷鸣般地出现了一句话：</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">枯萎的鲜花上，蜜蜂只能吮吸到毒汁。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" XML:LANG="EN-US">”</SPAN> <span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">
当然，大自然中的小蜜蜂不会这么做，只有人类才这么傻，她这句话里的蜜蜂当然指她自己。这一刹那，她顿悟出了放弃的道理。以前，她想让我帮她走出来，但翅膀其实就长在她自己身上，她想飞就能飞。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　放弃并不容易，爱情中的放弃尤其令人痛苦。因为，爱情是对我们幼小时候的亲子关系的复制。幼小的孩子，无论从哪个方面看，都离不开爸爸妈妈。如果爸爸妈妈完全否定他，那对他来说就意味着死亡，这是终极的伤害和恐惧。我们多多少少都曾体验过被爸爸妈妈否定的痛苦和恐惧，所以，当爱情</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" XML:LANG="EN-US">———</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">这个亲子关系的复制品再一次让我们体验这种痛苦和恐惧时，我们的情绪很容易变得非常糟糕。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　不过，爱情和亲子关系相比，有一个巨大的差别：小时候，我们无能为力，一切都是父母说了算；但现在，我们长大了，我们有力量自己去选择自己的命运。可以说，童年时，我们是没有翅膀的小蜜蜂，但现在，我们有了一双强有力的翅膀了。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　但是，当深深地陷入爱情时，我们会回归童年，我们会忘记自己有一双可以飞翔的翅膀。等我们自己悟出这一点后，爱情就不再会是对亲子关系的自动复制，我们的爱情就获得了自由，就有了放弃的力量。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">切记：爱情是两个人的事情，两个完全平等的、有独立人格的人的事情。你可以努力，但不是说，你努力了就一定会有效果，因为另一个人，你并不能左右。</SPAN>
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            <author>邵雷鹏</author>
            <category>心情</category>
            <comments>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009za0.html#comment</comments>
            <pubDate>Fri, 13 Jun 2008 05:09:26 GMT+8</pubDate>
            <guid>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009za0.html</guid>
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            <title>七个受用一生的心理寓言之四逃避的寓言</title>
            <link>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009z9v.html</link>
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四、逃避的寓言：小猫逃开影子的招数</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/>
<br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">影子真讨厌！</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">”</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">小猫汤姆和托比都这样想，</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">我们一定要摆脱它。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">”<br/></SPAN> <span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">
　　然而，无论走到哪里，汤姆和托比发现，只要一出现阳光，它们就会看到令它们抓狂的自己的影子。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　不过，汤姆和托比最后终于都找到了各自的解决办法。汤姆的方法是，永远闭着眼睛。托比的办法则是，永远待在其他东西的阴影里。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: purple; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">【心理点评】这个寓言说明，一个小的心理问题是如何变成更大的心理问题的。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: purple; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　可以说，一切心理问题都源自对事实的扭曲。什么事实呢？主要就是那些令我们痛苦的负性事件。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　因为痛苦的体验，我们不愿意去面对这个负性事件。但是，一旦发生过，这样的负性事件就注定要伴随我们一生，我们能做的，最多不过是将它们压抑到潜意识中去，这就是所谓的忘记。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　但是，它们在潜意识中仍然会一如既往地发挥作用。并且，哪怕我们对事实遗忘得再厉害，这些事实所伴随的痛苦仍然会袭击我们，让我们莫名其妙地伤心难过，而且无法抑制。这种疼痛让我们进一步努力去逃避。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　发展到最后，通常的解决办法就是这两个：要么，我们像小猫汤姆一样，彻底扭曲自己的体验，对生命中所有重要的负性事实都视而不见；要么，我们像小猫托比一样，干脆投靠痛苦，把自己的所有事情都搞得非常糟糕，既然一切都那么糟糕，那个让自己最伤心的原初事件就不是那么疼了。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　白云心理医院的咨询师李凌说，</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">99</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">％的吸毒者有过痛苦的遭遇。他们之所以吸毒，是为了让自己逃避这些痛苦。这就像是躲进阴影里，痛苦的事实是一个魔鬼，为了躲避这个魔鬼，干脆把自己卖给更大的魔鬼。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">还有很多酗酒的成人，他们有过一个酗酒而暴虐的老爸，挨过老爸的不少折磨。为了忘记这个痛苦，他们学会了同样的方法。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　除了这些看得见的错误方法外，我们人类还发明了无数种形形色色的方法去逃避痛苦，弗洛伊德将这些方式称为心理防御机制。太痛苦的时候，这些防御机制是必要的，但糟糕的是，如果心理防御机制对事实扭曲得太厉害，它会带出更多的心理问题，譬如强迫症、社交焦虑症、多重人格，甚至精神分裂症等。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">真正抵达健康的方法只有一个</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">———</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">直面痛苦。直面痛苦的人会从痛苦中得到许多意想不到的收获，它们最终会变成当事人的生命财富。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">切记：阴影和光明一样，都是人生的财富。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　一个最重要的心理规律是，无论多么痛苦的事情，你都是逃不掉的。你只能去勇敢地面对它，化解它，超越它，最后和它达成和解。如果你自己暂时缺乏力量，你可以寻找帮助，寻找亲友的帮助，或寻找专业的帮助，让你信任的人陪着你一起去面对这些痛苦的事情。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　美国心理学家罗杰斯曾是最孤独的人，但当他面对这个事实并化解后，他成了真正的人际关系大师；美国心理学家弗兰克有一个暴虐而酗酒的继父和一个糟糕的母亲，但当他挑战这个事实并最终从心中原谅了父母后，他成了治疗这方面问题的专家；日本心理学家森田正马曾是严重的神经症患者，但他通过挑战这个事实并最终发明出了森田疗法</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">……</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">他们生命中最痛苦的事实最后都变成了他们最重要的财富。你，一样也可以做到。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br STYLE="mso-special-character: line-break"></BR>
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            <author>邵雷鹏</author>
            <category>心情</category>
            <comments>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009z9v.html#comment</comments>
            <pubDate>Fri, 13 Jun 2008 05:08:24 GMT+8</pubDate>
            <guid>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009z9v.html</guid>
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            <title>七个受用一生的心理寓言之三规划的寓言</title>
            <link>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009z9u.html</link>
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三、规划的寓言：把一张纸折叠</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 13.5pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">51</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 13.5pt; COLOR: red; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">次</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/>
<br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">想象一下，你手里有一张足够大的白纸。现在，你的任务是，把它折叠</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">51</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">次。那么，它有多高？</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　一个冰箱？一层楼？或者一栋摩天大厦那么高？不是，差太多了，这个厚度超过了地球和太阳之间的距离。</SPAN>
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<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　到现在，我拿这个寓言问过十几个人了，只有两个人说，这可能是一个想象不到的高度，而其他人想到的最高的高度也就是一栋摩天大厦那么高。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　折叠</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">51</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">次的高度如此恐怖，但如果仅仅是将</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">51</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">张白纸叠在一起呢？</SPAN>
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<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　当然，人生比这个寓言更复杂一些。有些人，一生认定一个简单的方向而坚定地做下去，他们的人生最后达到了别人不可企及的高度。譬如，我一个朋友的人生方向是英语，他花了十数年努力，仅单词的记忆量就达到了十几万之多，在这一点上达到了一般人无法企及的高度。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　也有些人，他们的人生方向也很明确，譬如开公司做老板，这样，他们就需要很多技能</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">———</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">专业技能、管理技能、沟通技能、决策技能等等。他们可能会在一开始尝试做做这个，又尝试做做那个，没有一样是特别精通的，但最后，开公司做老板的这个方向将以前的这些看似零散的努力统合到一起，这也是一种复杂的人生折叠，而不是简单的叠加。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">切记：看得见的力量比看不见的力量更有用。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　现在，流行从看不见的地方寻找答案，譬如潜能开发，譬如成功学，以为我们的人生要靠一些奇迹才能得救。但是，在我看来，东莞恒缘心理咨询中心的咨询师毛正强说得更正确，</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">通过规划利用好现有的能力远比挖掘所谓的潜能更重要。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">”<br STYLE="mso-special-character: line-break"></BR>
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            <author>邵雷鹏</author>
            <category>心情</category>
            <comments>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009z9u.html#comment</comments>
            <pubDate>Fri, 13 Jun 2008 05:06:38 GMT+8</pubDate>
            <guid>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009z9u.html</guid>
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            <title>七个受用一生的心理寓言之二动机的寓言：孩子在为谁</title>
            <link>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009z9r.html</link>
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二、动机的寓言：孩子在为谁而玩</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br STYLE="mso-special-character: line-break"></BR>
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　</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">一群孩子在一位老人家门前嬉闹，叫声连天。几天过去，老人难以忍受。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">　　于是，他出来给了每个孩子</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">25</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">美分，对他们说：</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">你们让这儿变得很热闹，我觉得自己年轻了不少，这点钱表示谢意。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">”<br/></SPAN> <span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">
　　孩子们很高兴，第二天仍然来了，一如既往地嬉闹。老人再出来，给了每个孩子</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">15</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">美分。他解释说，自己没有收入，只能少给一些。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">15</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">美分也还可以吧，孩子仍然兴高采烈地走了。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">　　第三天，老人只给了每个孩子</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">5</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">美分。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">　　孩子们勃然大怒，</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">一天才</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">5</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">美分，知不知道我们多辛苦！</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">”</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">他们向老人发誓，他们再也不会为他玩了！</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">

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<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: purple; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">【心理点评】你在为谁而</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: purple; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: purple; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">玩</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: purple; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">”<br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　这个寓言是苹果树寓言的更深一层的答案：苹果树为什么会自断经脉，因为它不是为自己而</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">玩</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">”</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">。</SPAN>
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<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　在这个寓言中，老人的算计很简单，他将孩子们的内部动机</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">为自己快乐而玩</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">”</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">变成了外部动机</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">为得到美分而玩</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">”</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">，而他操纵着美分这个外部因素，所以也操纵了孩子们的行为。寓言中的老人，像不像是你的老板、上司？而美分，像不像是你的工资、奖金等各种各样的外部奖励？</SPAN>
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<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">切记：外部评价系统经常是一种家族遗传，但你完全可以打破它，从现在开始培育自己的内部评价体系，让学习和工作变成</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">为自己而玩</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">”</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">。</SPAN>]]></description>
            <author>邵雷鹏</author>
            <category>心情</category>
            <comments>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009z9r.html#comment</comments>
            <pubDate>Fri, 13 Jun 2008 05:02:53 GMT+8</pubDate>
            <guid>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009z9r.html</guid>
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            <title>七个受用一生的心理寓言之一成长的寓言</title>
            <link>http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4f8d7ed701009z9o.html</link>
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一、成长的寓言：做一棵永远成长的苹果树</SPAN>
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　　</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">一棵苹果树，终于结果了。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">　　第一年，它结了</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">10</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">个苹果，</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">9</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">个被拿走，自己得到</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">1</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">个。对此，苹果树愤愤不平，于是自断经脉，拒绝成长。第二年，它结了</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">5</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">个苹果，</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">4</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">个被拿走，自己得到</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">1</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">个。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">哈哈，去年我得到了</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">10</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">％，今年得到</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">20</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">％！翻了一番。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">”</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">这棵苹果树心理平衡了。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">　　但是，它还可以这样：继续成长。譬如，第二年，它结了</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">100</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">个果子，被拿走</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">90</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">个，自己得到</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">10</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">个。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">　　很可能，它被拿走</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">99</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">个，自己得到</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">1</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">个。但没关系，它还可以继续成长，第三年结</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">1000</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">个果子</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma" XML:LANG="EN-US">……<br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma">　　其实，得到多少果子不是最重要的。最重要的是，苹果树在成长！等苹果树长成参天大树的时候，那些曾阻碍它成长的力量都会微弱到可以忽略。真的，不要太在乎果子，成长是最重要的。</SPAN></P>
<p CLASS="MsoNormal"><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #ff6600; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: purple; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">【心理点评】你是不是一个已自断经脉的打工族？</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　刚开始工作的时候，你才华横溢，意气风发，相信</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">天生我才必有用</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">”</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">。但现实很快敲了你几个闷棍，或许，你为单位做了大贡献没人重视；或许，只得到口头重视但却得不到实惠；或许</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">……</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">总之，你觉得就像那棵苹果树，结出的果子自己只享受到了很小一部分，与你的期望相差甚远。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　于是，你愤怒、你懊恼、你牢骚满腹</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">……</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">最终，你决定不再那么努力，让自己的所做去匹配自己的所得。几年过去后，你一反省，发现现在的你，已经没有刚工作时的激情和才华了。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">“</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">老了，成熟了。</SPAN><span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US">”</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">我们习惯这样自嘲。但实质是，你已停止成长了。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　这样的故事，在我们身边比比皆是。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　之所以犯这种错误，是因为我们忘记生命是一个历程，是一个整体，我们觉得自己已经成长过了，现在是到该结果子的时候了。我们太过于在乎一时的得失，而忘记了成长才是最重要的。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　好在，这不是金庸小说里的自断经脉。我们随时可以放弃这样做，继续走向成长之路。</SPAN>
<span LANG="EN-US" STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体" XML:LANG="EN-US"><br/></SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: #333333; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">　　</SPAN><span STYLE="FONT-SIZE: 10.5pt; COLOR: green; FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-ascii-font-family: Tahoma; mso-hansi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma; mso-font-kerning: 1.0pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA">切记：如果你是一个打工族，遇到了不懂管理、野蛮管理或错误管理的上司或企业文化，那么，提醒自己一下，千万不要因为激愤和满腹牢骚而自断经脉。不论遇到什么事情，都要做一棵永远成长的苹果树，因为你的成长永远比每个月拿多少钱重要。</SPAN></P>]]></description>
            <author>邵雷鹏</author>
            <category>心情</category>
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            <author>邵雷鹏</author>
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            <pubDate>Thu, 10 Apr 2008 04:53:41 GMT+8</pubDate>
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