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披头盖脸士(1981-   )

性别:男  爱好:女

这两天非常补路

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论朋友(2009-11-24 15:12)

    不是我太矫情  文字背后有隐情

 

      在这个世界上,谁又能不需要朋友呢,亚里士多德说的好:“喜欢孤独的人,不是野兽就是神灵了”。

    朋友的作用有好多,譬如说朋友可以是我们宣泄内心积压情感的出口。一份痛苦倾诉给朋友就变成了一半,而一份快乐传递给朋友则变成了两份。面对一个真正的朋友,人们才能真正倾诉深藏在内心的欢乐、忧伤、恐惧、猜疑和希望,以及压在心中一切无法对别人说出的情感。管仲说“生我者父母,知我者鲍叔牙”,钟子期死后,俞伯牙在他坟前弹了最后一支曲子,随后然后尽断琴弦,终不复鼓琴。没有一个可以倾诉衷肠的密友,则是一件多么悲哀的事啊。

     朋友的另一个作用莫过于良药苦口的忠告,世界上人们最爱的、最乐于奉承的莫过于自己了,也正如圣经所说:“为什么看到别人眼中有木刺,看不到自己眼中有梁木呢”,我们是如此宽容的接受自己一切缺点,原谅自己的所有恶习。俗语说::“朋友是另一个自己”,只有这另一个自己,才能开出医治那种自以为是毛病的良方,朋友是如此的了解我们,了解我的优点,了解我的缺点,知道我面临的困境,也知道我可能面临的抉择,也正是朋友,才可能不偏不倚,不求回报的给予我们困境中最客观的意见,给予我们指引。

     朋友是如此的重要,有着什么样的朋友甚至是其他人对你评价的一个标准,孔子说过“无友不如己者”,大意即要找比自己强的朋友,智者不与愚者为伍,可是大家都按这个标准,不如我们的不与之交,而比我们强的又不结交我们,这岂不是又陷入了一个人人孤独的怪圈了么。所以大多数的友谊并非刻意的逢迎、有意的拉拢所能带来的,它是靠着给予,带些偶然,不知不觉中心灵的碰撞发生火花,埋下了一个友谊的种子,真正的友谊带来的的只是一种渗透身心的愉悦,正如黄山谷《茶词》所说:“恰如灯下古人,万里归来对影,口不能言,而心下自省。”

        与朋友交往中,中国人常说的莫过于“患难之交见真情”,西方也有谚语说“急需或困乏时的朋友才是真正的朋友”,这不免肤浅,我们有急需的时候,恰恰是最不需要朋友的时候,朋友有钱,我们需要他的钱,朋友有力,我们需要他出力,可这样下来,或许我们需要一个真正的朋友,但是我们真正需要的却并不是朋友,我们需要的只是朋友二字后的利益,只是把友谊当作一种工具来利用,所以当我们急需帮手时,朋友并未挺身而出,大家大可不必埋怨朋友气量小,过于悭吝,那只是说明我们透过朋友看到了利益,不懂得借未必有,又未必肯的道理。《水浒》里宋江杀了阎婆惜发配江州,戴宗向他讨人情银子免打,宋江道:“人情、人情,在人情愿”。真正是至理明言。所以从物质接济道精神帮助,我们需要的只是孔子口中“多闻直谅”的益友,需要的只是“君子之交淡如水”的素友,一个素字足以表达出这种最朴素、最纯真的感情,正如孟太尼解释他和拉.白帝哀生死之交说的话“因为他是他,因为我是我”。

献给自己(2009-09-28 10:17)

 至此中秋佳节之际,献给自己一首歌   so I'm just a lonely alcoholic ...

 

 Mika - Lonely Alcoholic   you're a lonely alcoholic with a tendency to wine well you speak it and you drink it and bore us all the time  say you drink out of your sorrow for you've got no one to love but tell me who could cuddle up to a lonely alcoholic  you're a stressed out single mother who has clearly been harassed well you can't predict the future for you can't erase the past cause your baby isn't going anywhere but up so join the line and get the dole for the stressed out single mother  I'm a mediocre writer who sings all the time writing songs about misfortunes and other people's crimes well they say that I am doing my duty to the world Oh you could say that is onerous, I'm just craving to be heard  ooooo don't leave me alone  well who is there to listen to the problems of our lives you've got kids who just don't eat enough and men with many wives if we're altogether screaming why can't we make a sound 'cause the dirt on which we're stepping is the one in which we will be found  ooooo baby don't leave me alone  well who is there to listen to the problems of our lives you've got kids who just don't eat enough and men with many wives if we're altogether screaming why can't we make a sound 'cause the dirt on which we're stepping is the one in which we will be found  ooooo baby don't leave me alone  



 

瞎忙(2009-09-08 22:51)

 

   空荡荡的房间 空荡荡的床

   妹妹上大学了 老娘不在身旁

   每天喝着矿泉水 吃着金锣火腿肠

   袜子没人洗了  衣服堆了一筐

   上班只能靠走  到点回家来回晃

    真想晚晚喝酒 夜夜洞房

   可咱得谈生活 不去妄想

   所以我依然像个傻逼一样 —— 天天瞎忙

     

生活(2009-08-07 09:23)

 

   辛辛苦苦为了啥   娶个媳妇生个娃

   遇到二逼怎么办   揪住头发一顿干

  

无法可说(2009-07-26 22:59)

 

    这半年掉进深坑了,在背金刚经。

 

     须菩提问了半天,经文也讲了五千言,其实佛祖第一句已然回答了他:“应如是住,如是降伏其心”。

   

    《法华经》中佛也说过:止止不须说。我法妙难思。

   

     所以 四句偈到底是什么,争论了几百年,我看都是白扯,说到底还是那一句才是大实话,“说法者,无法可说,是名说法....”

厚着脸皮(2009-07-23 19:08)

  厚着脸皮上来转一圈,我很好,没有死也没双规。。。。。 朋友们可以放心。

  恢复更新!

精神病(2009-05-18 10:11)

     首先声明,此文与孙教授无关。

 

     每个人在生活中都有那么点小怪癖,比如六人行中的莫妮卡,她的床单上绣着一朵朵向日葵,所以她每次铺床的时候都要把床单横过来向东边放,因为“那边是太阳升起的地方”;又比如说我,每次走在马路边的方砖上时都要努力使自己踩在方砖内而不要踩到线上,或者在坐火车和汽车的时候,总会下意识数着道边的树和电线杆,从一数到十后再从一重新开始数;后来大学辅修心里的时候我才知道,这是一种轻微的Obsessive-compulsive disorder,即强迫症。

 

     象我的数电线杆和不能踩方砖线还是比较轻微的,不影响生活,而课后跟老师去精神病院实习,才发现原来强迫症也有很严重的症状,有的病人固执的认为自己不能越过方形的门,每次一靠近就会昏过去;有的病人强迫自己一看到窗户就要跳下去,有的病人强行的认为自己并不是某人,而是另外一个人,这些,就已经严重到属于精神分裂和妄想症了。

 

    原本我以为只有在医院里才会看到这些病人,可是这几年在社会上,我还到真见过不少类似的病人。前几个月吉林松原有一个孩子的父亲,因为儿子被马路中间栅栏刮伤了,于是为了泄愤就损毁了一段栅栏,被抓住后,松原的市委书记蓝X金口一开,让这位父亲在电视机前向全市的市民道歉,还有最近沸沸扬扬的杭州飙车撞人事件,咱么先不论车速和肇事的问题,很多人都说过了,暂且先说说杭州市长了解案情后大笔一挥,作出了“重要批示”,要“严处肇事者”。

 

    依我看来,这二位大人在某种程度上也属于强迫症患者,是谁给他们的权力去做出只有法官才可以做出的判罚?他们忘记了他们只是国家分支机构中行政部门的主管,而司法独立一直是国家平稳,社会和谐的基石。他们或许可能真的强行认为自己还是那个无所不管的大老爷,父母官。

 

    这两天,我又学到了一个课堂上没学过的新名词——“群体性的癔病”。

 

    吉林化纤一千余人病发,一百四十人住院,两个化工厂停车停产,原来只因为“主要与心因性因素有关”,专家们纷纷表示“我们很遗憾看到大批的群体性的癔病的表现”。

 

   看来我活这么大明白的道理,这几天的所见所闻和大学辅修的心理学,已经跟着这些年喝的酒,一块尿出去了。

Lonely - Akon(2009-05-17 19:40)

 

 

Lonely I'm Mr. Lonely,
I have nobody,
For my owwnnn
I'm so lonely, I'm Mr. Lonely
I have nobody,
For my owwnnn
I'm so lonely,

Yo this one here goes out to all my playas out there ya kno got to have one good girl whose always been there like ya
Kno took all the bullshit then one day she cant take it no more and decides to leave

I woke up in the middle of the night and I noticed my girl wasn't by my side, coulda sworn I was dreamin, for her I was
Feenin, so I hadda take a little ride, back tracking ova these few years, tryna figure out wat I do to make it go bad, cuz
Ever since my girl left me, my whole life came crashin

I'm so lonely (so lonely),
I'm Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody (I have nobody)
To call my own (to call my own) girl

I'm so lonely (so lonely)
I'm Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody (I have nobody)
To call my own (to call my own) girl

Cant belive I hadda girl like you and I just let you walk right outta my life, after all I put u thru u still stuck
Around and stayed by my side, what really hurt me is I broke ur heart, baby you were a good girl and I had no right, I
Really wanna make things right, cuz without u in my life girl

I'm so lonely (so lonely)
I'm Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody (I have nobody to call my own)
To call my own (to call my own) girl

I'm so lonely (so lonely)
I'm Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody (I have nobody)
To call my own (to call my own) girl

Been all about the world ain't neva met a girl that can take the things that you been through
Never thought the day would come where you would get up and run and I would be out chasing u
Cuz aint nowhere in the globe id rather be, aint noone in the globe id rather see then the girl of my dreams that made me
Be so happy but now so lonely

So lonely (so lonely)
I'm Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody (I have nobody)
To call my own (to call my own)

I'm so lonely (so lonely)
I'm Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody (I have nobody)
To call my own (to call my own) girrll

Never thought that id be alone, I didnt hope you'd be gone this long, I jus want u to call my phone, so stop playing girl and
Come on home (come on home), baby girl I didn't mean to shout, I want me and you to work it out, I never wished Id ever
Hurt my baby (hurt my baby), and its drivin me crazy cuz...

I'm so lonely (so lonely)
I'm Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody (I have nobody)
To call my own (to call my own)

I'm so lonely (so lonely)
I'm Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody (I have nobody)
To call my own (to call my own) girll

Lonely, (so lonely)
So lonely, (so lonely),
Mr. Lonely, so lonely
So lonely, so lonely, so lonely, Mr. Lonely