亲个嘴就跑

从前一直觉得无知很可怕，所以要多读书，多受教育，多提高自己的知识 水平。随着年纪渐长，发现受教育多其实没有多少用处，就算有知识有文化的人，还是会让人觉得很不舒服。终于发现，原来人的可怕不在于知识，而在于德行。关 于德行这种事情，说来很泛泛，最基础的几点——真诚，实在，友善。能做到这几点的，就算是知识和教育受的少，那也是让人舒服的人。反之则非常令人生厌。
我们的两个活宝大叔显然就是那种教育受的不多却很有德行的人。这样的 人心很纯澈，不含杂质。他们一心执着于自己渴望的那些东西，那种生活，于是努力地行动着。这类人在我们日常生活中有点‘傻乎乎’的意味，因为他们太过于 ‘不复杂’，干好收工，次日接着来。他们从事的活计也许会被‘高端’的人看不起，但是他们获得的快乐与轻松却可以藐视大多数所谓‘高端’的人群。‘活的简 单’这四个字，对于许多人来说都是可望不可及的东西。大多数人是因为岁月而错过了这个机会，因为“ 童子智少，少而愈完童子智少，愈少而愈完； 成人智多，愈多而愈散 ”，赤子之心不是任何人都能把持得住，而面对周遭的眼光与整个社会和舆论环境是不是能够坚强与坚持又是一个难题。所以，很多人越活越难，都活成了有智商没 智慧的状态。那种生活真不如我们这两位工友大叔，攒个几年的工资，合作买一栋森林小屋，自己动手丰衣足食地享受一下人生。
我就目前的人生经历看来，我遇到过最可怕的生物，就是一种叫二 逼的东西。我其实很佩服中国人创造词汇的能力，能创造出‘二逼’这个只可意会难以言传的词汇来形容一种让你见到就觉得恶心并且进退两难的人。这种人比脑残 难对付的地方在于他们真的很贱，也诚然有一点点点才华……然后他们就干出很多自以为是的‘恃才傲物’（当然他们不会承认），开始各种强势各种没边没沿地做 了很多很多莫名其妙的愚蠢地，有（自以为是的）智商没智慧地做了很多莫名其妙的事情。二逼的行为丝毫没有逻辑可遁寻。一切来的莫名而临时。这才是最可怕的 地方。你很难从一个二逼的整个行为里分析出个所以然来，最终结论也不过就是——‘他这么做了’。

　　

　　所以，我们可以看到片中那一个二逼到不行的大学生做的一系 列本来可以避免事情。其实，比一个二逼做事更为糟糕的情况是——一个二逼带着一群傻逼做事。这种情况显然是糟天下糕，相当于引爆核弹的效果。所以我们看到 片中各种血腥笑料百出。你在捧腹的时候是不是也感到了一丝无可奈何，顿时遥想到自己那个不怎么成气候的公司里的小领导和他的死忠和跟班……

若我的一生可以选择

　　

　　我会选一所房子，它在森林里

　　

　　破旧不堪，等着我去修复

　　

　　也许还有美女和她的二逼男朋友的到来

　　

　　我自然笑脸相迎

　　

　　我知道那一定很有趣

　　

　　《双宝战恶魔》给我们的启示：

　　

　　1、 最好不要一股脑地就以自己看到的去臆断一些人，因为这种臆断在自己累积经验多了之前必然会是错误的

　　

　　2、 一个脑残团队必然会有一个二逼领导

　　

　　3、 大叔们都有一颗纯良的心（弥天大雾）

　　

　　4、 每一个老实可靠的男（胖）子总会有一个馊主意一堆的（瘦子）基友。

　　

　　5、 很多女孩子不明白老实淳朴憨厚的小胖哥的好处……自己硬要找些没用的帅哥受气

　　

　　6、 所以我们当我们看见美女乐滋滋的挽着个小胖哥的时候我们要首先赞叹这个女孩子挺聪明的

　　

　　7、 永远不要跟二逼解释一个他否定的事实，就算那真的是明摆着的，他也不会相信……反而会喷你一脸

　　

　　8、 （接上条）也不要跟二逼对喷，他会把你拉到和你同等程度并且以经验击败你

　　

　　9、 （大雾）大学生和工友们的矛盾也算是（阶级）矛盾的一种……么？

Dear Daddy,

Hey dad, Happy Chinese New Year! I updated my blog at the same time last year with an article called “Love” in Chinese. But this year, I’m gonna make it English, so my friends who think I have totally disappeared as someone who can share her feelings online get to have a look at it and perhaps will be happy for me.

Thanks for calling me today. That means the world to me, it is even better than a wonderful date, cuz I finally got to “date” my dad after years of zero communication except for “how are u?”, “put on a thick sweater cuz I heard it’s cold in London” or “do you have enough money?” I cried and cried after you started talking to me, and please don’t get me wrong, those are happy tears, cuz what you said just made me feel like I have won a Golden Globe (although I still think George Cloony is cuter than you), the Golden Globe that every daughter on the globe craves for.

Thanks dad, for telling me what you think finally. Thanks for letting me know that all the strict expectations from you came out of the intention that you see me as a tough girl, sometimes too tough to settle down for someone or somewhere, all I do is to run away from home with my suitcase and run around the world like a crazy person and that as a traditional Chinese father, you just perceived the ideal happiness for me would be the same for the rest of the society: rich husband, 8 –figure sports cars, villas with French cookers and German toilets, children and pets running around my knees. The truth is, I ran away from that kind of life and guys, cuz a pair of 3 dollar sneakers get me farther and further than custom-made Jimmy Choo, at least not just for one night. I don’t mind the material life, but I prefer a husband who has got a fancier dick than his bank account. When hearing you saying “hey baby girl, I understand now, I just want you to be happy, thank God we get to talk finally to make me see what really makes you happy, and I am proud of you. Take your time baby girl, see the world, and you’ll find your position someday.” before I storm out shouting “You never talk to me, you never care, you have no right to point fingers at what I do and who I become.”

Life is a long process of self-doubt and self-denial. It took me 24 years to realize that and accept that besides these two, self-acknowledgement is what you gain. Besides all the mistakes, all those who choose to stay there and support you no matter what and those who choose to wait there no matter how far. I travel and stay, I love and hate, because that’s what life is. I am glad that in this society, especially the Chinese society, I manage to be the same person as I was before, and I am more glad that I learn from my mistakes, never regret it, and grow and blossom with less blindness.

Life is so unpredictable. I can die from cervical cancer in one month or a car can run me over tmrw, but thank you so much, for having the gut to communicate to me heartly and letting me eventually get the gut feeling that I am loved all the time. I am so used to deny someone’s love for me and so addicted to beg for love that I cannot have, because I have always believed that I am not good enough a girl to be appreciated and treasured by certain people, thank you so much, for so timely make me face my issues, and have the faith to be ready to let go, and to receive and appreciate the love from the ones who love me with open arms and a happy smile.

When I look through all my blogs, all of them are about seeing the world and becoming a better person. I cannot say I am a better person, but I have surely seem more of the world and am willing to see more. I know now that I can walk my line with the love and support from you and mom, and I promise I will have a brilliant journey because the point of seeing the world is never the world itself, but love, from all over the place.

Xoxo, I love you.

似乎所有人都遗忘了博客。包括我自己。
微博是多么可笑的东西。facebook是多么可笑的东西。我何时那么在意。
天昏地暗地不知道忙碌什么。整个家就是我的信用卡、护照和一个跟我差不多大小的箱子。
便宜的球鞋买了又扔，扔了又买。最后箱子里恒久不变的无非是喜欢的几本书，实用的衣裤裙子，还有比基尼人字拖。
一直在拉肚子，到现在无法入睡。心脏一直扭绞在一起般疼痛，需要吃药控制。回国的两个月来一直生病，吃掉的药可以在小镇上开药店。
查看我四年前在越南旅行时写下的东西。对一切充满欣喜与感激。想要去欧洲。想要去各种地貌看日出日落。想要自由地行走。途中认识的法国男孩一直有联系。成为facebook朋友。看他交各种各样的女朋友变换各种发型玩弄各种乐器。一同旅行的女孩子出落得伶俐大方，男孩子已去了巴西，失去联系。
去到了欧洲，拖着我的箱子穿梭在各种交通工具上，穿梭于各种地貌人情。遇见无数友好亲爱的朋友。逃离无数热烈的爱慕。心中仍觉温暖，只因我独自走过。无所谓叹息，只觉得那样的感伤，如同深夜的风吹过的海面，波涛暗涌又如此平静。
十多天的时间在岛上练习冲浪。全身再次被晒得古铜，头发一直散发海水咸湿的味道，肚子是板子摩擦出来的红色疹子，手臂和腿上是浪打的淤青。膝盖脚趾被磨破或者被上岸时的贝壳割破。
一年前在欧洲开始冲浪的时候觉得那么那么艰难。比斯开湾一年四季不冷不热的海浪在冷风和小雨中当头打来，站不稳从冲浪板上摔个狗吃屎，再由远海被更多更大的浪一个个打得狼狈不堪，在强大水压和冲击力下如同在洗衣机里被洗刷，不知天地在何处，更会被卷到尖锐的礁石上或者邻居尖锐的鳍下，割得皮开肉绽。半天下来已经手脚发软，甚至穿不上衣服。
仍然无可救药地爱上它。需要强大的臂力和应变，从不远处在几秒内估量海浪的大小和威力，要么奋力划过大浪，要么压住板子藏到浪里，要么撑起全身全力阻挡，要么一翻身躲到板子下。等等等等。若犹豫不决或力气不足，便会被浪卷进去，待你终于分清天地，又一个巨浪将你卷走。如此反复。直到水性再好的你也喉头充满咸水，身体瘫软如同面条。若被打翻一次却不抓紧时机在浪小的时候起身爬回冲浪板，便再无机会划出此魔鬼区域，反被接二连三的巨浪一次次打中，冲回岸边，又必须从头再来。冲浪的时候，必须心意一致，若担心身下有鲨鱼来咬掉你一条手臂，那又如何眼观六路耳听八方。
但若心意决绝，用尽全力和观察力划出impact zone， 便是平静的碧海蓝天。合适大小的浪过来，选中一个，再向沙滩奋力在浪尖划水，决绝稳定地起身，扭转身体，控制平衡和方向，感觉山水间尽是清风明月，天上人间。
几年前的我，就该明白，这是自由的代价。
追求你的自由吧。

Men generally complain that their girlfriends change, kinda dramatically when their status switch from “Single” to “in a relationship”.

Women generally agree that their guys are no longer the same when they are officially entitled “boyfriend of xxx”.

Men realize that women become more dependent, attached and needy. They find themselves turned off by those new characters in their women, or even worse, the “new” woman herself. She calls every day, she tests to ask “Hon what are you doing I bought new shoes Emily is bitch” every 2 hours, and she get jealous at whatever woman, even the most stupid and ugly imaginable and possible, in his office, classroom, or social network. They feel sad for themselves that the used-to-be sweetheart by day and slut by night has lost the naughtiness and spiciness totally, and the amount of sweetness has became so unbearably tremendous, just like this tacky but popular “Chinese” dish in the west, sweet&spicy chicken, just without the spiciness, and it tastes like those non-exotic non-special dishes he had all over again. Like the Spanish say they need a “firework” or the Chinese say “too much sweetness is a disaster”. They feel their lust of life, the perfect combination of cute and sexy, the little wild girl who made him all crazy, is gone, for good. There is no trace of that independent, smart and sexy woman who made him believe that no matter how scary it sounds like to have the disease “onegina”. But now she looks unattractive, a bit pathetic, and deadly cheap. Then he escapes from her with lame excuses, and really starts fix his eyes on other single women, for real and a long time this time, and try to find compensation there instead. I don’t know about western guys (Italians and Spanish not included), but for an Asian guy, he would still try to stay in this relationship for old time sake and their so-called sense of responsibility, but keep his eyes open for other wild things which can make his blood pressure go crazy again.

Women find out that, the guy who used to track her down twenty-four seven, who set pleasant surprises which always made her cry, has became a total prick whose head needs to be wacked when he argues that he is cool and she is needy, an absolute jerk without whom she’d eventually live happily ever after. He was this sweet and sexy guy who made her willing to throw away her pride, to limit her independence, to cover her sharp edges and her wildness to flirt around and live freely with thousands of compliments from different guys, she feels sorry for herself, for changing herself for this, she also doubts if it this cheap situation and cheap guy are really worth changing for. She becomes suspicious, oversensitive and crazy. And when a guy sees this opportunity to be good to her, to offer what her boyfriend used to offer, and to fill in the blank which she was used to, she might really cheaply fall for it, like a moth darting into a fire.

The truth is, you are both cheap.

Why would a woman change for someone, like men, in general, who are linear-active in thinking but multi-active in action? He will probably never remember SOME romantic get-away you had, or SOME love letter your wrote to him, or eventually, SOME girl like you in his “SOME girl who was crazy I’m so happy to get rid of her” box SOMEday while having fun with SOME other girls. This is tacky but true, you are who you are. Full-figured, freckles, no boobs, a bit stupid, collect juice boxes, make weird noise when having sex…you name it, every short-coming in others’ eyes can be cute in his eyes, because you are freshly and mysteriously presentable and authentic. Women appreciate changes and the meaning behind them, men only appreciate changes when those changes can solve practical problems, or make them feel good. And when the changes get in his way of whatever reasons, the changes need to be changed, or gotten rid off. But if he felt good and there were no problems before, why bother changing and go through all this shit which makes you appear so cheap? You’ll lose yourself if you think he needs you to change and actually willing to change for someone.

And men, women may be a bit desperate and pathetic when these kind of situations occur, and a wise woman should have anticipated that, but at least think for yourself, because it looks like the only one you can think of is yourself, that you’d make yourself go through the same all over again when in your next relationship, because if you never get off your high horse and see that you might need to change for better, even a little, you’ll never make it.

There is difference between changing for someone and learning to grow, just like a breast cancer removal surgery and a boob job, both painful, but the former is sad and unnecessary, the latter, er, cheap but necessary, especially after the cancer has been removed. The good news is, men may lose their girlfriends, but the girls may lose themselves. Depends on what kind of life you want later people.

Whatever you lose, don’t lose yourself.

Xoxo, be a man!

Cindy: 连你这样的姑娘都心乱如麻了，那别人怎么办。

Anne: 连你这样的姑娘都乱了，我就知道我还没疯。

终于在欧洲学习如何成为一个低调谦卑的人，却和国内繁荣昌盛人人奔小康搬大砖的气息格格不入。

你是想在国内穿金戴银呢，还是想在美国基本小康？

Cindy: 没想明白。

都是不明白自己要什么，所以再不快乐。

你看人家Celine. 年薪十万，有车有房，衣食无忧，工作一年的女人就是不一样，谈吐都要圆滑世故很多。

我们在外面拼命追求，结果也是未知。

而且如果我们在外面自由一段时间，回去可能还是要重头再来。

Anne: 嗯，所以怎么想都很沮丧，我就是这么疯的。

要是再傻一点，或者再聪明一点，所有这些把我们逼疯的视角都成为盲点。

Cindy: 哎，你觉得如果叫你现在回国重新找个人结婚,或者说谈恋爱，你觉得可能吗？

Anne: 我直接找人结婚了，再谈恋爱伤不起。

Cindy:  相亲直接结了？

Anne: 嗯，速战速决。

Cindy: 是啊，谈恋爱这种事情，伤精费神的。

       那你和你的hon是怎么回事？

Anne: 我们timing不好。人要环球旅行拥抱世界，我拥抱不起。我家人一听就疯了。

Cindy: 这真不靠谱。换谁正常人家都会疯。

Cindy: Come on, 我觉得你们可以在一起。不过男的独自旅行，你小心他花xx. 看你愿不愿意忍受。

Anne: 是啊，扯淡了说，人都环游世界去了，我跟鬼在一起。我不要做怨妇剥夺他的梦想，世界遗产存在一天是一天，女朋友嘛，常换常新。我到时候搞完伤筋动骨一百天，待从头收拾旧山河，上《非诚勿扰》。

Cindy: 一起上。。。

Anne: 放屁，你什么时候拿绿卡？

Cindy：绿卡有什么意思，拿绿卡对我来说很简单，可我对单纯的爱情还抱有幻想。

      你都有什么疯的迹象？

Anne: 失眠多梦，身心失调，味同嚼蜡，时空颠倒。我这是慢性自杀，比注射海洛因可怕。

      吸毒起码可以先high再疯。我这是一肚子苦水。

Cindy: 。。。。。。很少看到你为一个男人这样。

Anne: 可能是长大了。出来伤人，是要被人伤的。

Cindy: 是啊，高中时代劈腿劈多了，现在老子居然成了个怨妇，做些查短信的破事儿。那时的爱情不伤身，     吸氧一样简单美好。

Anne：时间啊，你怎么就不爱我们了！

Cindy: 真想学少女时期，跟你马上见面，喝得烂醉，一起痛骂时间。

Anne: 命令你火速飞来！

Cindy: 来了！

 

To be continued…

 

Sometimes we feel a bit alone when facing a grey zone of our lives. This little conversation story is dedicated to the ones who are always standing by our side no matter what. They were there for your fat nightmares and skinny dreams, your bookworm days and drunk sleepover parties， holding your arm for your first high heels and bringing chocolate for your first break up, and they were the ones to answer your phone call at 4am and listen to your weeping and tell you everything is gonna be fine. Time zones and distance may make it harder as we grow up and start to think that we can just strut down the street and conquer the world with a smile, they are still there, on the other end of the world listening to yesterday’s news on your paper, feeling who you are and letting you feel who they are, and always tells you that you are not the only total loser.

Xoxo, to all ma losers.

在复 杂的商业社会，你想创业，不懂经济、不懂商业、不懂人情世故、不懂法律边沿，你只有勇气、只有梦想、只有天真，那么也就只有一场空。这20部电影都是商学 院学生在学习商科时被要求必须看的影片，其中包括哈佛商学院一直首推的《华尔街》，还有沃顿商学院排第一位的《颠倒乾坤》，斯坦福要求商科学生必看的《锅 炉房》。看完之后，你会对商业运行的本质和规则有更深入的了解，对你的职场生涯亦会有不小的帮助。

     

    1.《华尔街》（Wall Street）（1987）

    

    内部交易是违法的，不违法怎么能够发财，关键看如何违法的同时可以掩盖。不看这个影片怎么能够随便进入股市？



    2.《拜金一族》（Glengarry Glenn Ross）（1992）

    
当房地产进入萧条的时候，美国房屋中介的销售顾问都在忙什么？看他们如何利用数据库，如何门到门地将房地产销售出去，如何在萧条期包装房地产，如何瞄准新婚家庭的住房需求。



    3.《颠倒乾坤》（Trading Places）（1983）

    
经济是交易行为的代名词。只要有交易，就需要学会评估交易是否合算，就需要透视交易对方内心的秘密。交易中学到的核心法则，在世界上任何国家只要有交易的地方都适用。



    4.《锅炉房》（Boiler Room）（2000）

    
    难以想象的是违法交易几乎与证券市场形影不离。一个19岁的年轻人如此近距离地目睹财富的操纵过程，让谁富有，那不过是一个随机的选择。



    5.《硅谷传奇》（Pirates of Silicon Valley）（1999）

    
    
    比尔•盖茨与斯蒂夫•乔布斯几乎在所有方面的看法、观点都是对立的，他们只有在一个事情上是共同的，那就是尽一切可能封杀这个影片。硅谷的高科技公司是如 何孵化的？不到25岁的年轻人利用了什么样的市场规则，又是如何让市场规则、让客户、让竞争对手形成一个共同体的？层出不穷的阴谋笼罩在硅谷的上空。



    6.《可口可乐小子》（The Coca—Cola Kid）（1985）

    
    
这是一个男孩用可乐创造一项事业的故事。作为一个碳酸饮料的营销从业员，他不得不回答一个问题，在边远的澳大利亚小镇，为什么没有一瓶可口可乐？营销是生意不可或缺的部分，尤其是在创业中不可缺少。



    7.《发达之路》（The Secret of My Success）（1987）

    
    主要讲述了美国堪萨斯的男孩在纽约飘荡的历程。如果纽约可以代表近100年人类商业活动的中心，那么，任何21世纪的年轻人，都不得不面对大城市的浮华、喧嚣和躁动。



    8.《优势合作》（In Good Company）（2004）

    
    大公司都是通过收购长大的，你会收购吗？知道收购后销售主管是怎么想的吗？知道销售人员背后议论什么吗？联想收购IBM失败的核心因素就是根本没有看懂这个影片。当公司与公司之间发生买卖的时候，作为公司一员的你，位置在哪里？



    9.《巴塞罗那》（Barcelona）（1994）

    
美国人的销售方式真的可以通行全球吗？一个美国销售员在西班牙的销售经历让我们学到销售的价值观，销售对客户文化的处理方式，销售对客户关系的把握。



    10.《甜心先生》（Jerry Maguire）（1996）

    

    做生意要拿出诚意来。show me the money，让我看到钱才是真的，任何生意都如此。生意中没有牢靠的友谊，这是你在创业前必须要牢记的教训。



    11.《上班一条虫》（Office Space）（1999）

    
办公室政治课实战教材。在市场经济环境中当公司遇到危机时，裁员的本质动机，员工对公司的作用的核心意义都是必须要学习的商业社会的基本规则。



    12.《解构企业》（The Corporation）（2003）

    
    18世纪美国法律正式通过了一个企业可以是一个个人的组织行为后，仅仅两个多世纪，美国的这个公司法居然影响了全球，你可以在中国的公司法中也看到类似的 描述。这个冠之以法人的称号横行全球，世界每一个角度都受到影响。个人的贪婪、个人的欲望没有止境地膨胀，本片从最深刻的本质揭示了资本主义商业规则，并 无情地揭示了其存在的弊病。



    13.《惊爆内幕》（The Insider）（1999）

    
商业社会的本质是货币自由交换，只要你情我愿，似乎交换什么都可以。交易中的商业价值，交易中的定价原理，商业信誉在交易中的作用都是这个影片中活生生地展示出来的，商科学生必须要理解金钱统治人类社会的必然结果，以及这种结果具备的不可逆的特性。



    14.《影子大亨》（The Hudsucker Proxy）（1994）

    
    
一部票房不怎么样、但懂商业的人却说好的影片。一个公司的老板自杀了，但其公司还蒸蒸日上，董事会的实权人物开始行动，行动的目的当然是私欲横流。公司治理、企业董事会操作实战等都是这部影片中不可多得的实战教案。



    15.《反垄断》（Antitrust）（2001）

    
一个斯坦福的电脑天才毕业后被科技大亨录用后负责发展全球通信系统，之后他发现原来自己是被用作侦察商业对手以达到垄断市场的目的。此片向微软的垄断幽了一默，讲述了一个有鲜明时代和全球意义的反对金钱和高科技垄断的故事。



    16.《魔鬼营业员》（Rogue Trader）（1998）

    
    1995年，巴林银行，这家全球最古老的银行之一破产了，曾经是英国贵族最为信赖的金融机构，拥有200多年优异的经营历史，却没能逃过破产的结局。令人 震惊的是，这样一个惨痛的结局，却出自于一个普通的证券交易员尼克•李森之手。这部出自真实案例的电影是大家学习银行业务，尤其是投资业务最好的教案。



    17.《抢钱世界》（Other People's Money）（1991）

    

    这也是一部基于美国真实故事改编的影片，从中可以了解商业法、企业兼并、商业诉讼规范、商业流程、兼并重组流程等。美国商业自由市场中到处充满了利己行为与利他行为的冲突和矛盾，也恰好是从这些冲突和矛盾中可以学到不同的动机，以及各种让人眼花缭乱的手段。



    18.《败露》（Disclosure）（1994）

    
    一位踌躇满志的公司高管在一天中，不仅失去了原应属于自己的晋升机会，而且迎来了自己10年前的同居女友担任顶头上司。已有妻儿的他拒绝了女上司与他重温 旧梦的要求，于是，女上司耍出种种手腕在公司中排挤他，甚至诬称他对自己性骚扰。忍无可忍的他诉诸法律，在一位精明女律师的帮助下，与公司及那位霸道的女 上司展开了较量……片中体现的办公室政治、公司群体人际关系行为准则等都是难得的职场教材。



    19.《男人百分百》（What Women Want）（2000）

    
    
一个小小的意外，让主角具备了能够阅读女性头脑的能力，这是一部用巧妙的方式揭示女性所思所想的影片。商业心理学、女性行为学、广告学等都是这部影片中可学习的亮点。



    20.《门口的野蛮人》（Barbarians At The Gate）（1993）

    
    1988年，KKR公司收购雷诺-纳贝斯克公司是华尔街震惊全球的重大金融事件。专业人士事后分析，这桩交易是在合法基础上的骗局。因为KKR公司用的杠 杆收购手法不仅不需要现金，也不需要看见现金，甚至也没有人知道钱从哪里来，整个过程根本就是个圈套。而KKR那些高层，以及交易过程中的那些华尔街人 士，由于表现出了前所未有的贪婪和狡猾的技巧，也被冠以“野蛮人”的称号。

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He said “Your ex was a prick. All your ex were pricks. I’m not a prick. So you and me?”

She said “Hey I’ve got to go. Not a good time to talk about this.”

He said “I know. Go, have adventures, see the world, just come back to me.”

 

 

We have talked about this. And I know it feels like one cold shower after another when you expect something from him but he just ignores it, and eventually decide to go away and explore the world on his own. Because he is a boy, and what he is looking forward to experiencing, you’ve already been there and done that. Let him have his own experience, feel all the happiness and bitterness, get hurt and learn how to face life. Because he said he believes that there will be a point in both your life that you meet again and that you are his dream girl.

I know you said love makes us all blind and stupid, that is so true because we treasure it so much and are getting more and more scared of losing it. But when someone decides that he doesn’t want to stay anymore, you already lost him. You trying to keep it is one thing, and him deciding to stop trying is another. At least you know you have tried and the sorrow haunting you is not for you letting it go, but the fact that it takes not only your effort to keep it flow.

But isn’t that when we realize that we have to grow up? By getting ready to face all the unexpected of life? Anything can happen at any time, and from the moment we decide to take this as an unavoidable part of life, we are so over sorrows and pains, because they help us to become who we are and leads the way towards who we are doomed to become? And isn’t that the only fact we sort of have some control over instead of always trying to know where he is and who he is with?

It is easy to try to comfort a friend than to practice it ourselves. Because no matter how strong we are, there is always a slight piece of doubt, on the one who promises to come back, and even ourselves because no one stops changing. If it is too hard to get and keep, why fight? If you have fought, why feeling sorry? It is not funny and more tiring to be wise rather than being silly, so break up with “the wise lady” and filter it, keep the part which warms you up and makes you feel thankful to being able to wake up in the morning and being motivated to become a better person.

Let the little boy go, have adventures, see the world, and he will come back to you as a proper man. If not, just have your heart torn apart and feel dead inside again and he will probably have someone else tearing his heart apart someday, because that is such a normal part of life.

Xoxo, to all who struggle growing up with your love.

 

读了你的信，这首歌就一直萦绕在我脑海。

 

我们在一起的旅途，总是关于海，还有船。

 

我们从海的两岸，聚到曼谷，一同乘坐船，到达海中央美丽的岛屿。

 

你从海的那一头的德国，不远万里来海这一头的中国看我。深夜到达厦门，带着我的大箱子坐上当晚最后一班去鼓浪屿的渡轮，看着对岸的点点灯光越来越近，稀松的乘客打着哈欠，感觉内心忐忑又激动，眼泪马上涌出般地感动与浪漫。

 

我又从海的这一头，飞到遥远的欧洲。于是我们有了跨越北海的次次飞行和穿越英吉利海峡和法国德国的长途汽车旅行。

 

“我跳上他的船，开始了没有忽高忽低却温暖的精彩。

 

我爱上他的爱，原以为失去拥抱的心终究不能慷慨。”

 

在海港，喝到微醺，已经大话连篇笑到嘴巴咧到耳根脚下不稳，兴奋地脱掉高跟鞋，和他在海边坐下，看过往巨大的轮船雄伟地开过。

 

又飞跃比斯开湾。在葡国海边的小村庄相遇。举着沉重的冲浪板去学冲浪。下午躺在无人的海滩，感到头顶的天那么蓝那么蓝，蓝到要消失在高低不分海天一线的错觉中。开车到海边的悬崖，看惊涛拍岸，感叹世界如此之大，能在此时此地，握紧对方的手，该多么感激天地，和我们的努力。

 

现在有些明白古人说的“十年修得同船渡，百年修得共枕眠。”同渡一艘船，同圆一个心愿，前世需要修上百年的缘分，而今生，遇见了，上了同一艘船，从此岸到彼岸，那就同心协力，目标相同，心意执着。

许久不上微博。看到亲爱的留言，觉得回来，有那么多的人需要看望，有那么多的话需要诉说。

 

许久不联系的人，不见面的人，仍是关注我回国的消息，订阅了我的博客自动更新，总是在我发布博客后极短的时间里，让人惊喜又贴心地发来消息，试探我写博客时的心情，从而开导我，逗我开心，或者亲爱地挪掖我两句。

 

听到那么多遗憾又被遗憾的事情。人都是贱的。不是我的我偏要，不爱我的我偏爱。为什么。要如此掏干心肺般地，去不计后果地争取。为什么。人也是贱的。不要了以后那么怀念。不爱了以后发现深深相爱。

 

不愿等的不必等。无话可说就不必努力争辩。

 

太用力了，以至于到了末尾内心萧瑟。这是贪婪以及缺乏清和中正的缘故。

 

谁陪我骑马打猎，牧牛放羊，星目剑眉，花前月下。

 

Kris在几天前的微博里写道，老年人的爱情我们或许无法感同身受，更多时候还会怀疑年纪大了是否还在爱。但看这部电影的时候却充满了幸福的感觉，也或许爱并不一定与激情息息相关。渐渐懂得，我爷爷十年如一日坚持每天给奶奶洗衣服，生了病怕她累不舍得她到医院陪夜，才是真正打动人心的爱。爱是无尽的漫漫长路，我陪伴你一同走。

 

若没有人陪你一起走，仍可以独自大步流星地，绝不回头地，痛快在雨里奔跑，感到夜里的大风唰唰从身体两旁穿过，将带走身体所有重量般地，自由落体般地，无论内心多么艰难多么委屈，也让你疼痛地、充满感激地，感到生命怒放的美好。

 

寂寞的时候，想有个人说说话的时候，鼠目寸光的时候，有这怒放的生命，还有你们，陪我走这钢索。

 

脚下险恶，放下了，就决不放弃。

 

埋葬完毕的旧躯壳，生发出一片绿意盈盈的森林。你说，继续等。微微打个瞌睡，人生就翻开了新一页。